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This journey has once again reached a point where we have to stop it for the time being, and hence I am going to put an end to this book, though it should not be considered as the end of this journey, as this journey will continue, with the grace of lord Shiva.

As I have already mentioned in the first part of this book that reading this book any number of times alone is not sufficient to bring good results for you, and you have to start applying this book to your life so that you may get rid of some negative habits that you may have and you may start living a life which is better in quality and which offers more for other people too.

Let me also take this opportunity to thank all the readers who have not only given so much love, appreciation and support to the first part of ‘Heaven and Hell Within’, but who have also given me ideas for the second and present part of this book, by supplying me with the habits they want me to write about. All the habits and topics covered in this book have been supplied to me by readers of the first part and hence, I thank them for their support, involvement and suggestions.

Though I have covered many major negative habits in this book, I still could not cover many of them as the length of this book didn’t allow me to do so. Many readers have suggested that I should elaborate each topic more than I did in the first part, so that they may have even more detailed understanding of the topic. Acting on their suggestions, I have taken up fewer topics this time and I have elaborated them much more with the help of many more examples from real life.

I may not have been able to cover some habits and some topics in this book, but this is just a temporary stoppage in the course of this journey and it is not the end of this journey. With the grace and permission of Lord Shiva, I will resume this journey in the coming future and I will see you with more valuable content on many other topics.

Till then, enjoy both parts of ‘Heaven and Hell Within’ and apply them to your life to make your life more beautiful and this earth, a better place to live on.

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On the other hand, if you find that the second person is not making any complaints about anything at all and instead he keeps complementing one thing or the other about this party, like; this snack tastes very good, the DJ is playing very good music, this dessert is so delicious, this venue has enough parking space, the host has really done a great job by organizing and managing a party like this and other such things; this is your man and you should take interest in him. You see, though both these people are attending the same party which has good as well as bad things about it, the first person is picking up more and more bad things about this party whereas the second person is looking at more and more good things which make this party enjoyable.

It means that the first person has a negative attitude towards life in general whereas the second person has a positive attitude towards life, which further means that the first person is only going to bother and trouble you by sending more and more negativity towards you through all his complaints, whereas the second person is likely to send much positivity to you and he is likely to complement you and encourage you whenever you do or want to do something big. The second person has a subconscious habit of speaking well about people and things, as well as encourage and promote good things done by people, and this is why he is worthy of a chance, and not the first person.

Similarly, there are many other types of people who possess many good qualities which are visible from their small day to day activities, and these are the people you should consider for building a relationship. Though you may still get hurt by some of these people who apparently looked good to you but the chances of that happening are not much, and on the other hand, the chances of more and more such people proving worthy of your trust and love are high because they are basically good and positive people. Dealing with such people at the first level or any level of this treatment increases your chances of success and as you already know by now, the more is the number of people who serve you value for your trust in them, the more easily and the faster you are going to get out of this problem of lack of trust. So pay attention to this first phase of initial assessment of people as this is a very important phase of this treatment.

Moving on to the second phase, once a person has passed your initial assessment test and you are positive that you want to continue with this person, start doing the needful from your end to ensure that you are slowly but surely moving towards building a relationship with this person, where such relationship may be of any kind. The most important mantra for better results in this second phase of treatment is to start slow and light, and then keep building little by little from there. You should understand that you are very new at trying to come out of lack of trust in other people and accordingly, you should not start trusting people with very big things in the beginning no matter how good you may find them during your initial assessment of them.

This is because trusting people with very big things right away may not only be too much for you to handle later on as you are not used to trust someone so much, but it can also be a little too much for the other person as they may not be expecting so much from your side in the beginning. Hence if you are in the phase of building a relationship with someone, let’s say you are building a friendship; you should start testing and trusting them slowly and not all at once. For example, telling your new friend about some small flaws in your personality may be a good way to start whereas telling him about some very disturbing flaws or incidents in your life may be a very bad thing to do at this early stage, as your friend may get scared of you and he may decide to move away from you.

Looking at some of the things you can share with or ask your new friend to do for you versus the things you should not share with him or not ask him to do for you at this stage; you can tell him how you love to take your girlfriend abroad for vacations every now and then but you should not tell how your relationship almost broke once when she caught you cheating with some other girl. Similarly, you can introduce your girlfriend to him formally some time but you should not ask him to join you two for a dinner at this stage or even worse, ask him to pick your girlfriend from office and drop her home as you are not able to do so at a given point in time.

Likewise you can ask him to give you a ride home if your car breaks down but you should not ask him to lend you his car for a couple of days, at this stage. In the same way, you can share many of your little secrets with him but you should not share your big, bigger or the biggest ones at this stage; you can ask him to do small favors for you but you should not ask for big ones at this stage; you can trust him with small possessions or secrets that you have but you should not trust him with the big ones at this stage. These guidelines are very important and you should not ignore them as otherwise you may end up getting hurt by your new friend or you may yourself decide to move away from him though he has not done anything wrong to you.

To understand it better, take a look at the recently mentioned examples and try to learn from them. If you tell your new friend how your girlfriend caught you cheating and your relationship almost broke once, you are creating a number of problems for yourself and accordingly you are increasing the chances that this relationship should fail. Since you have told him a big secret or you have trusted him so much, you start worrying later on whether you should have done so or not, and you may get accompanied by a feeling of guilt too because now there is person who doesn’t have a well established relationship with you but who still knows one of your deepest and not so good secrets.

Since you don’t have a habit of trusting people and the relationship is not well established yet, you will start suspecting and worrying that he may share your secret with many other people or he may take some undue advantage. At the same time, the friend may actually share your secret with someone else as he doesn’t attach much value to your friendship at this stage, and the fact that you have shared this secret with him at a very early stage of relationship, may give him an idea that maybe this is not a big secret for you and so he may share it with others. If this happens, this secret travels and it finally comes back to you, the chances are fairly high that you have lost a friend even before making one completely, because you will see it as a breach of your trust and you won’t be able to trust him any longer.

Trust as you know is the key to any relationship, it means once you can’t trust someone, you can’t actually have a healthy relationship with them. Moving on to the next example, asking your new friend to join you and your girlfriend for dinner or pick your girlfriend up from work and drop her home, both are bad ideas and should be avoided at an early stage of relationship. In the first case, during the course of conversation, your girlfriend may intentionally or unintentionally tell him a few things about you, which you don’t want him to know at this stage; your girlfriend may not like this friend much and she may later on discourage you from building a relationship with him; or in the worst case, your friend may start liking your girlfriend more than he likes you and you have created yourself a new problem.

Similarly, in the second case when your friends picks up and drops your girlfriend, the two of them may develop a strong dislike for each other or he may hit on or even try to seduce your girlfriend, and in both the cases, you are the one who is left with more problems to deal with. You problems become even worse, if this person knows some of your big secrets at this time because if you choose not to pursue a relationship with him under pressure from your girlfriend, in case she strongly dislikes him; you may be afraid that he may reveal your secrets to other people or even use them against you. On the other hand, if your friend hits on your girlfriend or tries to seduce her, this is not as much of his fault as it is yours. This is because of a very deep and very valuable secret of human psychology, which I’m going to share with you through the coming lines.

Leave apart bad people, even a big percentage of good people also choose between two people or two things based on the net value of those two people or things for them, which means they are likely to end up choosing the one which holds more value, in case they are stuck in a situation where they have to choose one out of the two. Knowing this rule and applying this to your equation, if your friend develops a liking for your girlfriend, your friend is very likely to breach your trust and hit on or try to seduce your girlfriend. This is because your friendship is new and it is not likely to hold much value for him at this time and accordingly, the value of his liking for your girlfriend may be much higher than the value of your friendship, which may make him choose your girlfriend over your friendship.

Hence when you consider this whole equation practically, his fault is not much as he simply chose a more valuable proposal and he didn’t have any serious commitments towards you since the friendship is new. Coming to you, it is certainly your fault to present such a temptation to your friend at this early stage of your relationship when you could have easily avoided this accident, had you waited for the right time and not moved too fast.

What I mean to say is that had you given enough time to your relationship with your friend and had you done the above mentioned things after establishing a strong relationship with your friend, he may not have hit on your girlfriend, tried to seduce her or do any other such thing. This is due to the reason that now he values your friendship much more than a beautiful girl and in this case, even if your girlfriend herself gives him green signals, he is not likely to engage because he simply doesn’t want to lose a friend like you over such a small thing, which doesn’t hold much value for him at this stage. Hence move slowly and wisely, and build your relationships slowly and wisely.

If you abide by the guidelines mentioned by me, the chances are high that you will be able to get rid of your problem of lack of trust without as much difficulty as you think. So start meeting new people, make initial assessments, start building relationships and do all of this slowly and wisely.

With these lines, this chapter as well as this section of the book has come to an end. Understand and follow this section with all your heart and mind, so that you are able to make the most of this second part of Heaven and Hell Within, just like you made the most of the first part.

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Next category, if you find that a person is behaving very well with the people who are either superior to him in some way or who may benefit him in some way, whereas he is behaving badly with the people who are junior to him or inferior to him in some way, he is not the one you should consider building a relationship with. This is because this person is selfish and he is even worse than the ones who don’t behave well with all the people as the second type of people have a permanent way of behaving with people irrespective of whether they are superior to them or inferior to them. Hence they may not be very good to interact with at first, but they are honest as they don’t hide their true nature or behavior to please someone in order to get some benefits from them.

On the other hand, this person in question is selfish because even though he wants to behave badly with people as and when he has the luxury of doing so, he goes against his nature, he makes himself uncomfortable and he forcefully behaves very well in order to gain something from someone in authority. This dual behavior is what makes him selfish and untrustworthy because in most cases, he is only going to behave well with people if he needs something from them and otherwise, he is going to behave badly with them. This person is very likely to hurt you sooner than later and hence you should avoid this person also.

Considering one more category, if you observe that a person is speaking about himself, himself and himself most of the time, and he seems to be exaggerating most of his stories about himself, leave him alone and move on to the next category. This is due to the reason that this person is too much obsessed with himself and accordingly, he doesn’t have much space for any other person to fit in his heart, including you, because his heart is already full of him and he is still finding more space to fit in the rest of himself. It is very good to love yourself but it is very bad to love yourself so much that you become oblivious to all other people around you as well as to their needs. This person is not likely to serve much value to a relationship as he is still in the early stage of growth where he can’t see and experience anything or anyone but him.

Then there are people you will find complaining about one thing or the other, most of the time. As you already know by now, they are not the ones for you and you should skip them too. These people suffer from negative attitude and almost nothing can satisfy or please them for long, which means that they are going to trouble you with a great number of complaints about many people, things and even about you. You will rarely receive any complements or appreciation from these people and instead you will receive more and more negative feedback and complaints from these people. Such people also have a strong tendency to discourage you from engaging in most things you want to give a try. So stay away from these people also as they are too much to handle for you, at this early stage of treating your habit of lack of trust.

Similarly, there are many other types of people who are not even worthy of being given a first chance and you should avoid these people by failing them in initial assessment test. Doing so will reduce the chances of getting involved with the worst type of people and accordingly, you are less likely to get hurt by more and more people. You should learn and remember this fact that at the first level of treatment for this negative habit of lack of trust, your trust in most people is already very low and the last thing you want to do is to get hurt by more and more people as that will drive you away from the whole concept of treatment. So invest due time and effort in the first phase and make a wise initial assessment of people you want to continue with, as that will reduce your chances of getting hurt and increase your chances of building relationships with good people, considerably.

On the other hand, there are people who are definitely worthy of being given a chance and who are likely to prove good or very good assets for life, if you are able to build a relationship of trust with them. Just like I mentioned some types of people worthy of being failed during the initial assessment test, I’m going to mention some types of people who should certainly be given a chance as the good qualities they initially exhibit are sufficient to make them worthy of being valuable for you.

At any type of happy gathering, if you come across a person who is surrounded by many people or friends most of the time, provided he is not a celebrity, a very rich person or other such person who attracts people by virtue of something material he possess and not by virtue of his qualities, this may be the person you are looking for. This is due to the reason that in most cases, only those type of people are surrounded by many people, who have proven themselves an asset for most of their friends and due to this reason, their friends are very happy to have them in their lives and they don’t want to miss any chance of being next to them.

If this person is in a group of five or ten people and you don’t know who out of these ten people, is the one you are looking for, here are a few things which will help. You can observe that among this group of ten people, there is a person who is the center of attention of most other people in the group, which means that most other people look at this person while saying something, this person may do more talking than the others and when he speaks, most people in the group listen carefully and react very positively to whatever he speaks. Moving on, if the average distance of one person from the other in this group is one foot, you will observe that the two people sitting or standing immediately next to this person are maintaining a distance of less or much less than one foot.

This happens because our subconscious mind will encourage us to get as close as we can get to a person who we really like and respect. It means that the people sitting or standing next to him like him a lot and if someone is already being liked a lot by some other people, he must have some very good qualities as it is not possible otherwise, in most cases. Now observe if the scene changes and this group or a part of this group scatters. Some members of this group may scatter in ones or twos but this person is still accompanied by at least one or more than one person. If you further observe that more people who are not a part of this group, are coming to greet and meet this person and they greet him with a real smile of happiness on their faces, you don’t need more proofs and this person is definitely worth giving a chance as a good number of people will not pay attention or respect to a person at a gathering, if this person doesn’t have some very good qualities.

Moving on to the next category, if you find that a person is not only attending with great care to the people who are senior to him in one way or the other, but he is also giving respect to and he is behaving well with the people who are inferior or junior to him in one way or the other, this person certainly deserves a chance. A person who can respect all people and behave well with all of them irrespective of whether these people are above him or below him in some manner, is certainly a good person and he is not a selfish person also.

This is because if a person can respect those people and behave well with them, who are not likely to benefit him much and who on the other hand, may be looking for some benefits through him like his help or approval on certain issues; is definitely a good person. When you know that you are not going to witness much material benefit from a person and instead you may have to help him out every now and then, and you can still respect that person and behave well with him, you are certainly not a selfish person and on the contrary, you are a kind and good person.

In today’s world, people who are not likely to give you much and who are instead likely to expect you to help them as and when they need it, are seen as liabilities and not as assets; and in this day and age where most people are profit and loss oriented, if you can respect the people who are not likely to profit you in any way, you are certainly a kind and good person. So if you come across such a person, do give him a chance as he may prove a very valuable asset for a lifetime because if a person can respect and help people who are not able to serve him much value, imagine how far he’d be willing to go for a person he really likes and loves.

In the next category, if you come across a person who rarely complains about most things, situations and people, and instead he speaks well about things, situations and people, most of the time; he is the one you should consider giving a chance. For example, if you meet two people at a party and during the course of conversation; if the first person tells you how the lighting is not done properly, how a food item is not duly cooked or overcooked, how a drink is not as hot or as cold as it should be, how the party venue is too small or too big for a gathering like this and other such things like that; you don’t want to give this person a chance because he is all about complaining and that’s not what you want at this stage.

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This is due to the reason that when you compete with people who are below you, you don’t bother much about improving yourself, sharpening yourself and training more because you already know that even if you don’t do any extra effort or training, you are still going to win. Though you have won too, but it is not a win in real sense because you have not gained anything at all as your performance remains that same and it may have even downgraded as you didn’t bother to train and increase it. On the other hand, when you decide to complete with the people who are better than you, such completion pushes you to the edges, you start working hard, training hard and you start focusing more and more on this completion because you know that in order to outdo these people, you have to become better than you are and there is no other way around.

Hence you give it your best and though you may outdo some of these people or you may still not be able to perform better than any of them after all your hard work and best effort, you have certainly gained a lot because all that hard work and training has improved your abilities and though they may still not match the abilities of most people better than you, it doesn’t matter at all. For example, let’s consider that you have a specific ability which is 50 out of 100 in that specific field, and you decide to participate in a competition in the same field, where all other competitors are having a skill level of 70 or more.

As you prepare for this competition and as you know that all other competitors have a skill level of 70 or more and in order to outdo any one of them, you have to improve your skill level from 50 to 71 at least, you start working hard to improve your skill level so that you may reach a skill level of 71 or more, before this competition starts. Let’s assume that in the worst case, you are only able to reach a skill level of 60 and you are not able to outdo any one of your competitors who have skill levels of 70 or higher, and so you appear a loser to many people as you have finished last.

But look deeply and you will find that before you prepared for this competition, your skill level was 50 whereas at the end of this competition, your skill level is 60, which means you have increased your skill by 20 percent. Hence you are not a loser because you have improved a skill considerably and you have gained a lot. It should be noted that we are talking about the worst case and it could be the case that you may raise your skill level to 75 and you may outdo some of the competitors though you may still not finish first as the person finishing first may have a skill level of 90 or higher.

Even in this case, you don’t have to bother about what number you finish at because you have raised your skill level from 50 to 75 which is an increase in skill by 50 percent. Hence in this case also, you have not lost anything and in fact you have gained a lot. If you keep engaging in such practices, you will be able to increase any of your specific skills with time and you don’t have to bother about your success relative to other people’s success because that doesn’t matters much. All that matters is that you are improving and you are not a loser as long as you are improving and gaining, but you are an achiever and a winner.

You will be a loser only if you decide to let the opportunity pass by in which case, you have not gained anything at all and your skill level remains the same, which is 50 in this example. In this case, an opportunity comes your way, your skill level is 50 when this opportunity approaches you and your skill level is still 50 when this opportunity passes you by. Hence you have not gained anything at all and you have lost a valuable opportunity, which certainly makes you a loser. So don’t be afraid of trying anything whether it is competing with someone, competing with yourself or trusting other people because you will only end up gaining in the long run and that is what matters the most.

Hence start meeting new people, start assessing which ones can be trusted initially and then give them their due chances, and you will find that even though you may still get hurt by some of the people you trust, you will also gain some very good people who can prove an asset for life and who you could not have gained, had you not engaged in this practice of trusting people. Don’t bother about the few people who looked worthy of being trusted to you, you trusted them accordingly but they hurt you, as all this is a part of the process. Remember that just like you will always find the roses accompanied by thorns, lotuses accompanied by mud and many other things and products accompanied by waste things and products; you will almost always find good people hidden among a mixture of many other types of people including bad people.

Just like you select the roses and reject the thorns; just like you select the lotus and reject the mud; just like you select good tomatoes or apples and reject the bad ones; just like you select the edible part of a banana and reject the peel; just like you select the websites you like and reject the ones you don’t, after searching through hundreds of websites on internet; just like you select your favorite shows and reject the others after watching many different shows; just like you select the tasty food items and reject the bad ones at a party; just like you select the job offers which are good for you and reject the ones which don’t suit you; you have to learn to select good people and reject the bad ones, and the only way of doing that is to test a variety of people and then find the ones who are assets for you.

You do the same in most other spheres of your life and you will have to do it if you need more friends, more relationships and more happiness in your life. Just like you can’t decide whether you like a food item or not, without tasting it, you can’t decide whether a person is worthy of your trust or not, without testing him. Moving on, just like you don’t stop tasting more food items until you find the ones you like, even if you don’t like the first three or five food items you taste at a party; you simply should not stop meeting, testing and trusting more and more people because that is the only way you are going to grow as a person and as a soul.

The more you open yourself to people, the more you share, the more you gain, the more you expand, the more you learn, the more you experience and accordingly the more you grow, on all levels. On the other hand, the more you shut yourself off and the more you stay away from people; the more you move away from life, the more you contract instead of expanding, the fewer opportunities you get to share, gain, learn and experience, and accordingly, the less you grow, on all levels. Hence you have to start meeting, testing and trusting people, as you simply can’t choose not to grow, because the ultimate goal of the journey of every soul is to grow more and more. Therefore you have to recognize this goal sooner than later and you have to start working towards achieving this goal.

As in case of all other negative habits, there are some helpful tips when you start treating your problem of lack of trust by meeting, testing and trusting more and more people; and these tips can help you get rid of this problem in an easier and faster manner. There are two important phases of establishing a relationship with most people and you should learn to do good in both these phases. After meeting new people, the first important phase is to assess them initially and see if they are worthy of a chance or not, to start with.

The term ‘assess them initially’ means that you should not start trusting most people you meet in order to find the ones who are good for you, after being inspired by my writing. You should have some initial criteria in place, which can help you decide which people are worthy of being given a chance and which of them are not even worth considering. It means that you should move to the second phase of trying to develop a relation if and only if you find that the other person initially looks good to you.

For example, sometimes you meet some people who start making you feel uncomfortable or even annoy you a lot, within the very first ten minute of you meeting them. These people are not worthy of being given a chance as your initial equation with them is very bad and it will be very difficult for you to build a good relationship with them at the first level of this treatment, even if some of them have some real good habits. This is due to the reason that just like the treatment for other negative habits, you should start only with those people you feel comfortable with and you should avoid those people you don’t feel comfortable with as these people are too difficult for you to handle at this first level of treatment. So avoid them.

Moving on to the next category of people, you may come across some people who while talking to you for the very first time, start talking so much about other people and especially about their hidden secrets and in doing so, they may reveal some secrets of some of their already established friends also. For example, such a person while interacting with you for the very first or second time may tell you how one of his friends who is standing at a distance from you two, suffered from a broken marriage after his wife got to know about his extramarital affair.

Back off immediately as this person is not worthy of being trusted because a person who is selling a friend out merely to make an interesting conversation in order to have some fun, is surely going to do the same or even worse to you. No matter how well this person may be doing financially, no matter how many other good qualities or assets he may have, he is certainly not worthy of being trusted and that is all you need to know at this stage. If you are lured by some other good looking qualities of this person and you decide to start building a relationship with this person, you are only going to regret in future because he will sell you out every now and then.

Moving on, when you are assessing someone initially, ask them intentionally about some of their friends and observe. If this person speaks ill about many of his friends, you know that he is not a good person. This is because a good person will always speak well about his friends and he will cover all their flaws while speaking about them to someone else, especially to the people he is meeting for the first or second time. They are his friends whom he has himself chosen and with whom he has shared many good as well as bad times and if he can’t speak well about most of them, the chances are fairly high that there is nothing wrong with his friends and the problem lies with him. So avoid him too.

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So don’t worry much about who hurts you or how many people hurt you, don’t take it too personally and move on to the next person after leaving this person behind. To experiment, select, reject and then move on to keep doing more experiments in order select more and more things and people of your choice, is the basic mantra of life and you simply can’t ignore this rule if you wish to have a life, worthy of being called a life. So keep meeting and trusting people who initially seem to be worthy of being trusted, keep the ones who honor your trust, get rid of the ones who are not worthy of your trust and then keep moving on with your life by meeting, trusting, testing, selecting and rejecting more and more people.

If you are still not motivated enough, do a small but valuable experiment. Mix any type of edible whole grains say whole wheat with many other items which are not edible and some of which may be just garbage like very small pieces of iron, plastic and other such things. Make this mixture in such a ratio that the grains are only one tenth of the mixture and rest of the ninety percent is made by non-edible items. Now throw this mixture over a place where birds may access this mixture. Soon you will observe that though the mixture is full of non-edible items some of which may be potentially harmful for the birds if eaten, the birds are still coming in great numbers, they are carefully selecting the whole wheat grains from the mixture and they are eating them, whereas they are leaving all the junk items put in the mixture.

This process will keep going and soon you will find that the birds have searched for and eaten all of the whole wheat grains whereas they have rejected everything else which is ninety percent of your mixture. Some of these birds may try a few other items also, which may be new for them, like a very small piece of plastic which resembles something edible; but they come to know soon after trying it that it is not good for them and they leave it. So the birds come, choose and eat ten percent of useful items whereas they leave ninety percent of the mixture after finding that it is useless for them.

Now repeat this experiment and reduce the percentage of whole wheat grains in the mixture, say make them five percent this time. The birds will once again do the same, eat five percent of whole grains and reject the rest ninety-five percent mixture. Even if you make a mixture with only one percent whole wheat grains and ninety-nine percent non-edible or even harmful items, the birds are smart enough to select one percent whole grains and reject ninety-nine percent of non-edible items or so to say the items which are worth nothing for them.

You can do this experiment with many other species by mixing small quantities of what they like, with large quantities of what they don’t want at all, and you will see that each time the result is the same. These species will pick up what they like and they will reject what they don’t want. The most valuable lesson to learn is that though you may keep mixing one percent useful things with ninety-nine percent useless things and keep offering such mixture to any species again and again, say to the birds; each time you offer a new mixture of one percent useful and ninety-nine percent useless items, the birds will truly and happily welcome you instead of cursing you.

What I mean to say and convey is that you are giving the birds a very difficult task by mixing majority of useless items with a small percentage of useful items and you are doing it again and again, so they should curse you for making their job so difficult each time. But they will not do so and on the other hand, you will find that they become happier each time you spread a new mixture having majority of useless things and a small percentage of useful things. The birds are welcoming you again and again because they know this most valuable fact that an opportunity is always better than no opportunity, no matter how hard that opportunity may be.

Compare this situation with the one where you don’t offer the birds anything at all and you will realize that even though the first situation is difficult to handle for them, it still serves them value and rewards them for the efforts done by them whereas in the second situation, they get nothing at all. So the first situation presents opportunity and rewards no matter how difficult they may be whereas the second situation gives them no opportunity, no rewards and nothing at all. Though you save the birds a lot of trouble in the second situation by not making them select a small percentage of mixture with great difficulty, they still don’t like this situation as there are no rewards for them. On the other hand, they welcome you every time you bring a new challenge for them because no matter how hard this challenge may be for them, they know for sure that they are going to get rewarded in the end, and that is what matters the most.

Hence the birds will not curse you for giving them an opportunity which comes with only one percent chance of success and ninety-nine percent chances of failure or no gain, but they will welcome you and thank you for giving them this opportunity because they know that even one percent chance of success is much better than no chance which happens if they don’t have anything to do, try or select from. You see, even the smallest of the species of nature have learnt this most valuable lesson of life by heart, and humans are probably the only ones, most of whom are either not aware of this most valuable lesson of life or they don’t want to learn it even after knowing its importance and value.

So learn to experiment, do new things, meet new people, trust more people, get rewarded and get hurt too, because this is how life is meant to be. If you have to pick up one out of the two choices where the first one is die sitting on shore being scared of going into the ocean and the second one is die drowning in the ocean, never go for the first choice and always pick the second one. This is because if you choose to die sitting on the shore, you will die achieving nothing or even attempting nothing whereas if you choose to go to the ocean, explore it as much as you can and then die drowning, you have given yourself a lot. You have attempted new things, you have achieved new things, you have continuously engaged in karmas and you will die the death of a fighter and that of an achiever instead of dying the death of a scared or fearful person who has done nothing special with his life and he dies a loser.

Speaking of a loser, though there may be some conflicting opinions about the definition of loser, but the real loser is obviously not the one who tries something with all his heart, soul and ability, but fails to achieve his target; instead the real loser is the one who doesn’t try at all. For example, if an athlete finishes at fourth position in a race, he is not a loser because he may have finished after a few people but he is still better than most other people. This means that though three people are better than him when it comes to running, he has continuously trained himself and he has achieved a position where most people in the world can’t compete with him when it comes to running.

An effort that makes a person better than most other people in a particular sphere, though he may still lag behind a few people, doesn’t make him a loser and it certainly makes him an achiever, a winner and more than that, a fighter. A loser is the one who doesn’t gain anything and that is only possible in one condition which is not to try at all. Even if a person finishes last in a race, he is still an achiever and not a loser because he is trying to achieve something and he is giving it his best, instead of not trying at all, due to fear of finishing last or anything else.

The person finishing last may not have achieved anything in some people’s opinion, but it is only a misconception and he has actually achieved a lot. In order to compete in this race, he has taken the initiative, he has trained himself to run better and better, and he has given it his best at the race. So he has improved his performance a lot over a period of time and though he is still not as good as 20 other people who finish before him, he is better than many other people who can’t beat him now and who can’t even think of competing with him now. Hence he has achieved less than 20 other people but he has still achieved a lot and accordingly, he is not a loser.

A loser is the one who could have given it a try but who didn’t do so and he let go of this opportunity. Losing a contest, a target, a person or anything else for that matter doesn’t make you a loser, but losing a real opportunity certainly makes you a loser. When it comes to losing an opportunity, you don’t lose it if you are not able to get the maximum it has to offer like finishing first in a race, you lose it partly when you try it and don’t give it your best and you lose it completely when you don’t try it at all and that is what makes you a loser.

Real success and real achievements don’t lie in getting the most an opportunity can offer, but they lie in giving it your best, even though you may only be able to achieve the minimum it has to offer. You may have achieved the minimum but you are far better than the ones who didn’t try at all, because in order to give it your best, you have to bring out the best in you and though the opportunity comes and goes with whatever results, the best in you that you have found, still stays with you. It means you are more capable now and you can perform better, the next time an opportunity comes to you. So you are certainly a winner and not a loser, unlike the one who doesn’t try at all and accordingly he stands no chance of gaining anything and finding the best in him and that makes him a loser.

When it comes to specific abilities or talents, there are always many people in the world who are better or much better than you in those spheres and you will certainly lose the competition if you choose to compete with them. But that doesn’t make you a loser because real winning or losing is not when you can or can’t perform better than a few people, it is whether you can or can’t do the needful to improve yourself and give it your best, every time an opportunity comes your way. You’ll be surprised to know that you actually gain much more when you compete with people better than you compared to when you compete with people not as good as you, in a specific sphere of life.

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Lack of Trust 02

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All this is happening to you, and while you keep thinking that a perfect defense mechanism is in place which is protecting you from getting hurt, the same defense mechanism is in fact the culprit of driving more and more people away from you. The more you keep away from trusting most people around you, the more uncomfortable you make them, the sooner they move away from you and the more certain you are that you were right in keeping yourself away from them and not trusting them, since they were bound to leave you in between, at one point of time or the other. Once your problem of lack of trust has reached this stage, there is no easy recovery from here and this problem is only going to intensify with time as you keep lacking trust in people, they keep moving away from you due to his lack of trust, and you keep reassuring yourself that you were right in not trusting them.

The only way out of this problem at this stage is to start doing specifically guided conscious efforts to start reducing the strength of this problem. Before discussing the specifically designed small but conscious and effective acts which can help you get rid of this problem, let’s first try to understand the kind of losses you are taking when not trusting people versus the kind of losses you may take if you choose to trust people.

If you trust people, it is very likely that some of them may hurt you every now and then, like they may have done in the past. On the other hand, if you choose not to trust people, you are very likely to be saved from getting hurt by people; but not only you end up hurting many people by not trusting them even when they are trustworthy, but you also start suffering more and more from this problem of lack of trust. It means that you stop trusting most people around you, you shut yourself off, and as a result, you keep yourself away from the company of many good people who may bring many good or even very good results for you, if you just give them the kind of trust they need.

Let’s assume that every one or two out of ten persons you trust will hurt you, six to seven among these ten will neither hurt you much nor benefit you much and just one out of these people will prove valuable asset for you, by building a strong positive relationship with you and by being there for you through thick and thin. Knowing this, let’s now discuss the profits and losses offered by trusting people as well as by not trusting people.

When you choose not to trust people, you are certainly saved from getting hurt in most cases, but you are also not able to have that one extra person in your life, which comes to you every now and then through hit and trial in case you choose to trust people. It means if you keep trusting people, even though you may keep getting hurt by two new people out of ten new people you trust, you also keep adding one new person out of these ten new people, where this person is a real asset for you and he stands by you through everything. Hence you have avoided two people who can hurt you and you have also avoided one person who can prove a real asset for you, by choosing not to trust most people.

Knowing this much, let’s assess the nature of profits and losses taken by you so that we may have a better idea of your net profits and losses. If you are getting hurt by two out of ten new and seemingly good people you meet and trust, you are taking two one-time losses because once these people really hurt you, you get to know their true nature and you can choose not to trust them any longer, which most people getting hurt by someone do. So you have suffered two one-time losses while going through an experiment where you decide to trust more and more seemingly good people after seeing certain good qualities in them.

On the other hand, the profit that you have booked by trusting these ten new people and gaining one really trustworthy and valuable person through this experiment, is not a one-time profit because you have added an asset to your net equation and this asset is forever. It means that this person is going to stand by you, serve value to you, benefit you and do many other good things to you, not only for a single time, but thousands of time in your entire life. Hence you have taken two losses from this experiment whereas you have taken thousands of profits from this experiment. On the contrary, if you choose not to trust people, you have saved yourself from two losses but at the same time, you have lost thousands of profits also by not trusting a very valuable and potential friend for the future.

So you see, the losses avoided are nothing compared to the profits lost if you choose not to trust most people around you whereas the losses suffered are nothing compared to the profits booked if you choose to trust seemingly good people around you. But even this is not all and there is much more to the equation. By not trusting people, you are not only losing out on thousands of profits but you are also giving yourself a permanent habit of lack of trust which is not going to leave you for the rest of your life as well as for the coming lives too, since it is a habit of the subconscious mind and all habits of the subconscious mind go to the next lives also, as already mentioned in the first part of this book.

Hence the losses taken by you while trusting people, are one-time losses which come and go whereas the habit of not trusting most people around you, is a permanent habit which not only keeps you away from hundreds of profits in this life, but it also keeps doing so in many of your coming lives too, until in one of your future lives, you start doing the needful to get rid of this negative habit of lack of trust. So merely in order to avoid some occasional one-time losses which may come your way, you are choosing to stay away from, hundreds of benefits, a good and permanent habit of trusting people and enjoying more and more; and you are inflicting yourself with a permanent curse in the form of this negative habit of lack of trust.

Doesn’t that look like too big a price to pay, just in order to save you from some occasional losses? Well, it certainly is a very big price to pay and therefore you should choose not to curse yourself with this habit of lack of trust, at such a small cost. It is an interesting fact that when you go to a vegetable market, you see all types of good and bad vegetables and you choose the ones you like whereas you leave the ones you don’t like. Even though there are many bad vegetables too in the market, you don’t stop going to the market and you find a suitable solution for you by choosing the good ones and ignoring the bad ones.

Similarly, you go to an apparel showroom, you select the ones you find good and you reject the ones you don’t find good. Though there may be some items which are far below your standard, you still keep visiting the showroom, ignore those substandard items and instead choose the ones according to your standards. Taking it even one step further, if for any reason, a showroom owner cheats you by giving you defective items for high prices and then refuses to return those items, and he instead makes a number of excuses to justify his items and put the blame on you, you will at the most stop visiting that showroom but you will not stop shopping for clothes or stop all types of shopping altogether.

Doing the same, you switch to another mobile service providing company if your current service provider keeps troubling you and they don’t stop giving you hard times. Now look into most other spheres of your life and you will find that you experiment with a variety of options, things and people; you keep moving away from the ones that hurt you or the ones you don’t like and you keep selecting and living with the ones that serve you good value and prove assets for you. All of us do these things because we all understand that leaving a practice altogether merely because a couple of experiments have hurt you, is not a wise choice as you can’t live happily like this and you will have to keep moving on from bad things and bad people, to the good things and good people.

This is the basic mantra for a happy life and you can’t ignore it because if you keep staying away from one practice after the other after a couple of experiments have gone bad; like deciding not to buy or use vegetables, clothes, mobile services, internet services, vehicles and many other such things merely because you have got hurt by them at times; you are only going to end up living away from more and more things of necessity, with each passing day. It means you are going to live away from the life itself because when you are keeping yourself away from your fair share of anything which is necessary for a happy life and as the number of these things keeps increasing, your life is going farther and farther away from you.

Almost everyone understands this fact and accordingly, almost everyone keeps experimenting with one thing after the other in various sphere of his life until he finds the thing which suits him. So we experiment will all necessary things, we reject the ones we don’t like and we embrace the ones we like but we don’t stop anywhere and we keep moving on with these experiments. But when it comes to trusting people and building relationships, why do many of us forget this basic but one of the most essential rules of living a happy life or even living a life worthy of being called a life; that just because some people have hurt us, we simply can’t disengage from the whole practice of trusting anyone at all.

It simply doesn’t work this way and this is the time all of us should understand it for once and for all that just like we keep selecting the good things and we keep rejecting the bad things in various spheres of our lives, but we never stop experimenting and we keep moving; we have to learn to leave the ones who breach our trust and hurt us, and embrace the ones who honor our trust and enrich our lives. The most important lesson to learn is to have a spirit of moving on with our life on all levels and a spirit of engaging in more and more experiments, no matter how many failed experiments may come our way.

You simply don’t stop eating tomatoes just because a few rotten tomatoes have come to you hiding among the good ones; you simply don’t stop wearing shoes just because one pair of shoes has torn apart within a week after you bought them; you simply don’t stop using mobile services just because a mobile company has robbed a good amount of money from you; you simply don’t choose to stay fallen just because you have fallen third time in the last ten minutes; then why don’t you learn that you simply can’t stop trusting more people just because a few people have breached your trust and hurt you.

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Lack of Trust 01

Heaven and Hell Within Part 02

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Lack of trust in most people, things and situations around you is one negative habit which is increasing at a rapid rate and as a result, more and more people are falling preys to this negative habit. Many people think that it has become very difficult to trust most people around them in this day and age, because most people will breach their trust and betray them in the end. Accordingly, these people choose a safer way to operate, which is not to trust most people they meet or interact with and sometimes, not to trust even the people who are very close to them.

There are no doubts that not trusting most people around you and taking a very cautious and suspicious approach most of the time, can save you from being cheated and being hurt in most cases, but such an attitude is not free to enjoy and it comes at a cost, like all other things in this world. On the one hand, this practice may protect you from being cheated or hurt many times but on the other hand, it can keep you away from many such beautiful people and situations which could have changed your life and made it so much more beautiful, had you practiced trust with those people or in those situations, instead of practicing your usual lack of trust.

Most people suffering from this negative habit of lack of trust have a firm belief that this world has become a scary place and most people are not worthy of being trusted. This belief of theirs is not baseless and these people can tell you many of their life experiences when they trusted people and they ended up getting cheated or hurt. As this happened time and time again with them, they started getting more and more scared of people and accordingly, the decided not to trust most people around them as they feared they would end up getting heart like before.

This problem starts when a person trusts someone and gets cheated or hurt in return for the very first time, as the other person breaches his trust and hurts him. This person, through this experience of being hurt, sends a signal to his subconscious mind that trusting other people can result in a loss and caution should be taken before trusting someone. Since this is the first message, it does not make much difference as the subconscious mind doesn’t take it seriously, though this message has marked the beginning of a probable new script which is going to be written on the subconscious mind.

As this person trusts someone again and as he gets hurt again, one more message of ‘be careful while trusting someone’ is sent to his subconscious mind and this time this message is taken more seriously by the subconscious mind though this message also doesn’t make a big difference. This process keeps going as this person keeps getting hurt every now and then after trusting someone and he keeps sending more messages of ‘be careful while trusting someone’. As more and more such messages of ‘don’t trust anyone easily’ are sent to the subconscious mind, a stage comes when these messages become strong enough to write a new script on the subconscious mind, a script which says ‘don’t trust anyone easily’, and a script which has initiated a problem of lack of trust in this person.

Though this new script has been written but even at this stage, the problem is not as bad as it can get because this script is still new and it reads ‘don’t trust easily’. As this state of affair continues, this person starts trusting fewer and fewer people and if it happens that even some more people out of the few people he trusts, hurt him, this person sends more signals to his subconscious mind and with increasing number of such acts of being hurt, these signals change from ‘don’t’ trust easily’ to ‘don’t trust at all’. This is when this problem has reached the maximum level and this is when this person starts suffering from lack of trust with a very high intensity.

As a result, he stops trusting most people around him even though they may be the close ones, and instead, he starts doubting most people around him as he is constantly afraid that most other people may hurt him if he trusts them and accordingly he doesn’t trust them and he starts doubting them. All this is happening because his subconscious mind is sending him the vibes of ‘don’t trust’ in the form of various types of fears due to which this person is not able to trust most people around him as these voices are constantly scaring him against trusting anyone.

Hence this person stops trusting almost anyone and this is where various types of problems start bothering him. This person starts suffering in the spheres of profession, relationships and all other important spheres of his life because in order to make the most in any sphere of your life, you have to trust other people, you have to give them responsibilities, you have to believe in them as well as believe in what they are saying or conveying to you because without doing so, almost none of your relationships whether professional or personal, are going to work in the best possible way.

As you are not capable of handing over important jobs or responsibilities to people and then trust them with these responsibilities, as you are not capable of believing in most of what these people are telling you and as you keep doubting most of what these people are telling you or trying to do for you, most people around you notice your lack of trust towards them and they start feeling uncomfortable. Though many of these people may try to win your trust by giving you some time to assess them fairly while your relationship with them is still new, but most of them start reconsidering the whole point of their relationship with you, when you keep lacking trust in them and you keep doubting them, even after a fairly long period of time has passed.

This may be your defense mechanism which protects you from getting hurt by other people, but this defense mechanism has reached a stage where it is hurting more and more people in order to protect you from being hurt. So the problem has not been treated or cured but it has only reversed the donors and recipients, which means that earlier you trusted people and some of those people hurt you whereas now you are hurting more and more people by not giving them a fair amount of trust, even when they deserve it. Hence instead of getting hurt by people, you have started hurting them due to this negative habit of lack of trust that you have developed and which is getting stronger and stronger with each passing day and moment.

When this habit of lack of trust reaches very high levels, the people suffering from this habit start exhibiting obvious lack of trust even in their small day to day jobs. For example, these people are likely to; check a glass or cup filled with some drink, and make sure if the glass or cup is not dirty from any place; hesitate a lot in having any drink or some other eatable offered by someone else if this item is new for them and they don’t know much about it; feel uncomfortable or respond negatively if someone requests them for using their cell phone, laptop or some other personal gadget for a short period of time on account of some urgent call to be made or some urgent work to be done by this person; not pay attention to someone’s advice even when such advice is good and it can benefit them; and ignore the request of help if it is made by someone, like if someone is standing on the road side and he is asking for a lift, these people will almost never stop and offer such lift.

Looking at more examples, these people are likely to; read more and more such material and watch more and more such movies and TV shows where someone gets seriously hurt after trusting the people around them; not share most of their intimate feelings and experiences even with the closest people in their circle; not accept a new friend request on a social networking portal like Facebook, even if the person is from the same gender and already has a good number of mutual friends; have a limited or very limited number of friends on social networking portals as well as in real life; not share their food with someone else or eat from someone else’s food like many people eating from the same plate; neither wear someone else’s clothes or shoes nor offer their own clothes and shoes if someone else wishes to use them; feel uncomfortable when one of their friends meets another one of their friends and they both wish to meet and know each other more often; and do many other such things which exhibit their habit of lack of trust in almost everyone and everything, on a subconscious level.

Though I can quote dozen more such examples, I guess the point I want to convey has been conveyed already, and you have understood how you can identify if you are suffering from this habit of lack of trust in most other people. As you keep practicing this habit in your day to day life even without your conscious knowledge; though you have developed and you practice this habit only as a defense mechanism, it starts hurting other people and most people around you start feeling insulted by the fact that you don’t trust them enough and you keep yourself closely guarded from them, even after a long period of time.

As a result, most of these people start moving away from you under one pretence or the other and most of them will tell you the exact reason why they are doing so. This is because some of them themselves don’t know the exact reason of your lack of trust in them and all they know is that you make them feel uncomfortable from time to time, whereas some other people do know the exact reason of you suffering from a problem of lack of trust, but they don’t want to throw it in your face. Since in both the cases, you don’t get to know the reason why most people around you are moving away from you, it makes you think again and again that these people were in fact not worthy of being trusted as they have moved away from you without any valid reason.

You may even think that some of these people actually wanted to get something out of you and when they were not able to do so, as you kept yourself guarded closely, they moved away from you. Such thoughts reassure you that you are right in not trusting most people as they are exhibiting behaviors which are not worthy of being trusted. These reassurances send even stronger signals of ‘don’t’ trust’ to your subconscious mind and as a result, you start keeping yourself away from most people, with even more strength. Hence a vicious circle has started as you are losing more and more people due to your habit of lack of trust in them and each one of such losses is further intensifying your problem of lack of trust.

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Being Too Greedy 02

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Looking at some other real life scenarios where a person can suffer big losses through this habit of being too greedy; relationships are also affected adversely when a person is too greedy. A person, who is too greedy, generally doesn’t want to give any of his possessions away even to his close relations. This is because the script of greed written on his subconscious mind encourages and helps him whenever he wishes to add something more to his collection whereas the same script opposes him and resists him when he tries to give away some of his possessions.

Since he has written a script of snatching more and more from people, on his subconscious mind, his subconscious mind feels uncomfortable when he tries to give away some of his possessions because giving away is the exact opposite of snatching or gathering, and the subconscious mind is not comfortable with executing the exact opposite actions. Hence his subconscious mind puts resistance whenever he tries to give away some of his possessions and as a result, this person is not able to give away or share much with most people. As a rule, the bigger is the possession in question, the more is the resistance put by subconscious mind and accordingly, the more difficult it is for him to do so successfully.

Hence this person develops a tendency of not giving away much, though he may have big amounts of money and possessions. Due to this reason, most people don’t feel comfortable in his company as they are often not rewarded as much for their good work done for this person, as they should be. If this person can afford to give away a lot and he still choose not to do so, this adds insult to injury as he is well capable of rewarding other people but he is still not doing so. Such a person may not be comfortable spending much money even on his wife and son, as he has a habit of collecting more and more for himself and he doesn’t have a habit of giving away, which is the opposite habit.

For this reason and due to such conduct of this person, even his close relatives like wife and son, don’t respect him much or value him much and they keep complaining about his habit of saving too much and spending too little. The wife of such a person may not be happy in his company and his children may turn rebels because he doesn’t give them their due share and they feel being deprived of what they duly deserve, most of the time. Such experiences happening repeatedly over a long period of time spoil the relationships and ultimately, such a person doesn’t have many people who love him or respect him and all this happens merely due to his habit of being too greedy.

Hence if you have this habit, you should start working hard to get rid of it as this habit is not only capable of bringing very bad results to you in this life, but it has the potential of spoiling many of your future lives also, as you may gain enough bad karmas through this habit, to spoil some of your future lives too. So let’s now look into some specific conscious activities which can help you get rid of this negative habit of being too greedy, so that you may not collect more bad karmas through this habit and you may stop suffering on various fronts of your life, due to this habit.

When it comes to finding some specific conscious activities which can help you get rid of this habit, it is fairly simple and all you have to do is to start doing the exact opposite of snatching, stealing, collecting and saving more and more. It means that you have to start engaging in small conscious acts of giving away, letting go and kindness, as these acts will start sending messages of kindness and giving away more, to your subconscious mind. As more and more of these messages reach your subconscious mind, the script of being too greedy will start getting weaker because you are now requesting your subconscious mind to help you do the exact opposite of greed and as you already know through the first part of this book, two opposite habits can’t stay together in your subconscious mind and one has to go.

As more and more such messages reach your subconscious mind and through these messages, you request your subconscious mind again and again, that you now wish to release some of your possessions and you want to engage in acts of kindness, thereby making more and more people happy; your subconscious mind starts understanding this new script and accordingly, it starts helping you out whenever you wish to engage in such acts of giving away. At the same time, your subconscious mind will start discouraging you whenever you wish to engage in more and more acts of greed and collect more and more for you, since the new script now is to give away more and not to collect more.

However, it should be noted that it may take you a long time to reach this stage as your subconscious mind will first put resistance when you try to break this habit of being too greedy by giving away your possessions. Your subconscious mind does so because it is being governed by a script written on it, the script which tells it to collect more and more which means release or give away less and less, and so it puts resistance when you try to give away. This is where conscious small acts of giving away can come to your rescue as they are the only ones which can help you erase this script of being too greedy and replace it with a script of being able to give away.

Care should be taken that in the beginning, you should only engage in small conscious acts of giving some of your possessions away and then only you should build up from there. The basic rule applies here which says, the bigger is an act that you try to do against the script written on your subconscious mind, the more is the resistance put by your subconscious mind. Similarly, the smaller is an act you try to do against the script written your subconscious mind, the smaller is the resistance put by your subconscious mind. Hence you have to find your way of treating your problem of being too greedy by obeying this rule and by working according to this rule, as you simply can’t succeed if you try to break this rule.

When you try to do any conscious act which is against the script written on your subconscious mind, your subconscious mind tries to stop you from doing this act and in doing so, it puts resistance which tries to stop you from doing and completing this act. This resistance may be in form of inner voices of fear, confusion and many other types of resistances. So while you are trying to complete this act which is against the script written on your subconscious mind, there are two forces working in the opposite directions, at the same time. The first one of these forces is the force of your subconscious mind which tries to stop you whereas the second force is the force of your conscious mind which tries to fight the first force, win over it and complete your task.

Hence your conscious and subconscious mind are up against each other and each one of them is trying to win over the other. When it comes to a clash between your conscious mind and subconscious mind, you should learn that your conscious mind is no match for your subconscious mind, in most cases. Accordingly, your conscious mind doesn’t stand a chance of winning over your subconscious mind, if both of them are using their full abilities because the abilities and powers of your subconscious mind are far greater than those of your conscious mind. Hence your conscious mind can’t win over your subconscious mind when both of them compete with their full strengths, and therefore you have to find some other way of making your conscious mind win over your subconscious mind.

The trick you can use to make your conscious mind win over your subconscious mind is to make use of the fact that though your subconscious mind is far more powerful than your conscious mind, you can make it not use all that power against your conscious mind and instead use only a small fraction of that power. This way, your conscious mind is using all its power whereas your subconscious mind is using only a small fraction of its power and this is how you can make your conscious mind win over your subconscious mind. The way you can play this trick on your subconscious mind is by engaging in small conscious acts in the beginning instead of attempting big tasks because according to the rule, your subconscious mind will decide how much power to use, only depending on how strongly opposite is the task, against its script.

In the present case, the strength of opposition of your conscious tasks against the script written on your subconscious mind is decided by how big an amount of possession, you are trying to give away. It means that the bigger is a possession you are trying to give away, the more strongly it is against the script written on your subconscious mind and accordingly, the more power your subconscious mind will use to stop your conscious mind from doing so. On the other hand, the smaller is the possession you are trying to give away, the less strongly it is against the script written on your subconscious mind and accordingly, the less power your subconscious mind will use to stop your conscious mind from doing so.

Hence you should attempt small tasks of giving away in the beginning because by doing so, your conscious mind will face weak resistance from your subconscious mind and accordingly, your conscious mind will be able to win over this resistance, in most cases. Every time you complete one such small task, you send a message to your subconscious mind that you are now willing to give away some of your possessions. As you complete more and more such conscious small acts of giving away, you send more and more signals to your subconscious mind that you wish to give away. These signals request your subconscious mind to help you whenever you wish to give away some of your possessions.

At this stage, your subconscious mind has a script of ‘don’t give away’ written on it and at the same time, it is receiving new requests of ‘help me give away’. Due to these requests and the script being opposite in nature, your subconscious mind is not clearly able to decide whether to put resistance or to support you when you try to give away some of your possessions. Though your subconscious mind is confused at this stage but it still bends towards the script as the script is much older and much stronger than the new requests sent by you. As a result, it still tries to stop you from engaging in acts of giveaway, but with even less strength now because your requests of ‘give away’ are counteracting a part of the resistance generated by the script of ‘don’t give away’.

This is the time when you start feeling that in order to complete small acts of give away, you don’t have to put in the same amount of conscious effort, as you needed to put in some time ago. This is because, the strength of resistance posed by your subconscious mind has decreased and accordingly, your conscious mind needs to use less strength to win over this weakened resistance. When it starts happening, you should understand that you have completed the first level of treatment successfully and you are ready to move on to the next level because your conscious mind still has unused strength and you can make good use of this unused strength.

Hence you can start raising the amount of money or possessions that you are giving away, though this raise should not be too much too soon and it should only be a reasonable increase from what you were giving away previously. For example, if you have big amounts of money and you started with donating 5 dollars every day, once you start feeling comfortable with this amount, raise this amount to 10 dollars instead of raising it to 50 dollars every day or a weekly donation of 300 hundred dollars, even though you have millions and you can afford to donate thousands. This is once again due to the fact that if you raise the donations too high too soon, it will trigger such a high amount of resistance from your subconscious mind, which your conscious mind may not be able to overcome, even after using its entire strength.

As a result, you start feeling more and more uncomfortable on account of various reasons sent to you by your subconscious mind, as you try to do more and more such donations with amounts which are fairly bigger compared to your previous donations, though you may still be able to complete your first couple of such donations. Accordingly, your chances of disengaging from the entire treatment itself become higher and higher and ultimately, you may quit this whole treatment, surrendering to the resistance given by various reasons and inner voices, sent to you by your subconscious mind.

Hence increase the resistance gradually and wisely so that your conscious mind may be able to win over the new resistance posed by your subconscious mind and you may complete your tasks successfully, one after the other. Whenever you increase the amount of giveaways, wait for the time until you start feeling comfortable with the new amount and then you are ready to move on to the next level, which should be more difficult but not too difficult to trigger an amount of resistance from your subconscious mind, which can’t be won over by your conscious mind. Hence increase the level of difficulty gradually and wisely at each level of this treatment.

As you keep doing so and as you keep completing more and more tasks of giving away with increased difficulty, you keep sending more and more messages of ‘I want to give away’ to your subconscious mind. As it keeps happening, a time comes when the old script of ‘don’t give away’ written on your subconscious mind is erased and the new script of ‘give away’ is written instead. This is when you have got rid of your problem of being too greedy because greed means collecting more and more for yourself and the opposite of greed means giving away or sharing many of your possessions. Hence when you have mastered the art of giving away, you have also mastered the art of staying away from being too greedy.

Though I have mentioned to start donating money on daily basis but it is not the only activity that you can engage in and you can instead choose from a wide variety of other activities which require you to engage in acts of small giveaways. For example, you can start by donating your old or unusable clothes, shoes, DVDs, CDs, books and a wide variety of other such things which you don’t use much now. The catch here is once again that instead of giving away many things in one go, keep donating them in small installments as doing so will give you two benefits. The first one of these benefits is that smaller giveaways are more likely to be completed successfully and the second benefit is that the more is the number of such conscious giveaways completed by you, the more is the number of messages sent by you to your subconscious mind and accordingly, the more easily and the faster you will be able to get rid of your problem of being too greedy.

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Though greed is not a good virtue to have even when it comes in low quantities, it is certainly one of the worst types of negative traits that you may have when it comes to you in high quantities. Greed alone is partly or fully responsible for giving birth to many other negative habits and high amounts of greed can make you engage in more and more bad karmas thereby adding more and more negative energy to your aura, only to be punished more and more, later on.

Just like many other problems and negative habits of the subconscious mind, greed though initiates through a series of conscious acts of greed practiced by a person, it can soon become a subconscious habit which means that the person suffering from it doesn’t have to do any special efforts to be greedy and he starts acting greedy on natural basis. Once a person becomes too greedy on natural basis or so to say, once a person develops a subconscious habit of being too greedy, various types of troubles and problems start coming to him since greed can invite many negative habits on its own.

Greed initiates when a person engages in a small act of greed for the first time though such an act may have been practiced more out of need than out of greed. For example, when a person snatches someone else’s food or money for the first time as he is in great need of such food or money, he sends a signal to his subconscious mind that snatching other people’s possessions is fine as it can fulfill your needs. A new type of message which is a message of greed, has been sent to the subconscious mind by this person, by engaging in this act of greed, though this one message alone is not sufficient to write a script of greed on the subconscious mind.

Soon after the first incident, this person once again snatches, steals or wrongfully acquires what belongs to someone else and by doing so, he once again sends a message to his subconscious mind that getting the things you need is important and how you get them is not important. A second message to the same effect has been sent to the subconscious mind and this time this message is taken more seriously, though even this second message is also not sufficient to write a script on the subconscious mind. As this person keeps engaging in such acts of wrongfully acquiring what belongs to other people, he keeps sending more and more signals of greed to his subconscious mind and finally a time comes when an entire script of being too greedy is written on his subconscious mind and this is when this negative habit is born.

Many of you may have seen movies where a character tells some other character that once upon a time, he was a poor and needy person or child, he didn’t have sufficient resources to make his ends meet and no one was willing to help him out. Hence one day, out of sheer need, he decided to steal or snatch something that belonged to someone else so that he may satisfy his needs. This act fulfilled his needs on temporary basis and once a period of time passed, he started having needs once again. Since nothing else was working for him and since this act of snatching or stealing had already worked for him, he decided to try it again and so he stole or snatched again.

As the needs kept appearing from time to time and as he kept fulfilling them through snatching or stealing again and again because he found no other effective method of fulfilling his needs, he ultimately found himself in a habit of snatching or stealing and he kept engaging in these practices even when he didn’t need to do so any longer. Now that this character has more money and resources than he needs, he is still snatching or stealing and in fact he is engaging in these activities only, most of the time. It all started from need but now greed has taken place of need and now this character is not engaging in such immoral acts because of need but because he has developed a negative habit of being too greedy.

The same thing happens in real life too and in fact what we see in movies is nothing but a reflection of what is happening in real life, in most cases. This person snatches or steals for the first time, because of need and then he does it second time also for the same reason. As he keeps doing this again and again, he keeps sending more and more messages to his subconscious mind that snatching or stealing is fine and there is nothing wrong with it. As more and more such messages reach his subconscious mind, they write a script of being greedy and getting anything through any means. So it all started with need but soon it developed into a habit of greed and this person could not know when his sense of need was replaced by a strong sense of greed.

As being too greedy has now become a habit, this person keeps looking for acquiring more and more through any available means, even though he has gathered much more than he may need in order to meet his day to day needs, for his entire life. As he keeps engaging in more and more immoral acts of greed, he keeps becoming greedier, as with each act of greed practiced by him, he sends a message to his subconscious mind that he wants more, irrespective of how much he already has. As more and more such messages keep reaching his subconscious mind, it keeps encouraging him more and more to snatch or steal what other people have because the subconscious mind wants him to have more and more, as originally wished by him through his conscious acts of showing more and more greed.

This is when this problem has touched its high as it has now become almost impossible to satisfy the greed of this person because no matter how much he keeps getting and gathering, he still wants to get more and in fact, the more he gets, the more he wants. This is due to the reason that each one of his acts of getting more and more, intensifies his problem of being too greedy by sending even more messages of greed and wish for achieving even more, to his subconscious mind. Accordingly his subconscious mind starts encouraging him more to gain and gather even more. This person has now fallen into a vicious circle because his habit of being too greedy wants him to get more and as he gets more, this habit intensifies even more because he has sent more messages of greed to his subconscious mind.

This is the reason why you see that some corrupt politicians and some other people having a position of advantage or authority of some kind, keep engaging in more and more acts of corruption in order to gather more and more money and assets. An average person often wonders why these people are doing the worst type of things in order to gain more money when they already have huge amounts of money with them, the money which they can’t spend in their entire lives, the money a big part of which is lying in some anonymous bank in some foreign country, and the money, most of which will never be used by these people and it will become waste after their deaths. So why are these people engaging in more and more bad karmas and adding more and more negative energy to their auras when they have almost no chance of enjoying the pleasures which can be enjoyed through this new money, since they already have much more money than they may need for their entire lives.

Now you know the reason which is the fact that, as these people keep engaging in more and more acts of corruption in order to gain more and more money, they keep sending more messages of greed and ‘I need more’ to their subconscious minds and these messages intensify their problem of being too greedy because their subconscious minds now encourage them even more to gain more money through such acts of corruption. Hence these people have fallen into a vicious circle due to which, the more money they keep gaining through such immoral acts of corruption, the more greed and the more want for money they have. They have become the travelers of a never ending journey and the only thing that can stop them now, is their engagement in a series of conscious acts which can first weaken and then erase this script of greed written on their subconscious minds.

As this greed keeps increasing, it starts creating and intensifying many other negative habits too. A person with unhealthy amounts of greed is prone to have many other negative habits like being too selfish since greed promotes selfishness; being overambitious since greed promotes immoral ambitions; feeling dissatisfied more and more since greed can never be satisfied and on the contrary, the more you feed it, the stronger it becomes; engaging in acts of corruption, other immoral or illegal acts, engaging in company of bad people since greed intensifies all of these problems too; and many other negative habits. As more and more of these negative habits start coming to a person, he starts engaging in more and more bad karmas and accordingly, he sets himself for big punishments in future, which come as a result of such bad karmas.

All the richest criminals in the world and all other people engaging in more and more acts of corruption or crime, why do they all keep doing more and more bad karmas when they have already achieved more money and resources they may ever need throughout their lives? The answer is nothing else but greed, greed and more greed. As these people keep engaging in more and more acts of greed, they keep becoming greedier and accordingly it becomes more and more difficult for them to disengage themselves from such criminal activities. Hence they never stop as they simply can’t. Finally a day comes when each one of them is subjected to punishment for the bad karmas they have been doing for a long period of time.

But even at this stage, most of them will not realize the wrongs done by them and if some of them do realize that they have done wrong things and they should stop doing so, after their punishment is over, this feeling is temporary and they are going to engage in more acts of greed once their punishment is over, in most such cases. This is due to the reason that even though some of them have realized the wrongs done by them and they wish to disengage from doing more bad karmas, the strong script of greed written on their subconscious minds has not been erased and as long as this strong script of greed is present on their subconscious minds, they have almost no chance of disengaging from such bad karmas. Hence they have to first find a way to get rid of this excessive greed and only then they can be able to move away from a life of crime.

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Moving on with other specific activities, start engaging in more and more such activities which are small but at the same time, which are capable of giving you happiness and satisfaction. In order to do so, recollect all the small things which you used to like a lot, or which you still like a lot and start engaging in them more and more. For example, start listening to or watching your favorite songs more and more, start playing your favorite computer games or video games more and more, start going to gym if you like it, start swimming if you like it, start watching comedy movies or TV programs, start visiting and meeting all your friends and relatives you like the most, start going out more to eat some of your favorite foods at places which are not expensive, start eating more potato chips, chocolates, ice creams and other such favorite items, and start doing all other such things which you like and enjoy doing and which don’t need much money or resources to be done and enjoyed.

As you keep doing these activities more and more, a sense of responsibility and conscience will start coming to you, through the first set of practices as you watch, hear or read more and more good and moral stuff instead of engaging in more and more luring stuff. The second set of small activities will help you enjoy more often and feel satisfied more often, and as more and more such messages of enjoying and feeling satisfied are sent to your subconscious mind through these small but specifically targeted conscious activities, your subconscious mind starts helping you stay away from being overambitious and engage in immoral or criminal thoughts and practices.

This is because the primary reason for you being overambitious is that you want to feel happy and satisfied by achieving all those top class things that you wish for, and you think that happiness is possible only when you achieve those things. In thinking so and in doing so, you subconsciously start keeping yourself away from all such small activities which can give you small amounts of happiness every now and then, and all this happiness combined together can actually match or even surpass the level of your dream happiness which you will get only when you achieve all those big things. You should understand that this negative habit of being overambitious keeps you further and further away from happiness because it makes you have a perception that you will feel happy only when you achieve those big things and due to this perception, you stop working towards getting happiness from small but valuable activities.

As you start engaging in such small activities more and more, and as you start gaining more and more happiness through these activities, the pressure for being happy and feeling satisfied is lifted to great extent. Whatever big you wish to achieve, whatever big you want to experience, the final purpose of all those things and targets is to feel happy. Since you are not able to achieve those big things and you are also staying away from small amounts of happiness coming through small activities, it means that you are not getting much happiness in your life. That is what is making you complain too much, making you feel frustrated and putting more pressure on you to achieve those big things at any cost and by any means, as everyone wants to be happy and the more you lack happiness, the more desperate you can become, to do anything to get the most needed happiness for yourself.

Hence when you keep yourself away from all those small amounts of happiness and you are not able to achieve those big targets either, for a long period of time, lack of happiness starts building inside you and it keeps making you more and more desperate and once this desperation reaches a certain level, it makes you complain too much, feel dissatisfied with most things and people and engage in criminal or other immoral activities so that you may get the most needed happiness. On the other hand, when you start getting small amounts of happiness from many conscious and specifically designed activities on daily basis, all this happiness keeps adding up and it starts taking care of your need for being happy, and so the need for taking desperate measures goes down.

Though you may not know why, but as you start getting more and more happiness through these small activities, you will start feeling that the urge for doing anything good or bad to achieve what you want is getting weaker and weaker as you keep getting more and more happiness. The reason for this is that the ultimate and subconscious goal behind achieving all those big things was to be happy. So happiness is the final goal whether you know it or not, and as you keep getting more and more happiness, you start meeting your goal and this is when you start getting a feeling that you don’t need to take desperate measures in order to feel happy.

This feeling comes to you because each time you feel happy through these small but conscious activities, you send signals of happiness to your subconscious mind and your subconscious mind starts understanding a number of activities through which you can feel happy, as and when you want to do so. With more and more repeated signals of happiness gained through these specific conscious activities, a strong script is written on your subconscious mind and it then starts working according to that script and this is when you start changing from within and here is how.

The next time you feel the need to be happy and you try to reach out for your big achievements but you can’t, your subconscious mind starts suggesting you many small activities through which you can gain small amounts of happiness and it motivates you to engage in them. For example, whenever you start feeling low thinking about how far away you are from your big goals, your subconscious mind may inspire to watch a good movie, eat the foods you like and many other activities. As you engage in these activities, they give you happiness and satisfaction and accordingly the pressure on your mind to work desperately in order to achieve your goals is reduced. This is because the final aim of achieving those targets is nothing else but satisfaction and happiness and when you are already getting satisfaction and happiness, you don’t lack them any longer and you stop being desperate for big successes.

The beauty of your subconscious mind is that while you feel like going to your favorite eating joints, watching a good movie or doing other things like them, you consciously don’t feel that your subconscious mind is sending all this inspiration to you and you think that you have a mood for doing some of these activities. You are right about this mood thing but you should know that this mood is triggered by your subconscious mind and nothing else. You are in need of happiness, you have registered many activities which can give you happiness, with your subconscious mind and accordingly, your subconscious mind inspires you to engage in some of those activities so that you may feel happy. You see, your subconscious mind can even bless you with good moods also and all you have to do in order to get all this, is to train your subconscious mind to help you out, as and when you need such help.

Along with the first two types of activities, you have to simultaneously engage in a variety of third type of activities also as they will also help reduce this problem of being overambitious, from a different angle. In order to engage in these activities, start visiting or meeting more and more such people who have one type of physical disability or the other and start spending some time with them even if it is five minutes a day. When you start doing this, you will start finding out that there are many people in the world, who don’t even have one tenth of good things that you have and many of these people are happy even then. A feeling of gratitude towards god and destiny starts coming to your mind and you start to think that you are blessed to have a healthy body and you are able to enjoy much more than many other people are.

Every time you engage in one such activity and every time such thoughts come to your mind, they send signals to your subconscious mind that your life is not all that bad and you are already much better than many other people in this world. As these messages of gratitude and being better than many other people are conveyed to your subconscious mind again and again, your subconscious mind registers them and starts acting according to a new script. The next time when you tend to have those overambitious thoughts and you start getting restless by thinking that you have not achieved anything till now, your subconscious mind starts sending inner voices to you where such voices say that you are already much better and happier than many other people in this world and even your current achievements are much bigger than those of many other people. As these voices inspire you, you start feeling relaxed because you know that you are better than many other people in this world and you are not a loser.

You should understand that one big reason for you being overambitious is that you keep comparing yourself to people much higher and much more successful than you, which makes you sad and desperate because you are the one with least number of achievements, in such comparisons. Hence you wish to compete with them and reach the level of success they have achieved, though such level may be too high and irrational to be achieved by you through fair practices, in a short period of time. So you start feeling like a loser and you start preparing yourself for taking desperate measures so that you are not the one to finish last in this race between you and these very well established people, you are comparing yourself to.

So all you have to do is to start running in a different race every now and then, where this race is the one where you always finish first and all other people running with you are left behind or far behind. When this happens, you start getting a feeling which is the exact opposite of the feeling you get when you compare yourself to people much higher than you. The first type of feeling was a feeling of being a loser and that of being the one who has been blessed the least in a particular group of people whereas the second type of feeling is the feeling of being a winner and that of being a person who has been blessed the most in a particular group of people.

You see, the solution is very simple, if you can’t finish first in a specific group of people and you don’t think you can either do so in a short period of time, it is the time to change the group and start playing in the group where you can always finish first and where you are the biggest achiever. Your achievements have not changed at all, but merely by changing who you compare yourself with, you have become a winner instead of being a loser and you have become the most blessed one in a group, instead of being the least blessed one in a group.

Doing so does not kill your ambitions and it only keeps them in check, by making sure that they are rational and you can afford all the time it takes to fulfill them. When you are getting inspired by the lives of right type of people, you are getting small amounts of happiness through various activities every now and then, and you are comparing yourself to the people much below you than the ones who are much higher than you, your negative habit of being overambitious starts reducing. This is due to the reason that the combined effect of all these activities heals you on different levels.

The first types of activities stop you from being inspired by wrong type of people and they help you taking your inspiration from right type of people. The second types of activities start supplying you with more happiness and satisfaction so that you don’t lack these essentials and you don’t feel like taking desperate measures. Finally, the third types of activities keep telling you that you are not a loser or the least blessed one and you are much more blessed than many other people in this world. As a result, you will start having the right type of motivation, you will start getting happiness as and when you want it and you will start being more grateful for being blessed much more than many other people.

Accordingly, you will start having more patience to achieve your big targets and you will even start adjusting these targets so that they are relevant and you may achieve them in a decent amount of time. So everything has changed now as you are feeling happy every now and then, you have redefined your goals so that they are rational and they are worthy of being achieved through fair practices, and you have the patience to wait till the time you start achieving your goals one by one. The habit of being overambitious is going now and the habit of being rationally and patiently ambitious, is taking place of this old and negative habit.

Right type and right amount of ambition is a very good and a must have quality for everyone as such ambition helps you define your goals in a rational way and it then motivates you to start working to achieve them. Since your goals are defined and rational now, they are achievable through fair means, you are willing to put in the effort required, you are willing to wait patiently through the time required and you are getting due amount of happiness and satisfaction on regular basis; you are now focused, relaxed, happy and patient and this is the best combination you can have.

You should understand that even if you have an ambition to rise sky high, there is nothing wrong with it and it is fine. It becomes wrong when you are not willing to put in the amount of effort required and more than that, you are not willing to wait patiently through the time required to achieve your goal. Hence you have to avoid irrational or immoral goals, you have to keep working to achieve your goals and you have to wait patiently to achieve your goals because even if you wish to rise sky high, you will rise only step by step in most cases and you are not going to fly to the skies suddenly. Hence don’t be desperate and wait patiently for your dreams to be realized and whenever you reach one more step closer to them, enjoy it, celebrate it and feel happy.

Another point worthy of being mentioned here is that desperation and impatience comes when you keep sacrificing too much for a goal, for a long period of time and you still don’t achieve it. When this happens, you start getting impatient and desperate because you have sacrificed most other things for a goal and even that goal is out of your reach, and this is what puts a lot of pressure on you and you start thinking about taking desperate measures. In order to avoid falling in one such situation, reduce the number of sacrifices you are making for a goal, find and fix ways to get happiness and satisfaction every now and then, and you will start having more patience and being more relaxed. As you are not sacrificing too much for your goals now and you are getting your due share of entertainment and happiness now, life is no longer work and punishment only and life now offers enjoyment and happiness too. This fact makes you grateful, relaxed and patient and when it happens, you are in a much better position to achieve your goals.

Coming back to the activities of the third type, apart from meeting people with disabilities, start meeting other people who are materially much less blessed than you, as that will also create the same effect on your subconscious mind. Meet and interact with more and more poor, deficient and other loss suffering people, and you will start being more and more grateful for what you already have instead of cursing yourself or your fate for what you don’t have. For example, meeting someone poor or very poor will make you feel grateful for how resourceful you are, comparatively. Similarly meeting a person with troubled marriage or broken marriage will make you feel grateful for what a good marriage you have.

The world is full of a variety of different people and whereas there may always be people who are happier or much happier than you in some regards, there will certainly be a great number of those people also who are blessed less or much less in certain specific spheres, as compared to you. So the correct approach doesn’t lie in always looking at better people and feel sad and dissatisfied with what you have, but it lies in looking at people below you and feel satisfied for how blessed you already are, and then looking at the people above you and try to upgrade yourself to one of the upper levels.

Balance is everything in life and a balanced approach always works the best. Looking only at people much higher than you can make you become overambitious and dissatisfied with your life whereas looking only at the people below you, can make you quit all ambition and effort to rise higher since you can start thinking that you are already blessed a lot and you don’t need more blessings. Hence you should look at both type of people; you should have a feeling of gratitude by looking at people less blessed than you whereas you should take inspiration by looking at people blessed more than you.

A final word of advice as you go through the treatment for this problem is that, while you do the needful to get rid of this problem, you should stay away from bad company as indulging in bad company can not only reduce the speed of your recovery, but it can also land you in trouble. This is due to the reason that by virtue of being overambitious, a part of you is already provoking you to engage in unfair practices to fulfill your ambitions and the last thing you want in this case is other people telling you to do the same. Hence you should stay away from bad company as these people will encourage you to engage in bad karmas and you have high chances of falling for their bad advice, since you position is already vulnerable by virtue of being overambitious and desperate. So stay away from bad company, do all the remedies mentioned by me and you will get rid of this problem of being overambitious.

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To be Continued

Lord Shiva Bless You

Himanshu Shangari