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This is due to the reason that all types of profits and losses fall under the domain of your intellect and your heart doesn’t know this language to start with. Your heart operates on the basis of feelings and emotions; and it doesn’t care about profits or losses related to material things. All it cares for are profits or losses related to the feelings it wants to have. Hence it feels like having profit if it achieves a feeling it wants and it feels like suffering loss if it fails to have that feeling. Whatever cost is paid in order to have that feeling is something it doesn’t understand at all.
Moving on, If you look at a food item and the first thing you notice happening inside you is that you should have this food item because it is one of those food items; that only rich, famous or special type of people can afford or eat; this voice is coming from your ego. This is because your ego finds pleasure in copying the behavior of special type of people so that it may also feel special like them. Your heart may not like this food item at all and your intellect may not see any benefit in it; but your ego may still enjoy it a lot as this is the food of special type of people.
However, if you look at a food item and the first thing you notice happening inside you is a strong feeling of liking for this food item, supported by a lot of water in your mouth; this feeling is certainly coming from your heart. Even if this food item is not healthy according to your intellect and even if it is the food of a common man or even that of a poor man according to your ego; your heart doesn’t care about anything and all it wants is to have this food item. Your heart only cares for what it wants, it believes in living in the moment and it doesn’t care about profits or losses which may come later on, through any act it engages in.
This is why emotional type of people can be the biggest gamblers in all spheres of life as they don’t care much about profits or losses. If they want to take risk; the feeling of taking risk is what they love the most which means that the thrill which comes through risk is all their hearts want and they don’t care for what cost they may have to pay for this feeling. An interesting thing to note here is that some people keep losing one gamble after another in their lives but they don’t stop and in fact, they don’t even seem bothered.
An intellectual person may advise one such person that he should not gamble or take such high risks any longer as they bring him losses more often than they bring profits. The intellectual person may also suggest that the gambler should start building a safe approach which means taking the lowest possible risk, in order to avoid setbacks and instability in life. The gambler may not listen to him at all and he may keep doing the same thing.
The intellectual person may think the gambler is a fool, the gambler may also think the same about him. This is because the gambler is an emotionally dominated person, he has developed liking for the thrill that high amount of risk brings with it; and all he cares for is to have this feeling again and again, though even he may not know it consciously. In fact, a majority of people taking big risks in different spheres of life are dominated by heart, ego or conscience and they’re not dominated by intellect.
This happens due to the reason that the intellect is all about calculations and analyses due to which it may almost always advice against such risks because the risk to reward ratio is very high. Hence an intellectual person may consider such risks as blind risks and accordingly, he may avoid them. Your ego may take high risks only in conditions where it strongly gets attached to the rewards and not otherwise. Your conscience may take high risks only in conditions where universal well being or collective well being is at stake and not otherwise.
For example, a person with high ego can risk his life in order to win a medal or recognition whereas a person with high conscience can risk his life without such desires; at times he feels a genuine need to do so. It means a soldier controlled by ego may risk his life in a war primarily in order to win a medal whereas a soldier ruled by conscience may risk his life in a war because engaging in this war is the demand of the situation and for no other reasons. The latter type of soldier doesn’t bother about the medal or even about the result of this war and all he cares for is his karma; which is to fight till the end in this situation.
Hence the soldier with high ego is focused more on rewards and less on the act of war whereas the soldier with high conscience is completely focused on the act of war, which means he’s focused on his duty. Accordingly; the primary desire of the soldier with high ego is to gain recognition or honor through this war, which can make him do selfish things or manipulate facts in a way that they look bigger than they are; so that he may receive honors.
When it comes to your heart, it makes calculations in a different way and the variables used in these calculations are not the numbers and they are the feelings and emotions. Therefore, if your heart encourages you to take one such risk, it is not interested in the net profit or loss you may achieve through such risk and all it cares for is the feeling of thrill that comes with this risk. According to your heart, if this feeling is witnessed, profit is earned whereas the failure to experience this feeling means loss in the language of your heart. This is why there’s always been a strong conflict between the people dominated by intellect and those dominated by heart.
It should be noted that all the rules and laws of different countries or societies have been made by intellectual people so that some type of predictable order may be observed in societies as well as in systems bigger than societies. As the intellect is all about making calculations and drawing probabilities based on those calculations and as it does so under certain defined rules which don’t change in general; it is much more dependable when it comes to achieve stability. This is why intellect is used to draft all the rules and laws because it keeps calling the same thing right which it did a number of years ago. It means your intellect works on the basis of fixed theories and hence it doesn’t deviate much with time, though it may evolve and certain modifications may be applied to those theories.
However, your intellect may seldom suggest something which is very different or even the exact opposite of what it suggested some time back, in relation to the same thing or situation. For instance, it is your intellect which makes you learn and apply this simple rule that two plus two equals four. Once you’ve learnt this rule; it is not likely to change throughout your life and hence; two plus two will always be four for you; as long as your intellect is dealing with this calculation.
Taking another example, it is your intellect which makes you learn and apply this rule that as long as the sun remains effective in the sky, it is day whereas the absence of Sun is night. To simplify, your intellect learns a rule that the presence of sunlight is day and the absence of sunlight means night. Once it learns this rule, it may not change it and it may keep obeying this rule. Accordingly, when the intellect is used to make laws or rules; it sticks to them and it doesn’t change its stand, which is what makes it reliable; and reliability is the first thing needed for any types of laws or rules to sustain in the long run.
The matters of your heart are much different and in fact, they may be the opposite of those of your intellect. When it comes to the domain of your heart, two plus two can equal four at one time; two plus two can equal five at another time, this resultant may be zero at yet another time and it may be anything else at another time. For instance, one person plus one more person is two persons for your intellect but it can still be one person for your heart as it sees them in so much love that they’re not two but one. On the other hand, it may see them as no person as they may hate each other so much that they may end up killing each other.
Though your intellect may consider this result only when it actually happens which means they kill each other in reality; your heart may see it happening the moment it feels that the quantum of hate between these two persons is strong enough to kill them both. If you look at it from a broad prospective; your heart can give you much better and faster decisions than your intellect can, at times. This is because your intellect works on the basis of probabilities and it moves in steps; one after the other. Hence if a process involves ten steps; your intellect considers all of them one by one; before reaching to the conclusion which is obtained after the tenth step or at the tenth step. So it moves from step one to step two, then to step three and it reaches to step ten in this way.
When it comes to your heart; it may directly jump from the first step to the tenth step; not caring for the steps in between. Your intellect may find it absurd as that is not how it should be, because the chances of error are high if you do so. However, a surprising thing is that your heart may be right on more such occasions than it may be wrong; provided it is not corrupted by your ego. These chances further increase a lot if it is boosted by your conscience. If such is the case, your heart may almost always jump from the first step to the last step; even if it is step number 100 or step number 1000; and it’ll almost always be right.
Hence your heart may do things for you in a moment; which your intellect may take years or even lives to achieve; in such cases. This is why you may almost never be able to understand concepts like god or soul through your intellect as you need to go through millions of steps and doing so is almost impossible for your intellect. However, your heart may directly jump from the first step which is you; to the last step which is god; and it may eliminate all the steps in between. For this reason; a number of the things can only be achieved by your heart and not by your intellect. In practical language, these concepts can only be felt or experienced and they can’t be understood.
Since feelings are ruled by heart; you need heart to feel and experience these concepts. For instance, you can’t understand the exact taste of a mango without eating it; no matter how hard you may try, which means no matter how much you may read or hear about its taste. The best way to know how a mango tastes is to taste it; which means to feel it and experience it. Hence you can’t know the exact taste of a mango without experiencing it and the same goes for a number of other things.
Accordingly; you can’t understand your soul, god and the biggest concepts related to existence; no matter how much you read about them or hear about them, which means through your intellect. The only way to know them in sense is to feel and experience them, just like you do in case of mango; and this way comes through your heart and not through your intellect. We’ll discuss this topic in details, later on.
Moving on, your heart doesn’t follow fixed rules like your intellect and it works in a different way. One rule that can define your heart in the best possible way is the rule of feeling. It means whatever your heart feels like doing at any time is the rule for that time. It means your heart is all about the present moment and nothing else.
Hence a person dominated by heart can see day as night or night as day if his heart tells him so. Similarly, a person dominated by heart can kill someone or he may sacrifice his life for someone, if he feels that doing so is the right thing according to the situation, though it may be absolutely wrong according to the intellect. An interesting fact is that if you injure someone under the influence of your intellect, you may never feel bad for it as you do all the calculations before engaging in this act and you only do so when your intellect gives you justified reasons to engage in this act; provided it is not controlled by your ego.
Since your intellect has justified this action first and engaged in it later on; and as your intellect remains fixed in its opinions; there’s no way you may feel bad later on and hence there’re no chances you may feel sorry later on. For instance, when a policeman shoots a criminal in an encounter; he may not feel guilty later on as he knows in advance that shooting this criminal is his duty and hence he’s not doing anything wrong. The moment he leaves for the venue where such encounter is planned; he’s decisive that he’ll shoot the criminal or criminals if needed. Hence it’s an action well planned by his intellect and it may not bring regrets later on.
On the other hand, if you injure someone under the influence of your heart; you do so under impulse and you don’t care for the right or wrong in this act. Your heart feels like doing so and you do it. The confusion may start when after some time or even shortly after doing so; your heart is controlled by another feeling that the other person is suffering a lot and your heart starts giving you vibes of discomfort. Based on your overall personality type, you may ask for forgiveness, you may offer help or you may even injure yourself in order to balance out this act. This is the problem with your heart, it doesn’t stick to fixed rules and it can keep changing them based on how it feels at any particular time. When you use your intellect to analyze this situation; injuring yourself in order to balance out the equation is foolishness.
Taking an example, if you’re an emotionally dominated person, you may even kill someone in the heat of the moment. When you’re captured and presented before a judge who is intellectually dominated; you may confess your crime and you may feel truly sorry for engaging in such crime as you were unable to realize the quantum of such crime while committing it. The judge is intellectual, he looks at the facts; he finds you guilty and he delivers the punishment decided for this crime.
Whether he gives you a life sentence or a capital punishment may not bother him at all later on; as he is doing so after due consideration. Hence you may regret your act of committing a murder as you’re an emotional type; the judge may not regret his act of punishing you as he’s an intellectual type. It should be noted that the judges completely dominated by intellect may deliver justice; completely in accordance with the letter of the law whereas the judges having significantly strong emotional planes may bend their decisions one way or the other.
For instance, if someone kills a loved one of yours and being an emotional type; you kill him also; this is what may happen. The intellectual type of judge may award you punishment which duly justifies this type of crime. Suppose, the minimum punishment for murder is 14 years; the maximum punishment is the capital punishment and your crime seems to deserve 20 years on intellectual merit; then this is what an intellectual type of judge may reward you with. On the other hand, an emotional type of judge may reward you 14 years in this case as he may be biased in your favor because you killed someone who killed a loved one of yours.
It means that deep down; the emotional judge is bent in your favor as he feels you did the right thing by killing the person who killed your loved one or he feels that this act was only partly wrong and not much wrong. Hence he may award you with minimum possible punishment. On the other hand, the intellectual type of judge may not consider this fact in your favor and he may even consider it against you because of the fact that if everyone starts taking revenge on his own; there may be no law and order in the long run. Hence he may consider this fact against you that instead of approaching the law; you decided to punish that person by yourself. Therefore he may not have much mercy on you. Hence an intellectual type of judge may prove bad for you in this case.
On the other hand, if you’ve raped a girl though you’ve not physically harmed her otherwise, this is what may happen. If the punishment for this crime is from 14 years to capital punishment, the intellectual judge may give you 14 years because the act of rape committed by you is the least violent type or the least intense type of rape. Hence he may give you the minimum punishment because the law says if the crime of rape is of least intensity, the punishment should be the least, which is 14 years in this case.
If the same case is decided by an emotional type of judge, you may get 20 years for the same crime as he may bend against you. This is because he may hate you for raping a girl and hence he may want to punish you as much as he can. Since the quantum of punishment may not be justified by any means if it crosses 20 years in this case; he may give you 20 years of imprisonment. If he has the choice, he may give you the capital punishment also though he may not do so in this case.
This is due to the reason that he understands that the intensity of your crime doesn’t call for a capital punishment according to the letter of law. Accordingly, such punishment may be cancelled by a higher court and he may also have to explain his motive behind awarding such inappropriate punishment. Therefore, he may want to give you a capital punishment but he may end up giving you a sentence for 20 years or as much as he feels he safely can. You see, how the type of personality you possess can affect each and every decision you make.
Taking a more common example when you’re an emotional type, suppose you and your lover have a fight and under impulse, you hit her with your fist on her face and she sustains significant injury like she may break a tooth. Soon after that, you may start feeling bad and you start hitting your fist against the wall so that it may be punished. Your heart may feel that doing so balances your previous action but your intellect may find it an even bigger mistake.
According to your intellect, you make one mistake when you hit your lover because the rule it has learnt is that physical violence without valid reason is prohibited and so you should not have used it against your lover. However, if by any chance, you’ve engaged in physical violence and you’ve hurt her, the best thing you can do is to compensate her by taking care of her or by doing anything else which may satisfy her. On the contrary, by hurting yourself, you’re only making the situation worse because one person needed to be taken care of as a result of your first action; and two people need medical care as a result of your second action as you may seriously injure your hand. Hence the problem has not been solved but it has been aggravated, according to your intellect.
When it comes to your heart, it feels like hitting your lover and before you intellect may interfere and stop it from doing so, you hit her. As your heart doesn’t do calculations in advance, it may not be aware about the result of this action at all, which means it may not be aware of how much damage can be caused by this act; and all it knows is that it feels like hitting her. Hence when you do so under the impact of your heart, you don’t hit her with the intention of breaking her tooth and you simply hit her as you feel like doing so. Whether your punch causes mild injury or serious injury is none of your business at this moment because the quantum of injury is a calculation and your heart doesn’t deal with calculations.
Hence you hit her under the command of your heart and as you complete this act, this feeling leaves your heart for the time being. This is because your heart felt like hitting her, you’ve hit her and hence it has achieved what it wanted and so it can move out of this zone now. It should be noted that if your heart doesn’t feel like having enough of this feeling when you hit her once, it may keep pushing you to do so again and hence you may keep hitting her until it feels satisfied and this is the time you may stop, though you may have caused significant damage to her face by that time.
Once your heart feels satisfied, it is free of this feeling and hence it relaxes. As it relaxes, the feeling of love for your lover may come back and that feeling may overtake it. When it happens, your heart may start feeling bad by looking at your bleeding lover and it may now feel like punishing the guilty one, who made her suffer so much. When it comes to the culprit, your heart may have encouraged you to cause significant damage to this culprit, if it was someone else which means a third person.
However, as the culprit is no one but you; it is you who should face this punishment. As your hand has hit your lover, the same hand should be punished as this is what your heart may feel at that moment. Once again, under the influence of your heart which is controlled by a different type of feeling now, you may start hitting the wall with your fist and you may injure your fist. The reason why your heart forces you to do so is that the feeling of pain suffered by your lover must be paid with the same quantum of pain suffered by the culprit.
You may remember that I’ve already mentioned earlier that your heart doesn’t deal in numbers and it deals in feelings. Hence the definition of fair for your heart in this case is to generate the same type and same quantum of feeling that has been felt by the other person. Since it is a feeling of physical pain that your lover has, you’re also directed to have the same feeling in order to settle this equation. Comparing it to a balancing act of your intellect, you hit someone’s car and you pay for the repairs. It means you try to balance out his loss by suffering loss yourself as you’re the one responsible for such loss. The other person accepts your money; and the equation is settled according to your intellect.
Your heart is doing the same in this case, though in a different way. Since it feels the same pain like your lover did, when you hit the wall with your fist, it feels that it has paid for the damage and hence it relaxes. It should be noted that all the feelings like joy and pain are dealt with by your heart and hence the pain suffered by you will be felt by it; though the physical injury may be sustained by your hand. It is similar to the fact that all the numbers are primarily dealt with by your intellect and that is why you offer compensation in numbers equal to the numbers corresponding to the loss suffered by the other party, when you hit his car with your car.
Hence your heart is also doing the same calculations; but with different variables as it is not dealing in numbers and it is instead dealing in feelings. You may keep hitting your fist against the wall, until your heart feels that the quantum of pain suffered by you is equal to or more than the quantum of pain suffered by your lover.
It is interesting to note that if your heart was to decide a case of accident when you hit someone’s car with your car; this is what you may have done. You may have kept asking for forgiveness until the other person forgives you or you may have done the same amount of damage to your car also. This is because you want to cancel out his feeling of loss and not the numbers of loss.
It means you’re not concerned with the figures of his loss but you’re concerned with the quantum of the feeling of his loss. When you look at it this way, you may find that your heart may deliver better justice in some cases; compared to the justice delivered by your intellect. This is because if you hit the car of a rich person who doesn’t care much about money but who has significant amount of emotions or ego, your heart can handle him better than your intellect can.
As you hit his car and as you offer compensation, it may do nothing much for him as the feeling he has at this moment has not been balanced out. You may even apologize for your mistake but this apology may be formal as it is coming from your intellect and not from your heart. Hence it may contain all the words used for apology but it may lack all the emotions or feelings which convey an apology, because feelings and emotions fall under the domain of your heart and not under the domain of your intellect. Therefore, your intellect can make you say sorry; but it can never mix a feeling of being sorry in your words; as that can be done only by your heart.
As the other person is rich as well as emotional; he may not care for the compensation and even your apology may look like an insult to injury to him as it looks like a formal apology with no feelings of regret at all. The chances are high that he may engage in a dispute and though the laws of the land may demand you to pay the financial damages at the most because the laws are made by intellect; the other party may still have negative feelings against you because the physical damages may have been balanced out, but the feeling has not been balanced out.
Himanshu Shangari