When it comes to horoscope matching for the purpose of marriage, the technique of Gun Milan given by Vedic Jyotish is so popular that most of people think that horoscope matching is just Gun Milan and nothing else. Hence these people get a gun Milan score from some astrologer or some website and based on this score, they decide the compatibility of horoscopes which are under consideration for horoscope matching. Over a period of many years, I have been telling most of my clients and many of my readers who are interested in horoscope matching, that the technique of gun Milan is a part of the process of horoscope matching and it is not the complete process in itself as this technique of gun Milan considers only some aspects of horoscope matching and it focuses on Moon alone among navagraha and rest of the planets are ignored in this process of gun Milan and therefore it is not complete in itself when it comes to horoscope matching as all the planets among navagraha are considered important in Vedic Jyotish and therefore due attention should be given to all navagraha while doing a horoscope matching for the purpose of marriage. In this article, we will discuss the limitations of Gun Milan technique and we will also discuss as to what steps and what aspects are important in the process of horoscope matching.
To start with the discussion, let’s first discuss some limitations of the process called gun Milan which is widely used in India for the purpose of horoscope matching and most of the people believing and practicing in Vedic Jyotish still believe that Gun Milan is the only important thing to do in order to do a thorough horoscope matching or match making. In this process of gun Milan, the placement of Moon is recorded in a particular sign, nakshatra and the part or pada of the nakshatra at the time of birth of bride and groom and then based on the position of Moon in both of these horoscopes, a score for gun Milan is finalized where the maximum score is 36 and minimum acceptable score for Gun Milan is taken as 18 which means that if gun Milan score is less than 18, then the horoscope matching is not considered good and as this score of gun Milan goes higher, horoscope matching is considered to be better and better. The final score obtained through gun Milan is also called gunas which in simple terms means that if 18 is the score assigned according to gun Milan then it is said that 18 gunas are matching. This process of gun Milan considers 8 koots or aspects called Varna, Vashya, Tara, Yoni, Graha, Gan, Bhakut and Nadi for the purpose of assigning scores or gunas and these 8 koots are assigned 1 to 8 gunas respectively which makes a total of 36. Hence the final score obtained through this process of gun Milan is considered as the decisive criteria for deciding the fate of horoscope matching.
It should however be noted that the above mentioned process of gun Milan considers the placement of Moon alone for the purpose of horoscope matching and rest of 8 planets among navagraha are all together ignored in this system of gun Milan which puts a big question mark on the credibility of gun Milan system because the lives and compatibility of two people cannot be and should not be decided merely on the basis of one planet, one sign and one nakshatra, and all the planets, signs, houses and nakshatras which are relevant in the process of horoscope matching should be considered properly before reaching any conclusion about the final outcome of horoscope matching. For example, the presence of a Kuja Dosha, Anant Sarpa Dosha, Kulik Sarpa Dosha, Takshak Sarpa Dosha or Karkotak Sarpa Dosha in any one of the horoscope can altogether change the results of such horoscope matching as the presence of any one of the above mentioned doshas can make the marriage fail miserably in spite of a very high score given by gun Milan. Similarly the presence of one or more than one beneficial yogas like Manglik Yog, Malavya yoga or any other such yoga can make the marriage sustain in spite of a low score given by gun Milan system. Therefore the overall matching obtained through matching all the important aspects from both the horoscopes should be done for predicting the result of horoscope matching. We will now discuss some of the steps which are important and which should be given due attention in order to reach a conclusion about horoscope matching.
In the first step of horoscope matching, the horoscope of the boy or groom alone should be analyzed properly and it should be found out as to what planetary combinations, signs, nakshatras, yogas or doshas are present in the horoscope which can affect the fate of marriage in a positive or a negative way and the list of all such positive and negative points should be made. For example, if the horoscope of groom is indicating a good financial and professional progress throughout the life, it is taken as a plus while on the other hand if the same horoscope is indicating problems related to the birth of children, it is taken as a negative. Following this pattern, all the good and bad points related to marriage should be observed and noted from this horoscope and then in the next step of horoscope matching the same process should be repeated for the bride or girl. For example, if the horoscope of bride is showing significant disturbance in married life or it is showing a probable divorce, it should be taken as a negative and it should be noted while on the other hand if the same horoscope is showing very good results regarding child birth and financial prosperity, these observations should be noted as plus points. In the third step of horoscope matching, both of these horoscopes should be studied together and common positive and negative points should be weighed with and against each other.
To simplify this step, if the horoscope of both the boy and the girl is showing good financial prosperity, it can be safely assumed that this marriage will be good from financial point of view and financial ups and downs are not going to affect this marriage in a negative way. Coming to some other points, if the horoscope of the groom is indicating problems related to child birth whereas the horoscope of the bride is indicating very good results related to child birth, the chances are likely that some problems will raise regarding the child birth but they will be finally overcome and the couple will be able to have children after some difficulties and delays. This is the step of horoscope matching where the gunas or results of gun Milan is also considered and compared to the final outcome of both the horoscopes and a conclusion is derived from this comparison. For example, if a Nadi Dosh is present in horoscope matching which is indicating the death of one or both of the partners, this should be checked with the other aspects of horoscopes before jumping to any conclusions. If both the horoscopes are indicating good lifespan and none of the horoscopes is indicating the death of the partner, then it can be safely assumed that the negative result indicated by Nadi Dosh is not likely to bring serious consequences and such a Nadi Dosh should be considered very mild in this case. On the other hand if one of the horoscopes is showing problems with lifespan and the other horoscope is showing a possible widowhood, then the negative result indicated by Nadi Dosh should be considered very carefully as both the horoscopes are complementing the results of Nadi Dosh in this case and hence one of the two partners can actually face life threatening problems.
Similarly if gun Milan is indicating the presence of a Bhakut Dosh in horoscope matching which is indicating financial problems and debts to the couple, this fact should be cross checked with the both the horoscopes. If both the horoscopes are indicating very good financial prosperity, then the results of such Bhakut Dosh will be reduced greatly whereas if both the horoscopes or one of the horoscopes is indicating serious financial problems, then the results of such a Bhakut Dosh are very likely to reflect in the marriage and hence they should be considered with great care. If the presence of Moon in some specific nakshatra in both the horoscopes is indicating that physical or mental compatibility is likely to be very low between the two partners but both the horoscopes are giving indications of a very good married life then this negative result given by gun Milan is again likely to be reduced to great extent whereas on the other hand if one or both the horoscopes are indicating specific kinds of problems in marriage and at the same time a mental incompatibility is shown through gun Milan, such a marriage may have to face serious problems on account of serious arguments between husband and wife on account of mental incompatibility. Similarly all the relevant spheres related to marriage and married life should be checked and compared thoroughly before deciding as to which problems are likely to come strongly in such a marriage. The same holds true in case of positive results indicated by Gun Milan compared to strong negative results indicated by one or both the horoscopes. For example, a gun Milan score of 32 or 34 which is also called 32 or 34 gunas matching will not be of much help in predicting a good marriage if one of the horoscopes is seriously afflicted by a strong Kuja Dosha or a strong Sarpa Dosha as any one of these defects can easily break a marriage even if the gun Milan is giving a score of 36 out of 36.
In the next step of horoscope matching, the timing of marriage should be decided from both the horoscopes. This is a very important yet often ignored aspect of horoscope matching and I have analyzed horoscopes where marriages have failed only because this aspect was ignored. For example, if there is a Kuja Dosha present in the horoscope of the groom which is indicating a probable divorce whereas the horoscope of bride is comparatively better for longevity of the marriage, then the timing of marriage can be the deciding factor in such a case. If the Kuja Dosha present in the horoscope of the groom is indicating very strong negative results in the coming 2 years and it is showing reduced strength in the following 8 to 10 years after these 2 years, then this marriage should be performed after 2 years as performing a marriage within these two years can very well break this marriage whereas the same marriage is likely to sustain when it is performed after 2 years as the strength of Kuja Dosha present in the horoscope of groom will reduce for the coming 8 to 10 years. This factor will further intensify if the running times from the horoscope of the bride are corresponding with the running times of groom’s horoscope which means that the girl’s horoscope is also indicating problems in the marriage for the next year or two. Considering a case quite contrary to this example, let’s assume the same horoscopes with the only difference that a Kuja Dosha present in the horoscope of the groom is showing reduced strength for the next 7-8 years and the horoscope of the bride is also indicating very good results related to married life for the next 4-5 years. In this case, it will be safe to perform the marriage at the earliest as the running times from both the horoscopes are not corresponding to the bad results of Kuja Dosha present in one horoscope and hence such a Kuja Dosha is not likely to break this marriage easily. It should be noted here that the presence of a Kuja Dosha in a horoscope is likely to break a marriage particularly in the first few years of marriage and if first 4-5 years of marriage pass without any significant problem, then the malefic effects of Kuja Dosha keep on reducing with passing time and hence such a Kuja Dosha is not likely to break this marriage after 8 or 10 years in most of the cases. Hence the timing of the marriage is a very important factor and this factor alone can make or break a marriage on its own and therefore the timing of marriage should be given proper attention before predicting the results of horoscope matching.
In the final but again very important step of horoscope matching, remedies for some doshas present in one or both of the horoscopes are considered to reduce such doshas. These doshas may include Kuja Dosha, Sarpa Dosha, Nadi Dosh, Bhakut Dosh or any other Dosh and by doing relevant remedies for these doshas which generally include the use of gemstones, yantras, mantras and pujas, the strength of these doshas can be reduced significantly which means that these doshas will not bother the couple very much and as a result the couple will be able to enjoy a far better marriage. All the steps of horoscope matching mentioned above are very important aspects of horoscope matching and every good astrologer pays due attention to all of these steps before predicting the final outcome of horoscope matching. Hence horoscope matching should not be decided on the basis of gun Milan alone and all the relevant details should be analyzed and compared before deciding the fate of horoscope matching.