By doing so, he may convey this message to the other person that he’s not interested in the satisfaction of his ego and he’s willing to learn new and better things, as and when they come to him. This may obviously earn him respect as people who admit that someone else has views better than them, are spiritually grown because such admissions require keeping your ego in check and only a spiritually grown person can sacrifice his ego in order to gain valuable things.
At the same time, such a person is learning more and more by opening him up to new and better things and ideas, thereby becoming more and more spiritually evolved. Hence he may keep collecting new knowledge, he may keep growing on spiritual level and at the same time, he may keep building a good image, by not putting too much emphasis on his ego. It should be noted that a number of planetary energies in this horoscope make this native very intelligent and hence it may not be easy to convince him with contradicting theories, especially after his age of 40. This doesn’t make him an egoistic person and the true reason is different.
As this native may keep gaining more and more knowledge with the passage of time, he may become smarter and wiser with passing age. It means he may already have the best type of opinions on a number of subjects, especially on the subjects of his interest as he may have intentionally acquired much knowledge on those subjects, owing to his interest in them. Therefore, when someone tries to convince him with opposing viewpoints on one of these subjects, he may not agree with them and he may rather choose to stick to his viewpoint.
This doesn’t make him egoistic as the other person may sometimes think. It is not due to ego and it is due to the fact that during a number of such discussions, his viewpoints may actually be better than those of other people. When that happens, he may decide on merit that his views are better than other person’s views and hence he may dismiss their views on merit, instead of dismissing them due to his ego being hurt. As already mentioned, he’s an intellectual person and he may keep growing more and more with passing age, due to his passion for knowledge and spiritual growth. As he becomes wiser and wiser, only an even wiser person may have opinions better than him, especially in a field of his interest.
Hence he may weigh his opinion against the opinion of the other person on a particular subject and he may then reach a decision on merit. As he may have better opinions in most such cases, he may dismiss the opinions of the others, in order to move ahead with the best opinions. This doesn’t make him egoistic and this only makes him aware of which thing is the best among a number of things being compared. The fact that such thing or opinion may be his own in many such cases; doesn’t mean he’s egoistic and it only means he’s better.
There’s a fine line between having too much ego and being duly confident by virtue of your knowledge and awareness on a subject. You’re egoistic when you know that other person’s views are better than yours but you still choose to stick to your views, in order to nurture your ego. On the other hand, you’re confident when you know that your views are certainly better than other person’s views and hence you dismiss his views on merit, as well as in a polite way. This doesn’t make you egoistic; it makes you aware of the fact that between the two of you, you have better opinion on a particular subject. Since the whole point of a discussion is to reach a better opinion, there’s nothing wrong in choosing to stick to your opinion, when you know it is better.
A question may arise as to what may a person be called when he’s wrong but he genuinely thinks he’s right or better than the other person? Is he an egoistic? No, he’s not and he’s instead an innocent person, just like a child. Ego only comes to play when you don’t want to get into the right or wrong of an aspect on merit and you only want to stick to your opinion, whether it is right or wrong. Only your opinion matters to you and nothing else. This is what makes you egoistic.
Look at a child now. While interacting with you, he may many times choose to stick to his views and he may even try to convince you that he is more right than you. This child is not egoistic and in fact, he may not even know what ego is, in the first place. It is simply due to the fact that he has faith in his knowledge, though his knowledge is limited. Hence in this case, he may genuinely believe that his opinion is better than yours, simply on merit and on no other basis. This makes him innocent and not egoistic. With the passage of time, this child may grow and he may learn that he was indeed less right than you, on a particular subject. This is the process of our evolution and this is perfectly normal. Hence being innocent, being egoistic and being confident on the basis of true knowledge are different virtues of human personality.
The positive part of Venusian energy may also encourage him that some adjustments need to be made, in order to run family as well as society in the best possible manner. Hence he may be well aware of his part of adjustments and he may be willing to make them even when some of the may be hard to make. This personality trait may especially start gaining strength after his age of 37 and he may progressively become more and more adjusting after this age.
Venusian energy may also play a vital role when it comes to the women in the life of this native. Under the impact of this energy, this native may especially find himself attracted to women who may possess certain specific qualities which are substantial and not superficial. It means that only the physical beauty of a woman may not be sufficient to hold the attention of this native for a long period of time and he may demand some other things to stay interested, even if they come at the cost of compromises in the domain of traditional physical beauty.
The impact of Venusian energy along with some other energies may build up the mindset of this native in a way that he may be fascinated more by women who have good speech abilities, who’re liberal in views and actions, who’re intellectual, who’re confident and are not afraid of taking charge when the time demands so. It should be noted that this native may not be the submissive type, owing to his overall strong horoscope. However, he may like his woman to be confident and courageous enough to take charge when needed.
By virtue of these preferences, he may put less emphasis on superficial aspects like enhanced physical beauty or stylish behavior, when it comes to choose a woman for being his partner. He may instead focus on substantial qualities like the ones mentioned above and physical attributes may become secondary for him. It doesn’t mean he may be repulsive towards beautiful women, he may simply love them. It means when it comes to choose a life partner or a lover, he may give priority to the already mentioned qualities, in comparison to her physical attributes.
This is because the overall vibe of his horoscope makes him more of an intellectual, emotional and spiritual person, than a physical person. It means he may get true satisfaction from the display of acts which are intellectual, emotional or spiritual; instead of finding such satisfaction in physical type of acts, though he may love the acts of latter type also, at times. However, physical acts may only keep him interested in the short run and they may not bind him for a long period of time.
Hence he may choose to be with a woman who’s intellectual, who’s emotionally healthy and strong; and who’s spiritually grown; which means she’s a good human being. On the other hand, this native may have strong dislike for people who are hypocrites, who say one thing, do another thing and mean yet another thing. For people like this native, a transparent and straight forward type of behavior is the best thing someone can have. Hence he may be happy in the company of transparent, intellectual, emotionally strong and spiritually grown women. As this energy may gain strength after his age of 26, his tendency to like women of this type may start becoming stronger and stronger after this age.
On a deeper level, this native may want a life partner who may become his best friend when needed, who may become his mother when needed and who may even become his guide when needed. The concept of life partner for this native may be seen as a concept which is meant to enhance his life in all possible ways and not as a concept which restricts his growth in many spheres. Hence he may like liberal, supportive, intelligent, independent and kind type of women as his life partners.
Though he may get attracted to other types of women also from time to time, simply due to the concept of attraction towards the opposite sex, such attractions may be short lasted as he may soon find out that such women don’t have what he actually needs and hence he may back out. It is only when he finds a woman with these qualities that he may be willing to commit. The life partner of this native has to play an important role in his life and he may know it very well. Therefore, he may choose his woman on the basis of true qualities instead of choosing her on the basis of short lasting virtues.
The same energy of Venus combined with some other energies may also bless him with a strong ability to care for and protect the ones he loves. As a result, he may be deeply connected to his loved ones and he may try to ensure that they’re doing well in their lives. If anyone of them witnesses difficulties, he may offer his help to get them out. The energy of Venus along with other energies may turn this native into a family man who may have strong faith in the concept of family and bonding between the members of a family.
When this energy is working on its normal level, the concept of family may literally mean family and when this energy is working on its higher level, this concept may indicate the society, country or even the entire world on the whole. It means this energy may help him achieve the mindset of a global citizen who is able to see people beyond casts, colors, races, cultures and countries. For him, people may be people and whether he likes them or not may only depend on merit and nothing else.
It means if he dislikes someone, it may be because the person is bad or he has some qualities which this native doesn’t like. Similarly, if he likes someone, it may be because the person is good and he likes his qualities. This is called liking or disliking on merit. On the other hand, liking or disliking people on the basis of their religion or other such things which have nothing to do with the personalities of those people, is called liking or disliking on the basis of preconceived notions and not on the basis of merit. This native may obviously belong to the first category and he may judge people, only on the basis of their personalities and actions; and not on the basis of preconceived notions. This quality may start gaining more and more strength after his age of 36.
Looking at the negative part of Venusian energy, it can make him impulsive, especially till his age of 33. As a result, he may take some impulsive decisions at times and he may engage in some impulsive actions at times, which may land him into troubles later on. Whether such troubles are small ones or big ones; depends on the overall equation of his horoscope during such times. Some of these impulsive decisions may be related to his love life, some of them may be related to his marriage, some of them may be related to his family affairs and some of them may be related to the sphere of his philosophical beliefs.
The phrase ‘philosophical beliefs’ here means that he may come across a philosophical ideology at a time and he may start believing it under impulse, rather than taking time and checking it properly. It means if a philosophical belief appeals to him on the surface, he may start following that belief, without getting into the bottom. However, he may find out later on that such belief was either incomplete or it didn’t have solid grounds and hence he may have to forsake it partly or completely. This may waste time.
It should be noted that this tendency may remain strong till his age of 33 and after this age, he may start controlling his impulsive patterns, progressively and with each passing year of his life. As a result, he may start achieving more and more patient approach as he grows older. An exception to this trend may be seen during his age of 50 and 54, when he may once again start being relatively impulsive.
The negative part of Venusian energy may also create some problems in his marriage and love life due to which he may face difficulties in these spheres also. Since these are very private spheres, I’ll skip the details of these topics and move on. This negative energy can also create some other problems related to some other spheres of his life. The intensity of these problems depends on the overall equation of his horoscope during those times.
Moving on, the next planet to be discussed is Sun, which is broadly positive in this horoscope; with about 75% of its energy being positive and about 25% of its energy being negative. Looking at the positive part of its energy, it can bless this native with qualities like confidence, creativity, physical strength, good immune system, adaptability and other good qualities. As a result of these qualities, this native may benefit in his professional as well as in his personal life.
Looking at the quality of adaptability, this quality may help him make adjustments according to the circumstances so that he may either be able to achieve what he wants or he may be able to accept what may seem inevitable, resulting in overall contentment. It should be noted that if you’re able to achieve any one of these things in a situation, you feel content and you have no reason to worry. For instance, if you make some adjustments in order to achieve what you want and then you achieve it, the task is completed and you feel content.
Looking at the other possibility, if you want to achieve a specific thing and despite making all the adjustments, you’re only able to achieve it partly and you still have the ability to feel content with what you’ve achieved, the job is done once again. The result is once again the same, you’re content. It should be noted that being content is one thing and feeling satisfied is another. Though there is a very fine line between the two of them, there still is a line.
If you work very hard to achieve a goal and you’re able to achieve it only in part but you still feel content, this is what it means. You may accept this result without grudges or complaints but at the same time, you may wish to engage in similar looking tasks with more effort and with more skill, after achieving such skill. Hence you may not have any complaints with what you have achieved but you may at the same time, wish to improve yourself, in order to achieve more in future.
It should be noted that discontentment doesn’t mean you want to achieve more and more; this is only partial definition of this word. Discontentment in its truest sense means you’re almost never content with what you’ve achieved and you complain about it, either verbally or within your mind. For example, if you’ve prepared your best to win a race and you finish second, this is what you may do in both the situations, the first one being that of discontentment and second one being that of contentment.
If you’re discontent by nature, you may start blaming one thing or the other for your inability to achieve the first place in this race, instead of acknowledging the fact that the person who finished first simply performed better than you and that is why he deserved to finish first. For instance, you may state that you’ve not been keeping good health recently and hence this is not your natural performance or you may say the winner seems to have taken some performance boosting supplements or anything else. The whole idea is to blame something or someone for your inability to finish first, rather than accepting what has actually happened. Hence you’re discontent.
On the other hand, if you’re content, you may simply accept that the winner performed better than you and he duly deserves the first place. You may simply not be interested in making excuses and at the same time, you may feel content that your performance or your present ability has helped you achieve second place and you feel happy for that. This is contentment, the ability to realize that whatever good or bad is happening to you, it is only because you deserve it and no one else is to blame, if you’ve achieved less than what you tried for. Hence you see second place as a reward and you don’t complain.
At the same time, you may still wish for the first place in future. As long as this wish remains healthy, it doesn’t make you discontent. It means if you’re aware that in order to finish first in the next race, you need to improve your performance and you have to duly deserve it, there’s nothing wrong in it. Kindly understand that you only wish to improve yourself and you don’t wish bad for other people, like you don’t wish something bad should happen to the winner of this race so that he may not appear in the next race. If you do so, you want to win the next race by any possible means and you don’t want to win it on merit alone. If you do so, you’re once again discontent and wrong too.
However, if you accept the fact that you’ll keep improving yourself till the point you’re able to finish first and even if it takes five more races to achieve this goal; you’re willing to accept second or even third position as you may deserve on the basis of your performances. In this situation, you’re not concerned with anyone else and you’re assessing the whole scenario based on your performance. It means you’re not jealous of anyone and you don’t want bad things to happen to anyone. You simply wish to improve yourself and you’re willing to happily accept whatever you deserve, until you’ve achieved your goal.
There’s nothing wrong in that and you’re content. Discontentment doesn’t rise when you want to achieve more than what you have, it rises when you’re not content with what you’ve already achieved and you start blaming your luck or other people for not achieving certain things. On the other hand, if you’re content with what you have achieved and you want to achieve more, by putting in more effort and on the basis of merit; there’s nothing wrong in that.
Let’s take a different example to understand this concept. Suppose you’ve entered into a competitive exam with the target of achieving the highest job category, offered as a result of success in such exam. Let’s say you’ve entered civil exams in India and you want to become an IAS officer. Despite your best effort, your performance enables you to secure a job as an IPS officer and not as an IAS officer. If you’re discontent, you may start blaming your luck and you may even start saying or feeling that some favors were given to the people who secured IAS, during the assessment of marks or during the interviews.
It doesn’t end here and you even start feeling discontent while serving as an IPS officer and you keep complaining almost throughout your life that though you deserved to be an IAS officer, you ended up being an IPS officer, as some people or the whole universe conspired against you. You strongly believe that you duly deserved a place as an IAS officer and it was wrongfully taken away from you. This is what makes you discontent.
In case you’re a content type of person, you feel happy that you’ve been selected for IPS, even if you wished to be selected for IAS. You’re wise enough to understand that your abilities were capable of getting you this far only; and you’ve missed IAS only because you weren’t good enough for it. You don’t feel jealous for the people who got selected for IAS and you feel they duly deserve it. This is what makes you content. At the same time, you may wish to improve yourself and achieve IAS in the next attempt.
Hence you may start serving as an IPS officer, duly enjoying your job with no regrets or grudges and at the same time, you may start preparing for IAS. You keep improving yourself so that you may achieve more during your next attempt and at the same time; you don’t have any grudges with what you already have. The result of the next exam doesn’t matter much for the sake of this example and what matters is the fact that you’re content with what you’ve achieved and you understand that if you want to achieve more, you need to do more. Hence you see things balanced in a fair way and you don’t complain about your partial or even complete failures. In fact, you embrace them, you learn from them and try to improve yourself, if you wish to achieve more in future.
Let’s now look at the quality of satisfaction, in order to understand the fine line between satisfaction and contentment. Let’s assume that in the same exam, you achieved IPS when you wanted to achieve IAS; and you feel happy with what you’ve got. You don’t complain and at the same time; you don’t wish to make another attempt to achieve IAS. You’re simply happy with IPS and you don’t wish for more; which means you’re satisfied. It is the time to learn that when you’re satisfied with something, you may not wish to work for something better as the word satisfaction means you don’t want more; and you’re filled up to the mark.
However, being content means you’re duly happy with what you’ve achieved, compared to the efforts you’ve put in, though you may still wish to achieve more. It means you’re satisfied with the reward given for your effort and you think you’ve been dealt with fairly. However, you may not feel satisfied with what you’ve achieved and you may wish to achieve more. In order to do so, you may wish to improve yourself instead of blaming anyone or anything; so that you may achieve what you want. Obviously, you’re not satisfied in this case as you still want more. However, you’re content as you understand that what you want may only come to you, when you duly deserve it.
Hence contentment and satisfaction are both positive qualities as they don’t represent any negative feelings or thought patterns. Satisfaction means you have reached the point in your journey where you want to take rest for some time; and you’re happy with what was given to you during this journey. Contentment means you’re equally happy with what you’ve achieved so far, but you may wish to achieve more, in the healthiest possible way; and hence you may wish to keep walking, instead of choosing to take rest. There is a small difference between these virtues but both of them are highly positive.
In easy words, satisfaction can be considered as a special case of contentment. This is because, people who’re satisfied will always be content because they’re happy with what they’ve achieved and they don’t wish to work for more. On the other hand, people who are content are happy with what they’ve achieved but they may still wish to achieve more. Hence even satisfied people are content though content people may not always be satisfied. Therefore, satisfaction may be seen as a specific case of contentment or it may also be seen as the culmination point of the virtue called contentment. When you’re satisfied, there’s simply no room for wishing more because as long as you wish for more, you’re not satisfied though you may be content.
However, both these virtues have one thing in common and that is the fact that you’re happy with what you have and you don’t blame people or situations for what you don’t have. The virtue of discontentment on the other hand, makes you feel dissatisfied with what you have and at the same time, it makes you complain about people or situations, for not letting you have what you wanted to have. I hope the difference is clear now and so, let’s move forward.
The positive energy of Sun may give this native the quality of acceptance, which is nothing but a shade of the quality of contentment. This energy may start gaining strength after this native’s age of 33 and it may keep growing after that. As a result, this native may not believe in blaming others for what he doesn’t have and he may instead believe in improving himself, so that he may achieve what he wants; and that too on the basis of merit. There may be complaints and grudges before the age of 33, but they may start becoming weaker, gradually after this age. Even after this age, they may appear for a couple of years every now and then, whenever the running times are supportive for negative energies, but the overall trend may remain in favor of contentment.
Himanshu Shangari