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The same may happen in case of car, word travel, business and many other things and hence he may start getting more and more disturbed as well as unhappy with the passage of time when he should feel happy and at peace in reality. You see, heaven and hell is once again within you as even an amount of Rs. 1 billion can disturb you much more than relaxing you. Heaven is created by a specific type of mindset and the same goes in case of hell also. Therefore, all you have to do to invite heaven is to develop that type of mindset and nothing else.
When it comes to a spiritually advanced person, he may not plan anything until he receives money, which means for two weeks. Once he receives prize money and he wishes to buy a house, he may simply decide as to which of the attributes related to a house are the ones he requires the most and he may not pay much attention to the rest of them. Suppose his priority is to purchase a house at a peaceful location and the house should have a specific size or more. This is all he may care for and nothing else. Hence he may contact a dealer and he may let him know about his preferences. The dealer may suggest some houses, he may visit them and he may finalize one of them at the earliest.
It means he’s purchased a house and he’s not been disturbed even in the least, during this process. In fact, he may feel happy as he purchases this house. Since he didn’t go through dozens of houses, the information related to those houses may not disturb his vision or judgment when he finalizes a house on the spot. It should be noted that when you have seen any attributes of a house, which according to you are better than the one under consideration; it becomes difficult to buy one such house. This is because your intellect automatically starts comparing the house under consideration with the house that you can’t buy or you don’t want to buy as that house lacks something else which another house has, which further lacks something that another house or this house may have.
Hence most houses may lack one thing or the other and this feeling of lack has come from your own mind in reality, instead of being an actual lack. For example, if you prefer a house near a beach; you may buy one such house as soon as it meets your other requirements, if you’re a spiritually advanced person. On the other hand, if you’re a spiritually less developed person, you may keep looking for more and more options; even when you’ve found a house near a beach which meets your basic requirements. You do so in order to make sure that you get the best type of location you can and this is what creates problems.
A spiritually advanced person which means a person driven by his conscience puts importance to his needs and nothing more than that whereas for a spiritually less developed person; his need is the minimum he wants and it is not the maximum he wants. In fact, the second type of person has no defined definition for the maximum he wants and this is what creates problems. The minimum as well as the maximum for the first type of person are the same as well as reasonable and hence he may not have problems buying anything or getting anything done. It means he sticks to his preferences in sense and not in details.
Hence most houses near beach will do for him and so it becomes easy for him to meet his requirements. On the other hand, the second type of person considers it as the minimum requirement and the definition of maximum keeps changing in his case, and this is what troubles him. For instance, even if he comes across a house near a beach and this house meets his requirements related to location; he may still keep looking at more and more houses; so that he may choose the best location, according to him. It means though he has found in the first house, what he wanted when he planned for a house; he wants more now.
This means the definition of what may satisfy him keeps changing with time and this brings problems. In the beginning, he needs a house near a beach and let’s say in a particular area. The dealer has shown him one such house and it meets his requirements. Therefore, he should purchase this house if other criteria are met. However, he may ask the dealer to show him all other houses which are located near beach in the area he prefers. As he starts seeing more and more such houses, he’s only going to land in confusion and he’s very likely to face regrets later on.
He may choose one of these houses based on location which may be the best according to him; but this house may not be as big as another house for the same prize but which is not so good when it comes to location; according to him. Similarly; another one of these houses may have very good design as well as interiors but it may lack something else. This may keep happening inside his mind and the end result is that he may eventually end up buying a house, which is still not as good in some aspects; as the other houses seen by him are.
Hence as he purchases this house, he spends a lot of money on it but he still ends up having some disappointments related to certain aspects of this house. It should be noted that the aspects related to this house, which he thinks are not good enough may actually be good in reality and the reason he finds them not so good is because he’s comparing these aspects to those of the houses which have them better. This is what makes all the difference in the world. A person of the first type is only interested in what he needs and nothing else and so his requirements are easy to meet. He’s only focused on what he needs and he’s not focused on what he’s missing out which means he’s focused on what he’s getting and not on what he may get.
A person of the second type on the other hand, will almost always focus on what he’s missing; instead of focusing on what he’s getting. It should be noted that what you get is happening in reality as well as in the moment whereas what you may have got or what you may get is happening in past or future and hence it creates illusions. A person of the first type knows this secret and hence he’s focused on whatever he’s got, instead of worrying about what he may get or what he may have got. A person of the second type focuses on what he may get or what he may have got instead of focusing on what he’s got; and hence his peace of mind is disturbed.
For instance, a person of the first type lives only in the house he has purchased and hence he’s peaceful. When it comes to the second type of person, he may keep living in the houses he hasn’t purchased, instead of living in the one he’s purchased. It means whenever he looks at a house with a garden, he may start thinking about the house which had a garden but which he didn’t buy because the location of the house he bought is better than the location of that house, though his house may not have a garden. As this thought comes to his mind, he starts living in the past instead of living in the present.
Taking a look at another fact, suppose some relatives visit him and they plan to stay for a couple of days. When it comes to allot them rooms; he may find that this house has fewer rooms than the one he didn’t buy because the location of that house was not as good as that of this house. This may once again take him to the past and he may start imagining that if he had purchased that house; it would have been easier to accommodate these relatives. Once again, the peace of mind is disturbed on account of illusions which are based in the past.
This may happen in case of a number of other aspects also and as result; he may start doubting his decision of buying this house, though on a subconscious level. As this idea gains strength; his liking for this house may start reducing and at the same time; his peace of mind may be disturbed even more. This is because he may start missing the garden, the extra rooms and all other such things which this house doesn’t have, instead of focusing on the things that this house has but the other houses don’t have. It should be noted that if he found this house better than all those houses at the time of purchase, there must be things related to this house which are much better than those houses as otherwise, he wouldn’t have purchased it.
Hence there may be nothing much wrong with the house and all the problems are happening because of his mindset. As long as he keeps comparing this house to the other houses which he could have purchased; he may never be at peace. The moment he stops comparing this house to those houses, peace comes to him. It means the moment he stops living in the past where he made the decision to buy this house and he starts living in the present, which means he starts enjoying what he has in this house; he’s at peace.
A spiritually grown person knows this secret and hence he may not opt to look for more options, as soon as he finds something which meets his requirements. Since he hasn’t visited the house with a garden, the house with extra rooms and all other such houses, he has not much to compare with. Accordingly; it is easy for him to live in this house with peace as well as to enjoy this house in the best sense. This is because he saw this house, he liked it, he purchased it and that’s all he cares for. Even if he sees some of those houses before this one, he’ll forget them the moment he purchases this house. Once again, he finds peace.
An interesting thing is that a person of the first type may almost never talk about anything good related to his house to the others on purpose; though he may tell people that he loves this house if they ask him about it. On the other hand, a person of the second type may start describing a number of good things about his house to a number of people he interacts with; even when they’ve haven’t asked him about such things related to his house.
This happens due to the subconscious need to balance out the regrets which have formed in his subconscious mind, related to the purchase of this house. It means that through the praise he engages in and through the appreciation of other people as and when it comes, he’s trying to convince himself subconsciously that his decision to buy this house was in fact the right decision. Since this is an act of assertion, it simply means he regrets his decision to buy this house deep down; and he’s trying to balance it out through praise and appreciation. Since the first type of person is confident about the purchase; consciously as well as subconsciously; he doesn’t need to assert this fact through praise or appreciation.
It is only when you feel deep down that what you’re saying may not be true, that you try to assert it so that the other person may believe it or you may believe it. A husband comes home late as he was genuinely busy at office; he throws his things away and he doesn’t feel the need to explain anything. If the wife asks; he may simply tell there was a hell lot of extra work at the office.
He comes late another day and this time he was busy doing something that his wife doesn’t like. As soon as he enters; he may start telling that there was extra work at the office and he may start telling a number of things related to this fact. He may even call once or twice that he’ll be late due to extra work at office and he may even bring something that his wife likes, like her favorite ice cream. He may do so in order to distract her so that she may not take much interest in the delay thing as her mind may get busy with ice cream : )
His behavior is different in these two cases because in the first case, he’s honest on the conscious as well as subconscious level and hence he doesn’t need to add details since pure truth alone is sufficient and it doesn’t need assertions. However in the second case, he’s trying to look honest on conscious level when he’s dishonest on subconscious level as well as on conscious level.
Therefore, his subconscious mind fears this act and in order to balance out this fear; he may say or do a number of things to assert this fact that he was indeed at office. Hence assertion means something is wrong deep down; and you’re trying to cover it or you’re trying to ensure yourself that it is not. You try to cover it when even you know consciously that it is not true, like in this example of getting late from the office, where you know consciously that you’re lying.
You try to ensure yourself through assertion, when even you don’t know consciously that what you’re saying is not what you feel deep down; like in case of the house. It means deep down; you obviously feel that your decision of buying this house was wrong; but you don’t know it consciously. Hence when you assert this fact through acts of praise for this house; you’re trying to console or so to say, you’re trying to fool your subconscious mind that your decision was indeed right. However, you may never be able to do so because your subconscious mind is smart enough, not to be fooled by your acts of assertion : )
Suppose you win a game show and the host presents you with two options to choose from, as your prize. You can choose to have option A or option B. One of them offers Rs. 100 thousand and the other one offers Rs. 1 million. The catch is that you don’t know which one of them offers which amount of money. Suppose you pick option A and you win Rs. 100 thousand. If you’re a spiritually less evolved soul; you may find that the joy of getting Rs. 100 thousand is less than the pain of losing Rs. 1 million. The joy may leave you in a couple of days whereas the pain may stick there for a long period of time and it may take you back to this moment again and again.
It means you may often keep visiting this moment in your imagination and you may think what if you chose option B. You may start living the result of option B, which means you may start imagining how you might have enjoyed more if you had won Rs. 1 million. As soon as this illusionary enjoyment ends, you’re back to reality and you may not be able to enjoy the reality now.
This is because you’ve lived a number of things in your imagination, and those things are much better than the things happening in reality. Since you’ve drawn a comparison between imagination and reality; and the imagination is better as it can be most of the time; you’re not able to enjoy reality. Hence your imagination or illusions have spoiled the taste of reality and only you are to blame for it.
Let’s consider another option in the same case. Suppose as soon as you win Rs. 100 thousand; the host tells you that he played a prank on you and the option B in reality offered Rs. 10 thousand only. If this is the case, you may feel as happy as you can because out of the two options, you’ve got the better one and this is what makes you happy. It should be noted that you may not live option B in your imagination in this case at a later stage, because you have no regrets related to the decision made by you at this moment as that decision led you to the best possible result. Isn’t it surprising that though you’ve won Rs. 100 thousand in both these cases, you have regrets in the first case and you feel happy in the second case.
Once again, money is not the first thing for you and having the best possible option is important for you. It further means that your wish is the most important thing for you, than anything else. In the first case, you wished to win Rs. 1 million and hence you felt bad when you won Rs. 100 thousand. In the second case, the moment you know Rs. 1 million means Rs. 10 thousand in reality; your wish changes and this changed wish is what you’ve already got and hence you feel happy.
In the deepest sense, your true desire was to win the maximum available amount through this game show. As that doesn’t happen in the first case, you feel bad and as that happens in the second case; you feel good. It should be noted that the desire to achieve the best rises from your ego; whereas the desire to focus on doing your best rises from your conscience.
It means your ego always focuses on the result whereas your conscience always focuses on the karma and not on the result. As already mentioned; your conscience brings you better results in most cases; since you’re not focused on the result and you’re instead focused on the karma. It improves the quality of your karma which further improves the quality of the result; since the result is dependent on the quality of your karma, in most cases. Hence if you’re a conscience ruled person in this case; you’re simply interested in your karma of choosing an option and you don’t attach yourself to the results of any type, as that may end up disturbing your peace of mind. It means a person ruled by ego has high expectations of winning the best possible amount and hence he’ll be disturbed if it doesn’t happen.
It is not the amount of prize that disturbs him; it is the fact that his desire to win the maximum possible amount has not been fulfilled. A person ruled by conscience on the other hand; doesn’t create such a desire in this case and he may choose an option randomly. Whatever comes his way, he feels happy because he had no prize a moment ago and now he has it, which means he’s achieving something and not losing something. However, in case of a person ruled by ego; he’s already won the biggest possible prize in his imagination and if he gets a smaller prize now; it’s not profit and it’s instead loss for him.
This difference should be understood well in order to be properly aware of how your ego can create hell for you. Suppose the prizes are indeed Rs. 1 million and Rs. 100 thousand. A conscience ruled person doesn’t bother much about the result and he’s simply interested in his karma of choosing an option. If he wins Rs. 100 thousand; he’s happy. This is because the way he sees it is that he is having an extra amount of Rs. 100 thousand, compared to what he had a moment ago. Since he’s profiting in terms of money; it is but natural for him to feel happy.
When it comes to a person ruled by ego; he’s already won Rs. 1 million in his imagination and hence if he wins Rs. 100 thousand now; it’s not a profit of Rs. 100 thousand for him and it’s a loss of Rs. 900 thousand which is the difference between these two amounts.
Suppose you engage in a professional assignment on contract and an amount of Rs. 100,000 is committed to be paid to you once you complete this assignment. You finish this assignment within a period of time and when you ask for payment; the other party tells you that he can only give you Rs. 50,000 though he committed to give you Rs. 100,000. Suppose you don’t have any other option but to accept this amount. A sense of loss amounting to Rs.50,000 will disturb your mind and this sense of loss is a valid sense of loss, for a material person, though the saint may not bother much in this case also.
The reason this sense is valid is because it was committed by the other party that you’ll receive Rs. 100,000 thousand at the completion of this project. Hence this amount is well earned by you and if the other party is willing to pay only half of it; you’re losing the remaining half; which you duly deserve. It is fair to have a feeling of loss in this case because all of it is happening in reality. It means you deserve this amount in reality as you’ve worked for it and this amount was committed to you. Hence this loss is real loss and the pain caused by it is real pain.
However, when the game show host asks you to choose one option; all he’s committing is that you’ll get whatever that option represents; and he’s not committing to pay the maximum possible amount. A person ruled by conscience understands well in this case; that the option he chooses is the option he deserves and he’s got nothing to do with the option he misses out on. Hence he randomly chooses an option and whatever the result is; he’s happy because this is what he deserves according to him and this is what he’s getting.
When it comes to the person ruled by ego in this case; he’s already attached himself to the bigger prize which means he’s already won this prize in his imagination and all he needs to do now is to manifest it into reality. In case he wins the smaller amount; he suffers because he thinks what he deserves is not what he’s getting. Though in the first case of loss from assignment; his loss was based on reality; it is based on imagination or so to say it is based on illusions in the present case. Therefore, there is no problem in reality and he’s created this problem on his own. Hence only he’s responsible for the hell which comes his way in this case.
If you watch such game shows where the prize money is offered as a choice of picking an option when more than one option is available; here’s a tip which may help you decide whether the person choosing an option, which means the participant is dominated by ego or by conscience. More is the time taken by the participant in order to decide which option he should go for; more is the ego factor. Less is the time taken by the participant; less may be the ego factor which means higher conscience.
This is because the only reason you may take time in choosing between a number of prizes when you don’t know which option leads to which prize; is that you’ve already won the best prize in your imagination, assuming you’re this participant. Since you’re attached to this prize now; you want to make sure that you get this prize only. Hence your ego pushes you to do your best to make sure that you win the best prize and nothing else. This is why you become extra cautious because if you don’t win the best prize now, any other prize you win is a loss and not a profit; according to your ego; since it has already attached itself to the best prize.
It means you already have this prize in your imagination or in your illusions and if it doesn’t happen so in reality; it’s a loss according to your ego because you’ve lost what you had. On the other hand, a person ruled by conscience simply doesn’t like attaching to the results and that is why there is no point in wasting time, thinking about which option to choose and which not to choose. In the deepest sense, he understands that he’ll not choose the prize; and it is the prize which will choose him. It means whatever amount he is to win; he will win and whatever amount he’s not to win; he won’t win. It is as simple as that for him.
Hence he doesn’t bother at all and he randomly chooses an option at the earliest; whichever one he may feel like choosing at that time. Since he’s not won the best prize in his imagination or in his illusion; the only prize which is happening for him is the one which is happening in reality. Hence there is no confusion or disturbance since there is only one prize and as already explained earlier in this series of books; you need at least two options to create confusion or disturbance.
When it comes to the person ruled by ego, if he wins anything other than the best; there are two prizes and that is why there is confusion or disturbance within him. The first prize is the one he’s won in his illusion and the second one is the one he’s won in reality. Hence a comparison starts happening within him and since this comparison gives him the conclusion that the prize won by him in his imagination or illusion is better than the prize he’s won in realty; a sense of loss fills him and he suffers.
In the deepest sense, it is his desire to win the best prize, which makes him win it in his illusions before he chooses an option and this is what may bring hell to him if he doesn’t win the best prize in realty. Once again, he suffers because he’s not focused on the karma and he’s focused on the result. No matter how many situations related to real life you analyze; you’ll find that sorrow comes to you only when you focus on results instead of focusing on your karma; and the reason you focus on results is your desire to achieve such results.
We’re back to the root of all your joys and sorrows; which is the desire element. Hence if you don’t want to feel bad later on; don’t create too many desires. A spiritually advanced person in this case doesn’t create any specific wish and he’s open to welcome anything that comes his way. It means if he wins Rs. 100 thousand through option A when option B gives Rs. 1 million, he’s only interested in what he can do with Rs. 100 thousand, instead of being interested in what he could have done with Rs. 1 million. Hence all his focus is fixed on what he has, which means on the moment he has and not on what he doesn’t have; which means a moment of past or future.
Since it is the job of your intellect to draw comparisons and create visions based on those comparisons; growing it beyond healthy levels can be troublesome. It should be noted that as long as your conscience is strong enough to control your intellect; any amount of intellect is healthy, even if it reaches its optimum limit. This is because your conscience can stop your intellect from doing anything at any time. Hence it can stop your intellect from drawing any comparisons and it may instead let your heart feel the joy that the present moment brings. However, if your conscience is not strong, which automatically means your ego is strong as already explained; more intellect only means more problems in the long run. If this is the case, the last thing you may have is peace of mind.
Your intellect can certainly help you achieve more in life, when it comes to the resources which can give you pleasure. However, it doesn’t have the ability to enjoy those resources and this ability is reserved with your heart. Hence a person dominated by intellect may keep collecting more, he may keep engaging in comparisons of different types like what he has achieved verses what he may have achieved or what he may achieve in future. All these activities leave no energy for your heart to enjoy and hence you may have everything but you may enjoy nothing. It means you may have all the things which can make your life enjoyable; you may still not be able to enjoy your life; in the absence of a significantly grown heart or emotional plane.
The word life in its deepest sense doesn’t mean how many resources or recognitions you have gathered till a particular point in time; it means how much you have enjoyed or lived the resources, recognitions or any other things available to you; till that point in time. Life means to live, to live means to feel and experience; and to feel and experience means heart. It is the job of your intellect to help you get the resources you need in order to enjoy life and do some other important things; but that’s all it can do and enjoying those resources or living the moments is the job of your heart. There is no doubt that without heart, we may all simply turn into machines as the major difference between humans and machines is that we have hearts and they don’t have them.
A human being has a physical body, intellect and heart whereas a machine has a physical body and intellect; though the latter doesn’t have ego and conscience as well. Though a machine can be physically more efficient and mentally faster than a human being, it can never even think of competing with him, when it comes to the domain of feelings and emotions as it doesn’t have heart; at least till his point. It may look like a small difference to some people but it can change each and everything at times.
For instance, imagine a machine is installed at a location and the job of this machine is to dispense water bottles when a coin of specific denomination, say Rs. 1 is fed into it. This machine may certainly reduce human effort as it doesn’t get tired due to which it can work 24 hours a day and it can also do all the calculations without even a single error. Suppose someone suddenly suffers from an intense physical condition like a fit or an attack, close to this machine, he needs water at the earliest and he as well as a couple of people around him don’t have this coin or any coin for that matter.
If this machine is the only source of water around this person; this is when everything changes. As this machine doesn’t have heart, it doesn’t have emotions and hence it can’t feel anything. Accordingly, it may never consider offering a bottle of water free of cost; even if the person chokes to death in need of water, in front of this machine.
Himanshu Shangari