Since it is complicated and some people may not understand this subtle difference between personality which is exhibited by the mind; and soul which remains pure; the saint uses different lines. Hence he doesn’t even tell you to dislike his personality type and he tells you to dislike his evil acts so that you may not engage in the same or similar type of acts. This way; the meaning remains the same but it becomes easy to understand. This is because your karmas at any time define your overall personality and hating someone’s karmas is to hate his personality type or a part of his personality type. Since personality is controlled by the mind; you can have an evil mind but you can’t have an evil soul because it is impossible to corrupt your soul though it is possible and even easy at times; to corrupt your mind.
Hence when you love your wife like this; you may dislike many things about her but you may still love her. This is because whatever she does or she doesn’t do; whether she has good habits or bad habits and all other such things go only as deep as the mind and not deeper than that. When it comes to the soul; it just exists and it doesn’t engage in any of these things called habits, karmas and all other such things. Yes of course, it produces conscience which deals with the corruptions of your mind but the soul directly remains unattached from each and everything. It means your soul is not interested even in the fact whether your conscience wins over your ego or your ego wins over your conscience.
It is difficult to observe practical examples of this type of love as only a person with high or very high spiritual growth may be capable of practicing this type of love permanently. I’ve used the word permanently because just like most other concepts; the three types of love may also co-exist within a person and they may vary in percentages; depending on the evolutionary status of the person in question. It means just like your ego and conscience can co-exist; these three types of love can also co-exist though in general; only two of them may be found present in most people at a time.
Accordingly; every person may in general engage in the type of love which best fits his personality type and he may at times be able to engage in love of the adjacent type; except in case of third type of love. This is what is meant by purity percentage of love and this is why it may become purer at times and more corrupt at other times. What it means is that people who are generally fit for engaging in love of the first type due to their high egos; may witness the love of the second type in case of some people or at times. For instance, even a person fit for first type of love may be able to practice the love of the second type in case of his children, mother or lover.
Likewise, a person fit for engaging in love of the second type may practice love of the third type in certain cases or at times. It is interesting to note that a person fit for second type of love in general may also practice love of the first type in some cases; since the second type has the luxury to shift to the third type as well as to the first type, on temporary basis. When it comes to the third type; it is fixed and these people may simply not be able to practice any other type of love. That is why you may find them loving each and every person in the same pure way.
When it comes to a person who’s not yet evolved enough to become a saint but who’s closer to reaching this point; which means he’s achieved very high level of spiritual growth; he may practice the love of the third type at times. As a rule; the number of these occurrences or to be precise; the ratio between his acts of love of the third type and his acts of love of the second type keeps increasing as he achieves more and more spiritual growth; which means as more and more ego leaves him and more and more conscience comes to him.
Hence a person closer to sainthood may be able to exhibit a ratio of 90 to 10 or even a ratio of 95 to 5; where the first numbers in these sets indicate the acts of love of the third type out of hundred; and the second numbers indicate the acts of love of the second type out of hundred. Literally speaking; this person still belongs to the second type because you can only belong to a type officially; when you become 100% related to that type, which means when this person engages in 100% acts of pure love. However in real time; this person has almost shifted to the third type.
Suppose you’re 28 years old at this time and year 29 is in progress. Suppose there is only one day left for you to complete your 29th year which means tomorrow is your birthday. Literally speaking; you can’t officially claim to be 29 today since you need to live through one more day in order to do so. However in reality; you’re almost 29 since out of 365 days in a year; you’ve gone through 364, which means almost all the days. Hence you can officially write yourself as 28 though you’re almost 29.
This is what happens in case of such people also; who’re almost saints but not exactly saints. It means they’ve almost reached the destination called sainthood but they’ve still not officially reached there. These are the people who may engage in acts of love of the third type most of the time but they may still engage in acts of love of the second type at times. As soon as they reach the destination called sainthood; they may engage in acts of love of the third type alone.
This is why the pattern of spiritual growth of each soul is considered as a journey. A journey means continuous as well as progressive movement from one point to another and it doesn’t mean jumping from one milestone to another; missing all the steps in between. Hence the journey of liberation is covered by taking one step at a time; and each one of these steps in the direction of liberation makes you a better person. Though important distinctions may be reached during this journey; only once in a while; you’ve been reaching them all the time in reality.
It means that if you’re moving from city A to city B, you officially reach city B once you enter it but each step you take towards city B is getting you closer to this city. Likewise, when you move from the point where you’re able to engage in second type of love, towards the point where you’re able to engage in third type of love; you evolve with each step you take. Hence you won’t directly jump from second type to third type; and you’ll reach it progressively.
Though we may broadly define people as devils, very bad, bad, average, good, very good and saints; there are millions of possible personality types between each one of these distinctions and that is what makes all of us different from each other. This is why all of us have the chances to grow with each and every passing moment; since even a small positive or negative act or even a thought can move our personalities to the next positive or negative points in this journey; depending on the positive or negative nature of such act or thought.
Let’s now go back to the example where two people get married for negative reasons. They may get married soon after meeting each other for the first time, and the negativity may start playing after the marriage. Though there may be thousands of acts of revenge that different couples may engage in, depending on their experiences in past lives; we’ll discuss only a few of them to have an idea.
Since the seed of this marriage is based on greed whether such greed is for money or for physical beauty; the last thing which is likely to visit this couple is love. A number of problems may start surfacing soon after the marriage; where the woman may start troubling the guy in her own ways and the guy may do the same in his own way.
Looking at some of these things, the woman may love to throw his money away for a number of reasons, most of which may not be positive ones. It should be noted that a wife may spend her husband’s money for positive reasons as well as for negative reasons. When she spends them for positive reasons, the intention is to purchase or build something for the family or for her. In such cases, the wife is not interested in throwing husband’s money away and in fact, she feels thankful to her husband on subconscious level; as it is he who earns all this money. One such wife may spend her husband’s money for family welfare or for personal pleasures of the quantum; which may be justified according to their financial status and not more than that, in most cases.
On the other hand, when a wife spends her husband’s money for negative reasons; her primary intention is to waste as much of his money as she can and what she purchases with this money is secondary. One such wife may almost always spend a lot more than she ideally should; based on her husband’s income; so that he may lose more and more money; and he may feel troubled. She loves when her husband shouts at her that she’s wasting his money and she should stop doing so. The way she interprets is that this practice of hers hits her husband deeply, and hence she starts spending even more, in order to hurt him even more. Such wife seldom purchases or builds anything for family welfare as all she wants is to waste more and more of her husband’s money.
It should be noted that these acts are generally controlled by the subconscious mind and hence most wives belonging to both these categories may not have conscious knowledge of the reasons behind these acts. For instance, a wife may simply feel happy when she purchases something for family or an asset with her husband’s money, and she may not consciously know why. Similarly, another wife may naturally get attracted to things which mean waste of money, and she may not realize why.
It means she may consciously feel that she’s only spending on the things she likes, and her husband is trying to stop her from doing what she wants. Accordingly, when her husband shouts at her, he may do so because he thinks she’s wasting money whereas the wife may think her husband is trying to stop her from doing what she wants. Hence both of them may consciously think that they’re doing what they should be; and the other person doesn’t understand them.
However deep down; she’s only interested in wasting her husband’s money and that is why her subconscious mind is making her interested in things which are useless. She simply hates her husband, she finds him useless and hence she feels that his money should also prove useless. Her husband’s money is the result of his hard and dedicated efforts, and his efforts are the result of his overall personality. Hence if his money proves useless, deep down it means he’s making efforts to achieve useless things. It means his efforts are useless, which further means his personality is useless because all these useless efforts are coming from his personality.
In short, the money earned by him is the essence of his efforts which are the essence of his personality. Therefore, if his money proves useless, he proves useless in the deepest sense, according to his wife. Hence this wife is wasting her husband’s money subconsciously and by doing so, she’s conveying it to her husband that even the best of his efforts are not worthy of buying or getting anything useful.
On the other hand, the wife who loves her husband knows subconsciously that the money earned by her husband means the essence of his energy in the deepest sense. Hence wasting such money means disrespecting her husband’s efforts which further means disrespecting her husband.
Even the wife wasting her husband’s money may be surprised to know that she’s doing so to prove him useless as she may be of the opinion that she’s not wasting it and she’s just spending it for her needs. In reality; most of her needs have been created by her subconscious mind; in order to waste her husband’s money. Hence the primary objective of these needs or wishes is not the enjoyment for her; but it is the destruction of her husband’s money. Accordingly she may feel happy; more by spending money than by actually enjoying things purchased with that money.
On the contrary; the wife who loves her husband may not enjoy much when she spends his money and her enjoyment may come through the valuables obtained through such money. Hence the wife who loves her husband may spend money on things which bring some value whereas the wife who hates her husband may not care whether such money brings any value to her or not, and all she wants is to spend his money. It means that the true desire of the wife who loves her husband is to prove his money useful by creating meaningful things with it whereas the true desire of the wife who hates her husband is to prove his money useless by wasting it.
Looking at the husband, he may spend most of his time outside his home and though he may think he’s doing so for professional reasons and this act is justified; it may not be so deep down. He hates his wife deep down; and accordingly his subconscious mind gets him attracted to things which may help him stay away from home. Hence the subconscious mind of the husband may suggest him genuine ways to stay away from his wife. For example, he may start spending more time away from home, in order to expand his business.
Once again, they’re both unable to understand each other’s behavior and they think the other person is simply not letting them be happy. The wife may obviously feel that her husband is doing so to create reasons for staying away from her, which is in fact true in this case. Hence this act of her husband may give her one more reason to hate him. The husband on the other hand may think that all he’s doing is to expand his business which is a positive thing and hence his wife should feel happy instead of feeling bad. Since he finds her unhappy with this decision of his; he may think she doesn’t like his prosperity, which gives him one more reason to dislike her or even hate her.
It is interesting to note that a number of times; people closer to us are able to notice our subconscious intentions but we don’t notice them. This is because they may notice and understand our subconscious expressions when we engage in certain things but we can’t notice them since we don’t see what signs our bodies are giving out at different points in time. Hence the husband may understand from his wife’s subconscious expressions that she’s interested in wasting his money and the things she purchases with this money are secondary.
This happens because he notices her expressions at the moments when she does something as an act of revenge but she consciously says or conveys that it is a natural act or even an act of liking or love. A faint but obvious glow expresses on her face whenever she engages in one such act. Since the wife can’t notice her own subconscious expressions like this specific glow; she may not be aware of the fact that her husband knows when she engages in acts of this type; which may be called acts of revenge.
The same may happen in case of husband and the wife may also notice certain specific subconscious expressions which he gives out when he says an act committed by him is a genuine act but in reality; it is an act of revenge. The husband may also not know this fact that his wife knows when he’s trying to justify an act of revenge as a natural act.
It happens to all of us and people close to us may know many such things about us through our subconscious expressions; which we don’t know consciously; since we can’t notice our own subconscious expressions.