After understanding this difference, it is interesting to note that most of us may exhibit both these kinds of acts in the same relationships. Hence some of our acts may be inspired by pure love and some other acts may be provoked by the control factor.
As a general rule, more is the percentage of moral-sense in your personality; more is the number of acts of pure love whereas greater percentage of control factor or self-pride in your personality means greater number of acts of control.
Even if you have control factor as high as 80%, the 20% love factor you have may still be sufficient to make you engage in acts of pure love at times. Has it ever happened that when you woke up in the middle of the night, you found your lover feeling cold while sleeping, you covered her with a blanket, you made sure that everything else is in order for her comfort and you never talked about it. If you ever did this or anything like this, this was an act of pure love. The principal condition here is that you don’t ever let her know that you did so.
On the other hand, if you tell her about this act in the morning, it becomes an act of control though it might have started as an act of pure love. Hence you’ve converted an act of love into an act of control. This is because the only reason you’re telling her this is that she should know and remember that you did her a favour and you care for her, even when she’s asleep. You may definitely care for her but why do you desire her to know? The reason is that you desire her to assign more value to you and that value will help you control her.
You see, your self-pride can feed on your feelings and it can turn even an act of pure love into an act of control. If you truly love her, you’ll do everything in the night as mentioned and even you may forget it after that, instead of trying to make your lover learn and memorize it. More value she gives you, easier it is for you to control her. You may not know all this on conscious level but it is all happening deep inside you; on unconscious level. Hence you may consciously feel that this piece of information just dropped out of your mouth accidently.
Most of us have percentages of pure love and percentages of control factor or in other words; percentages of moral-sense and percentages of self-pride. The sum total of these two percentages at any time is 100, as already explained in an earlier part of this book. Hence if you have 80% moral-sense which means 80% pure love at a time; you have 20% self-pride or 20% control factor at that time. This percentage is different for different natives and it may be different, even for the same person; at different times.
For example, you may have 80% love and 20% control at a point in time whereas you had 60% love and 40% control ten years ago. It means you’ve achieved more spiritual growth during these ten years by virtue of your efforts and hence you’re able to love in a better way at this time. Similarly, the percentage of pure love and control factor may keep changing, depending on the change in percentage of your self-pride and moral-sense; with the passage of time.
The journey of each person is amazing and accordingly; every person may witness billions of different experiences in a number of lives; before reaching liberation. These experiences keep changing the overall personality of this person and this is the reason the same person may behave differently or love differently at different points in time; depending on his exact personality at that time.
If you desire to know how pure your love is, this is how you can check. When you’re in love with someone say with a woman, more you feel the require to assert your love through words, acts or gestures; less pure is your love and more is the percentage of corruption in your love.
Moving on, through your own personality formed over a number of lives, you bring heaven or hell to you, like by engaging in acts of pure love or acts of control. You may think that a person or a thing is responsible for bringing heaven or hell to you, but it is not so. Heaven or hell doesn’t lie in things, circumstances or natives and it lies in your interpretation of them. For example, there were times in the beginning of human race when metals like gold or gems like diamonds were not assigned high values. Since these things otherwise don’t have any utility; natives might have found them waste.
It means if someone wanted to travel, he could carry only ten kg load with him on account of his physical limits; he had the option to carry gold; diamonds or things of utility like grains, other food items, certain tools, weapons and other such things; he would have ignored gold and diamonds and he would have taken other things which might prove useful. This is because gold or diamond carried no value then; and hence they couldn’t buy anything or they couldn’t be exchanged for anything. Apart from that, you can neither eat gold nor can you make weapons with it on account of various reasons beyond the scope of this discussion; and the same goes for diamond also.
Hence there was no sense in carrying these items. Let’s now jump into the present time. If you face the same circumstance today; you may try to carry as many diamonds as you can, followed by gold and then by other things; assuming you have the luxury to carry them or collect them.
So what has changed during these years? If gold or diamond means heaven today; why wasn’t it so during those times? Gold and diamonds haven’t changed but the impact they bring to us has changed. The reason for this change in impact lies in our interpretation. When we didn’t attach any value to them; they didn’t do much to serve us and as soon as we attached high value to them; they became capable of bringing many kinds of material heavens to us. Once again, it is not about gold or diamond; it’s about how we interpret them at any given point in time.
Imagine what may happen if this news is made public that from now on, gold and diamond will carry no value and all the natives who have them can exchange them with another metal which may be proposed as a substitute. Most natives may quickly exchange these things with the new metal of high value and no one may care to collect them any longer. It means most natives may stop wearing gold ornaments or diamond jewellery and they may start wearing the new metal which carries high value.
An interesting thing is that the same natives who found diamond jewellery beautiful till this day; may start finding it not so beautiful or not beautiful at all. This is because in that circumstance, diamond doesn’t carry any value and hence there is no point in finding it beautiful. It means that even beauty doesn’t lie in the diamond and it lies in our interpretation of it, like all other things. As long as the diamonds carry high value; natives may take pride in wearing them and their minds may necessarily find beauty in them.
However, as soon as they lose material value; the minds of the same natives may change and as a result; diamonds may not look the same beautiful. In the deepest sense, you wear these jewellery items to let other natives know that you’re rich enough to afford them. Hence these items keep changing depending on which of them are now capable of making you look rich. It means these items are just the media through which you can show other natives that you’re special or blessed; which further means it’s all about your self-pride in the end.
Kindly note that the quality of being special in the deepest sense; rises from moral-sense whereas the desire to show other natives that you’re special rises from self-pride. An interesting thing is that as long as you have the desire to show other natives that you’re special; you simply can’t be special in the deepest sense. The moment you get rid of this desire to show you’re special; you become special; in the deepest sense. We’ll discuss more about this topic, later on.
Imagine all the currency notes of your country are discontinued and you’re directed to exchange them with new currency notes within a specific period of time. This announcement changes everything. The same currency notes which brought comfort to you may now start bringing discomfort to you because if you don’t exchange them within the specified time; you may never be able to exchange them and they may prove waste forever. As a result, you may do your best to get rid of them at the earliest whereas you did your best to collect them even until a moment before you received this information.
Here also, the currency notes are the same but the impact caused by them on you has reversed. They brought heaven to you until a few moments ago and they now seem like hell to you since you find them useless and you desire to get rid of them at the earliest. Everything is the same about these currency notes except your interpretation of them and that changes everything for you.
Moving on, your unconscious part of brain/mind works on the basis of patterns and not on the basis of events. Hence your conscious part of brain/mind may require much time and effort to form each one of these patterns on your unconscious part of brain/mind through repeated events of the same or similar kind; and your conscious part of brain/mind may again require much time and effort to modify or delete some of these patterns.
Your conscious part of brain/mind may be considered like the weather which may change on daily or even on momentary basis whereas your unconscious part of brain/mind can be considered like the climate; which is the sum total of the weather; over a long or very long period of time. As you can understand, weather can change any time but it is not easy for climate to change and even some minor changes in climate may take many years to happen. If we desire to assess the probability of rain; weather deals with the rain which may happen today or tomorrow whereas the climate deals with how much rain a region may receive on average, during a year or during a particular season.
Therefore, if you don’t have weather predicting devices or systems; it becomes difficult to predict whether it may rain tomorrow or not as you can only be sure about today or to be precise, you can only be sure about the present moment. This is like your conscious part of brain/mind, dealing with individual events. However, even in the absence of weather predicting systems; you can still be able to predict the average amount of rain that your region may receive in a year or in a season; which means over a longer period of time.
You’re able to do so as you see it happening every year and though the days of rain may change during a year or season; and even the amount of rain during a particular day may change a lot every year; the overall amount of rain which happens during a season or a year; doesn’t change much and it remains closer to the predicted limit. Hence you can’t depend on the weather of a region if you don’t have weather predicting systems though you can certainly depend on the climate of a region as it follows a uniform or predictable pattern.
Imagine what may happen if the climate also starts behaving like weather? It means it is cold one day and it is hot another day. It rains one moment; it stops raining the next moment and then it starts raining again, the moment after that. If this keeps happening, you may simply not be able to grow any crops because they require some predictable patterns in order to grow. The same may happen to many other things which are dependent on uniform patterns of climate and all such things may fail to materialize. Hence there is a require to have some kind of predictable climate in order to maintain harmony in life; in any region in general or on earth in general.
This is what happens in case of conscious part of brain/mind and unconscious part of brain/mind. Even if the former tries; it simply can’t change any pattern formed on the unconscious part of brain/mind through a single event or so to say; without resistance and it needs effort and time. For example, the average temperature of a geographical region during a particular month may not increase or decrease by 10 degrees all of a sudden. If such change is to happen; it may happen over 10, 20, 100 or even 1000 years as this process is slow. Therefore, habits are formed on your unconscious part of brain/mind and it takes effort and time to form them, to modify them and to delete them.
This effort varies in case of different natives as well as in case of different habits, which means how strong or weak those habits are. Bigger is a habit, more effort is required to change it. Since the effort is to be generated by the conscious part of brain/mind and the resistance is to be offered by the unconscious part of brain/mind; the strength of your conscious part of brain/mind versus the strength of your unconscious part of brain/mind is the most principal criterion; when you desire to make some changes to your personality. As a rule; more spiritual growth means more moral-sense, more moral-sense means more strength for your conscious part of brain/mind and bigger conscious part of brain/mind means it is easier to make changes to your personality.
Consider you meet a woman for the first time in this life though you have been with her for many years in your past life. Your unconscious part of brain/mind knows most of her preferences as well as her habits and her unconscious part of brain/mind also knows the same about you; though none of you know it on conscious level. If you know a thousand habits and preferences that she had in recent past life; the chances are high that only a few of them have been changed by her, on account of the reasons already explained; unless she’s a spiritually advanced person in which case; she may be able to change majority of her habits and preferences if she wishes so; on account of her strong conscious part of brain/mind. However, this is an exceptional case and this is not the scope of this discussion.
As you still know most of her habits and preferences deep down; your unconscious part of brain/mind may start helping you out in order to resume the relationship with this woman and her unconscious part of brain/mind may also do the same. Since none of you knows these things consciously; it may look like magic or magical to you. The first thing which is bound to happen is that no matter how many filters of formality you apply so that your first conversation may look decent or reserved; your unconscious expressions may start shouting that you like her a lot and the same may happen to her also.
It means though you two may engage in formal conversation as this is your first meeting or date; this formality may only be expressed through your conscious channels like your words and all the unconscious channels may express clear consent, liking or willingness. Hence you may strongly feel attracted to this woman and you may have this feeling that she also likes you a lot; and the same happens in her case also. This is what you call love at first sight. The reason you call it love at first sight is because you’re consciously seeing or meeting this woman for the first time though in reality; you’ve spent many years or even many lives with her; but you don’t know this fact on conscious level.
This is the reason you may find that some natives just get in touch with you at different times in your life like most other natives; and these specific natives become very principal for you in a short period of time; contrary to how you form relationships in general. All such natives have already established relationships with you from past life or lives and though your conscious part of brain/mind doesn’t know this fact; your unconscious part of brain/mind knows each and everything about these relationships. Hence you may feel from the beginning of such relationships that these natives can be trusted.
Comparing them to the natives who didn’t have much interaction with you from past lives; whenever you think about anything proposed or offered by those natives; your conscious part of brain/mind starts weighing things as it does in general. It means you start measuring their visible positive points against their visible negative points and based on this comparison; you decide whether or not you may trust them with different things, during the earlier stages of such relationships.
However, when it comes to the natives who have already had significantly positive relationships with you in past lives; this assessment is done in a different way. Though your conscious part of brain/mind still does the same kind of calculations like weighing their visible advantages against their visible disadvantages; the invisible factor or so to say; the unconscious factor also comes to the picture. Kindly note that in case of general natives; your unconscious part of brain/mind doesn’t have much information or any information about them from the past and hence your conscious part of brain/mind does most of the job. Therefore, such assessments follow a visible pattern, which means you know exactly why you should trust or not trust them.
When it comes to the special natives; your unconscious part of brain/mind already has a significant amount of information about them from the past lives; and that changes everything. As your conscious part of brain/mind starts assessing these natives for certain things; the unconscious part of brain/mind interferes. Your hear strong inner voices which may be called intuitions as they come with no conscious reasons; and these voices tell you that even if you don’t have sufficient visible information to trust these natives at this time; you should go ahead and trust them.
Though your conscious part of brain/mind may not understand a thing; your unconscious part of brain/mind may assure you that you can go ahead and trust such natives. You choose to listen to these voices as they’re strong; you go ahead and trust these natives and this trust proves right in most cases.
Hence when you meet this woman, all your unconscious expressions as well as all her unconscious expressions may speak out loud that you two like each other a lot. Though it is the first date; you feel like a lot has happened over this date and she also feels the same. This is on account of the fact that you require much more time when you require to create something for the first time; compared to repeating or doing something that you’ve already done a number of times. Since you’ve done a number of things with this woman in the past; you find that doing those things comes natural to you during this date.
Your unconscious part of brain/mind has perfect record of her preferences as well as that of your interactions from the past and it uses them to resume this relationship. Since you don’t know the acts of your unconscious part of brain/mind on conscious level; it looks like happening by magic or by luck to you. Let’s look at certain things which your unconscious part of brain/mind may do for you and which may put you in a position of advantage.
Consider you like tea as well as coffee and you have both of them at times. Consider this woman likes coffee and she doesn’t like tea. Since your unconscious part of brain/mind knows this fact; it may help you out. As you order for something; you may choose to have coffee today instead of tea; and you may do so randomly which means without any conscious reason. However, this is not random and your unconscious part of brain/mind has made you do it; by controlling what comes out of your mouth when you order. This is because it knows the woman doesn’t like tea and ordering coffee at an early stage of this relationship may help you since bigger number of common interests or preferences may help you develop a relationship at the earliest.
Hence you may choose to have coffee and you may even mention that you like coffee a lot, though you may not say it in a planned way and it may just get out of your mouth randomly; and you know why. Since the woman is also going to have coffee and you’ve told her that you like coffee a lot without consciously knowing that she likes it too; you look natural to her. It means if she says she likes coffee and then you tell her that you also like it a lot; she may think you’re saying so to create common grounds and it may or may not be true. It generally happens at the beginning of this kind of relationships and natives do so to find or create common grounds.
However in this case, since you’ve expressed your liking before asking her about her liking; she only has the choice to believe that you really like it; which means you two have one thing in common. When it comes to her unconscious part of brain/mind; it also knows that you’re telling the truth because it knows you really like coffee. Hence her conscious part of brain/mind doesn’t have any reason to doubt this fact since you’ve mentioned it without asking her about her liking; and her unconscious part of brain/mind already knows you’re speaking the truth.
As a result; she may believe at once that you really like coffee a lot and that initiates a common ground between you two. Moving on; even before you talk about coffee; your unconscious part of brain/mind may start impressing her without your knowledge. For example, when you approach her for the first time and you ask her out; your unconscious part of brain/mind already knows that she likes chatting over coffee and she doesn’t like going to public parks or movies; as much as she likes coffee. Once again; you may randomly propose her to chat with you over a cup of coffee though you proposed public parks or movies to some other women; when you asked them out.
As you know, this is not random and your unconscious part of brain/mind makes you do it in the most natural way. Since this woman loves going to cafes for chatting; you’ve added one more advantage to your account. She feels attracted to you, she feels like going out with you and you’ve offered her favourite place for the first date. The answer comes as a yes and neither you nor she knows that it is a planned proposal.
When you to go to a café; you may randomly choose a table; say in the corner and that may happen for no obvious or conscious reasons. Have you noticed that at times when you go to such places and there are a number of vacant tables; you may take a moment or two to decide which table to choose? You may then decide to go with one particular table and you generally don’t have conscious reasons for choosing that table. It means this table may at times be in the corner, it may be in the middle at another time or it may be someplace else at another time, though you may certainly have your favourite spots. It all happens automatically and you just feel like going with the inner voice which selects this table. Well, now you know the reason behind this inner voice.
In the present case, your unconscious part of brain/mind may encourage you to choose a particular table and you may automatically lead her towards that table; say a table in the corner which is just by the side of cash counter; though you may or may not choose this setting in general. You may not have any idea at all that you’re choosing this table to impress her as you’re not planning this move; though only on conscious level.
Your unconscious part of brain/mind has a record of her preferences and it knows that when she visits places like cafes; her favourite spot is the corner closest to the cash counter. She may have her own reasons for this liking and she may even like another kind of spot. The point is that whatever her preference may be; your unconscious part of brain/mind already knows it through experience.
As you lead her to one such table; you’ve already scored points, even without your conscious knowledge. This is because she likes this table the most; among all the vacant tables and you’ve also chosen this table; which is one more sign that you two have things in common; deep down. She may not interpret these signs on conscious level but she may clearly feel that things are happening in your company; as automatically as they happen to her when she makes the choices. This means that if she had the choice to make these decisions; she would have made them in the exact same way. Hence you touch her deeply since you do things like she does; and you don’t even know it till this point.
Kindly note that the closer you get to someone’s unconscious part of brain/mind and the more you touch it; the bigger is your relationship with this person, as a result. This is the reason you’ll find that when you go out for a dinner with your wife and kids; you tend to do things which they like, assuming that you desire to make them happy. You do so because those things touch them on the deepest level, which means on the level of their unconscious part of minds and hence they start liking you more from this level. It means their unconscious part of minds start attaching more value to you since you know how to comfort or please them.
Same thing is happening here with the only difference that you’re not doing it on purpose and you don’t even know that you’re doing it. Since the woman also has no idea that you know what she likes; she can only understand that you two have common tastes. When you get closer to this table; you may choose a random side to offer her for seating; and this is the side she likes the most; when she has a choice to make. For example, you may offer her the side which gives her the view of cash counter and it may be her favourite side; though you may do so randomly.
You see, even before you two have actually interacted; your unconscious part of brain/mind has guided you in a way that she’s already feeling relaxed in your company because her favourite things are happening when she’s with you and that also when you don’t know anything about her choices; at least according to her conscious knowledge as well as your conscious knowledge.
Have you heard that most of the communication between two natives is non-verbal and this part is more principal than the verbal communication? Now you know how these non-verbal communications happen and why they are more principal than verbal communications. Verbal communications are controlled by your conscious part of brain/mind which has far less information compared to your unconscious part of brain/mind which controls most non-verbal communications; like in this case. You haven’t done much so far according to your conscious part of brain/mind but you’ve still touched this woman more deeply than someone else touched even in ten dates. She also doesn’t know the conscious reasons for all these things. Hence all she has is a strong feeling of comfort in your company and a feeling of comfort is the best kind of feeling in most circumstances.
More comfortable you feel in someone’s company; more time you desire to spend in his or her company whereas more discomfort in someone’s company means you desire to spend less time in his or her company or you simply desire to avoid his or her company. Since the comfort factor is strong; she may already like your company and this date is almost destined to give birth to a meaningful relationship which may last for many years or which may continue till the end of your life. Over the course of this date; a number of other such things may happen when you may touch her deeply without any conscious effort and she may also do the same without any conscious effort.
The time flies and the moment of departure finally arrives. You may not wish to leave but you have to and the same may happen to this woman also. As you two depart; the urge to meet again may get bigger and you two may fix the next date. This relationship may turn out to be one of the most meaningful relationships of your life and all you may feel is that everything happened automatically.
Well, most things were well planned and the comfort caused right from the beginning of this relationship was the already existing comfort between you two from past lives; though none of you knew this. Hence you felt like being comfortable in her company and she felt the same; right from your first meeting, though this comfort was there since a long period of time; on unconscious level.
Looking at some other interesting facts, when you two dress up for this first date; most of your choices related to this act may be controlled by your unconscious part of minds, in order to impress the other person. For example, this woman may feel like wearing jeans with a top; for no obvious reasons though she may have a number of other kinds of dresses. She may automatically choose to wear a black top, though she likes blue, red and pink also. Similarly, she may make a number of other such choices related to how she dresses for this date; and all these choices may happen automatically.
In reality; she may only feel comfortable with a kind of dress or with a colour; which you like and her unconscious part of brain/mind knows it. For example, though she may try some skirts before trying a combination of jeans and top; something may not feel right deep down for her. She may not know why, but she may feel something is missing. She may try a combination of jeans and top and she may start feeling comfortable at once. She may then try different colours for her top and the moment she tries a black top; she may feel the most comfortable. The same may happen in case of choice of jewellery, makeup, footwear and all other things.
Her unconscious part of brain/mind is helping her dress up in a way which impresses you a lot, according to the information it has, based on your interactions from the past. She may simply do all these things on the basis of inner feelings of comfort or discomfort and she may not be able to assign visible reasons for the choices she makes. For example, though red may also be her favourite colour like black; she may not feel the same vibe of comfort today; when she wears a red top; and this vibe instead comes when she tries the black one.
This is because her unconscious part of brain/mind knows you like black more than red and hence it makes her prefer black over red. The same may happen in your case and you may automatically wear things which she likes a lot. It is like you two know each other very well, consciously for many years and you two are dressing up to impress each other. Since you both know what the other person likes, it is easy for you to do so. The same is happening here, though on unconscious level and hence you two have no conscious knowledge that you’re dressing in a particular way; in order to impress the other person as he or she likes this way of dressing.
Since both of you haven’t much to impress each other on conscious level; it all seems like happening effortlessly. Hence you may feel like your relationship was blessed from the first moment. It is true and this blessing came through your own unconscious part of minds, which simply acted on your desires from the past lives. It means deep down; only you two are blessing yourself with this relationship and no one else is doing this job for you.
Kindly note that this example just explains the overall nature of unconscious acts in a particular kind of case and some of these events may happen differently in case of different natives belonging to the same kind. However, one thing may be common and that is the fact that all such couples may automatically do things in the beginning of their relationships; which the other partners like. As already explained; their unconscious part of minds know what their partners from past lives like and hence these natives start doing those things automatically; which means on unconscious level.
The term ‘a particular kind of case’ in this context means that this is the study of the kind of case where two natives have had a significantly positive love relationship in their past life or past lives. Apart from that, two natives who meet for dating purposes might have had a number of other kinds of relationships in their past lives.
For example, a couple might have had a relatively less positive relationship in past life; another couple might have had a mixed kind of relationship which means positive at times and negative at times; and yet another couple might have had a relationship which might have ended up negatively though it might have started positively in their past life. There may be yet another couple which may be interacting with each other for the very first time, which means they didn’t have any relationship or interaction in their past lives.
The scope of this study is vast and there may be a number of different combinations of relationships; that different couples might have had in past lives. Based on the kind of relationship a particular couple has had in the past life; their natural behaviors which mean their unconscious behaviors during the beginning phases of their interactions or relationships may be described. Kindly note that the time taken by a couple in this life to reach an principal stage in a relationship like marriage or live in; is an principal factor when it comes to determine the strength of their relationship in their recent past life.
As a general rule; bigger relationship in the past life means a quicker marriage or live in; whether such relationship was positive or negative in past life. On the other hand, a couple who had a relatively weak relationship in the past life whether such relationship was positive or negative; may take more time when it comes to start living in, getting married or even when it comes to start having a well-established relationship; starting from their first date. If two natives never had any relationship in the past lives and they’re meeting for the first time ever throughout the journey of their souls; the chances are high that they won’t witness a live in or a marriage and they may separate before this stage.
This happens because a bigger relationship from the past means much more activity or energy in such relationship, whether such energy is positive or negative. Since this relationship featured more activity; the same trend may start in this life also; as there may be a lot to settle from the past life. Kindly note that apart from being positive, negative or mixed; a relationship also possesses strength or energy which is independent of positivity or negativity; and which is an principal criterion when it comes to study relationships.
Let’s take an example in order to understand this concept in a better manner. We know that sugar as well as salt mixes with water. Let’s consider sugar, salt and water as three natives and let’s draw two probabilities where water and sugar form one couple whereas water and salt form another couple. Consider the mixture of water and sugar is positive and the mixture of water and salt is negative, which means we assume salty water as negative and sweet water as positive in this case. As water and sugar try to form a couple; which means when they try to form a mixture; though it is going to be a positive mixture; there are a number of factors which can affect the speed at which this mixture is formed.
The most common way is to put sugar in water and it’ll gradually get dissolved. Let’s consider it a relationship of average strength and let’s now look at other variations. If we put powdered sugar instead of regular table sugar into water, the process speeds up. If we use heated water, the process further speeds up. On the other hand, if we use sugar granules and we try to mix them with ice cold water; the process slows down. Similarly, the quantity of water versus the quantity of sugar is also a criterion as it decides how sweet the mixture may become.
The same can be observed in case of mixing salt with water by changing the temperature of water as well as by changing the kind of salt. For example, solid blocks of salt may take more time to dissolve in water than powdered salt. Hence the speed with which this relationship which means a mixture may be formed; varies in both these cases, depending on a number of variables though the overall nature of the mixture may still remain the same.
Similarly, the quantity of water versus the quantity of salt is also a criterion as it decides how salty the mixture may become. Hence the time taken by these mixtures to be formed and the overall strength of these mixtures, which means how sweet or salty they are; may be different in different cases; depending on a number of variables.
It means though a mixture of salt plus water is still negative as assumed by us; it may take much longer for the peak negative expression to appear; if solid salt is mixed with ice cold water. Similarly, a mixture of sugar and water is still positive but it may take longer or shorter time to be called a mixture; depending on what kind of water and what kind of sugar is mixed and depending on some other variables. For example, if solid sugar is put into water just above its freezing point and the outside temperature is also just above the freezing point of water; this mixture when formed may certainly be positive but a long period of time may be required; before we may even call it a mixture.
The same happens in case of natives. Have you noticed that some couples get married soon after their first interactions whereas some other couples may take many years to reach this decision? The answer lies in the strengths of their relationships from the past; and these strengths further depends on their auras or in easy words; on their overall personalities.
This is the reason some relationships are very dynamic and they have lots of energy in them; whether positively or negatively; whereas some other relationships are slow or very slow; as there is not much energy in them. Hence if a couple has had a positive relationship in past life and the intensity of this relationship was high; they may build a solid positive relationship in this life; within a short period of time. On the other hand, if a couple has had a positive but less or much less intense relationship in the past; they may require long or very long time to build a relationship in this life. This is the couple which may take many years before getting married.
Let’s now look into a negative kind of relationship from past life and let’s see how it may materialize in this life. For the sake of this example, we’ll consider this relationship as a negative as well as intense relationship. Some natives may wonder why does a couple require to form a relationship in this life to start with; if such relationship was negative in their recent past lives? This is because whether positive or negative; any desire has to be fulfilled completely in order to be deleted from the task list of a person. Hence a negative relationship may end when both partners engaged in such relationship; or at least one partner gets tired of it; and this partner develops a strong desire to move out of this relationship.
However, if both the partners desire to remain engaged in one such relationship for negative reasons; this relationship may keep happening life after life. These relationships are generally the relationships based on revenge and this is the reason they happen. Consider a couple had a relationship in their recent past life and though it started positively; it soon turned negative. A number of negative things were done by both the partners to each other and they both wanted to take revenge; till the end of their lives. Since they didn’t desire to move out of this relationship and they rather wished to trouble the other person through a relationship; they’d meet again in this life.
When that happens, they may quickly get married to each other. It is interesting to note that most of their interactions may have negativity and even the decision of marriage may be based more on negative reasons than being based on positive reasons. For example, neither the guy may like this woman deep down nor this woman may like this guy deep down. This is because they hate each other on unconscious level on account of the negative experiences from past life; and this hate is bringing them closer, instead of love doing so.
Yes, hate can also bring natives closer, so that they may settle their pending accounts and they may move on their separate ways after clearing all the negativity which exists between them. If you have an enemy and you hate him a lot; simply try to focus on this relationship of hate; and this is what you may find. You may find that you desire to settle a score with him and if given a chance; you’d love to settle it. This desire to settle score with him is what will bring you two together, so that this score may be settled and this desire may be deleted.
However, once your score is settled; your enemy may now have a score to settle with you since you’ve caused him pain in order to settle your score and he now wants to return this pain to you. Hence you two may again get in touch, he may settle his score but then; you may have a score to settle with him. This may go on until a stage is reached in a particular life; when one of you gets tired of it and this is when this game ends.
It usually happens when one of you achieves sufficient spiritual growth to realize that one of you will have to quit the desire of settling score as otherwise; this negative relationship may never come to an end. If you’re that person; which means you achieve sufficient spiritual growth in a particular life say in this life; the enemy may hurt you but you may choose not to respond and you may bear all the pain caused by his acts. As soon as he feels his score is settled; this relationship ends because you don’t have any score to settle now.
It’s like a game where one of you has to win and you’ve become wise enough to accept defeat; since you know there’s no point in playing this game as it is useless; and the only way this game ends is when one of the two players accepts defeat. Kindly note that the game of hate can never be won by anyone, until the other person chooses to quit, which may be interpreted as accepting defeat.
This is because there is no finishing line in this game, which means it is independent of time and other conditions. It’s like you’re wrestling with someone and the rule says that as long as one of you doesn’t accept defeat; the game won’t be decided; even if it takes very long time. Hence the only way this game may end is when one of you accepts defeat. Another rule says that even if you’re badly injured or you get unconscious; you may take time to recover and then get back to this game. It means one of you has to accept defeat, in order for this game to end and there is no other way.
If such is the case, you may both keep wrestling for days, weeks, months or even for years as none of you may wish to accept defeat; and there is no other way to end this game. A time may come when the wiser one of you may choose to accept defeat since he may realize that there is no point in wasting time for this game. Though he may seem to have lost when he accepts defeat; he’s the winner in reality. This is because he’s seen the futility of this game of hate and through this experience; he’s learnt to stay away from all such games in future. It means this person won’t agree to engage in this kind of wrestling with anyone else in future; as he knows how useless and painful this game is.
On the other hand, the person who wins by virtue of the other person accepting defeat is a loser in the deepest sense. This is because he’s won this game after long period of wait; this will boost his self-pride and he may engage in such games again and again. Since he knows through experience that the other party may accept defeat after some time and he loves to win; he may keep playing this game of hate with different natives, simply in order to win. Though he may certainly win most of these games or all of them as the opponents in all the cases may prove wiser and they may choose to quit; this person is doomed to keep playing this game of hate.
This is because more he wins, more he wants to play and more he’s stuck in this game of hate. Accordingly, he may keep playing it though the other player may keep changing, which means his enemies may keep changing. Hence the winner in this game is loser in the deepest sense whereas the one who accepts defeat is the winner.
That is the reason you should not hate natives because such hate may get you tied to them, which means you may have to face them in a number of lives; in order to get rid of such hate.
Himanshu Shangari