Chapter 01
We’ve come to the third level which is the heartly level. This level deals with heart and through heart, it deals with a wide variety of feelings that heart may generate.
It is on account of the existence of this level within us that the words like beauty, love, joy, happiness and other such words have places in the dictionaries of various languages, as well as in our lives. However, the relevance as well as the presence of these words or feelings may differ in percentages, in case of different natives; depending on the strength of their heartly planes.
Looking at the word ‘beauty’, we’ll simply not be able to feel any kind of beauty, if we don’t have heartly planes. This is because, though brain deals with information, facts, logics, calculations, analyses and conclusions; it doesn’t deal with feelings. Hence when it comes to beauty, only heart can feel it and brain is incapable of feeling the beauty of anything as it can’t feel anything to start with. All the feelings and feelings are dealt with by heartly level.
Kindly note that among the principal units within you, like brain, heart, self-pride and moral-sense; only heart and brain have the ability to act independently and all other units require help from one or both these units in order to carry out their operations. This means that brain can do all the calculations on its own and it doesn’t require help from the other units. Similarly, heart can generate all kinds of feelings and feelings on its own and it also doesn’t require help from the other units.
However, when it comes to self-pride and moral-sense, they don’t do anything directly and both of them depend on brain as well as on heart; in order to carry out their operations. Though moral-sense can do certain things on its own; it still needs one of these units to give expressions to those things, in most cases. When it comes to self-pride, it can’t calculate anything on its own like brain and it can’t feel anything on its own like heart. Self-pride is more like an application which can control both your brain as well as your heart and it can get what it wants through them.
For example, self-pride can’t make any calculations or analyses like brain does but it can control or possess brain and tell it how to make calculations in different circumstances. It means that the calculations may still be made by brain in all kinds of circumstances, but the nature of such calculations can be imposed on your brain, by your self-pride. For example, when you try to settle a property division with your brother, your self-pride may control your brain and it may tell it to use its abilities in a way that you or so to say your self-pride gets as much as it can, through this division.
You can consider self-pride like a virus which corrupts the system it possesses and hence such system can’t work in its natural way. The moment self-pride possesses this system which is your entire existence; it starts operating this system; in any way it wants. Self-pride can possess your body, brain and heart; and through them, it can control each and every activity which needs one or more of these units. The units that self-pride can’t control or possess are your moral-sense and your soul and hence they always remain pure.
Kindly note that soul can neither be controlled nor damaged in any way by self-pride. However when it comes to moral-sense, it can’t be controlled or possessed by self-pride, but it can suffer damage through the hands of self-pride. It means as self-pride becomes bigger, it lowers the percentage and/or quantum of moral-sense you have, as these two units are in constant war within your existence.
When it comes to moral-sense, it is also dependent on brain and heart to get things done through them, like self-pride. Moral-sense can also control your body, brain and heart just like your self-pride can; though moral-sense does so to improve the performance of your system and not in order to gain benefits through it, as we’ll discover later on. Hence your self-pride and moral-sense require your brain, heart and even your body in order to get a number of things done, in most cases.
In order to understand this concept in a better way, imagine a property was purchased jointly by you and your younger brother, though the percentages of investments made by each one of you were different. Consider you made an investment of 60% and your brother made an investment of 40% in this property, many years back. Now for some reasons, a division of this property is under consideration. Consider you’re a native ruled by self-pride and your basic kind is brainy kind. It means you’re an brainy native having high self-pride. In this case, your self-pride may control your brain and it may tell your brain to find out a way which may bring maximum profit to you through this division.
Kindly note that if there is no self-pride and only your brain is doing this calculation; the matter may be decided in a very practical and brainy way. Your brain may simply let your brother know that the property should be divided in the ratio of 60% to 40% as investments were also made in the same ratio. Hence it looks like a practical solution based on fair calculations. This is what your brain does when it is exhibiting in its independent state and it is not being controlled by any other unit like self-pride or moral-sense.
However, as self-pride controls your brain, the way it operates changes. This is because self-pride doesn’t care about what is practical or fair, and all it cares for is to get more and more; and to possess more and more. The only objective of self-pride is to gain advantage over everyone and everything; and it is not concerned with the ways through which such advantages may be gained. That is the reason self-pride may often land you in troubles because it controls and misuses the abilities of your brain, heart and even those of your body in order to satisfy itself and such misuse often brings problems to you; according to the law of karma.
Hence your brain controlled by your self-pride may start finding ways to get as much as it can from this property division and it is not concerned about what is practical or fair. Kindly note that the definition of fair is different for all four of these units and they don’t have a common definition of what is fair. In fact, these four units called brain, heart, self-pride and moral-sense may have different definitions for most words and this is what makes us complex in nature as we have a number of definitions for every word or circumstance; as all these units lie within us.
When operating independently, your brain defines ‘fair’ as the resultant of unbiased calculations done in a particular case. Since we’re living in brainy world and most of the laws as well as other systems have been designed with the help of brain, the definition of fair for brain may be the prevalent definition of fair in most cases. This is because brain has delivered this definition for different circumstances and hence it may reach the same definition when put under similar conditions; unless controlled by another unit.
The definition of ‘fair’ in case of your self-pride is something that brings you maximum gains; thereby bringing it maximum satisfaction. As a result, the definition of fair according to self-pride may look biased and unfair according to prevalent norms; as such norms have been set up by uncorrupted brain, in most cases. Coming to the heart, it may define the word fair in an altogether different way, depending on what it feels like at that moment.
For example, if you’re a heart dominated native; your heart is not controlled by your self-pride and it is inclined towards your brother; you may ask your brother to decide this settlement in whichever way he wants. As a result, even if your brother divides this property in the ratio of 50-50 which is unfair according to your brain, your heart may happily accept it and it may even consider this division fair. When it comes to your heart, a deal of 50-50 may be equal to a deal of 60-40 or even to a deal of 0-100. That is the reason the word fair rings different bells to your heart.
However, if your heart is controlled by your self-pride, it only means that your heart will be misused. Accordingly, your heart may be pushed by your self-pride to define the word fair in a way that the latter may receive satisfaction from the division. Love is the natural feeling of heart and hate is introduced by self-pride. Therefore, as long as your heart remains unaffected by self-pride; you are able to love purely. On the other hand, as self-pride starts controlling your heart, the ratio of hate in your heart and the ratio of control in your overall personality may start increasing. Hence, if your self-pride controls your heart in this case, a different kind of meaning for the word fair may be found.
An interesting thing to note is that though self-pride can control your body, brain and heart; and their natural expressions may get distorted on account of the corruptions introduced by self-pride; the results may be different in the same circumstance; depending on your personality kind. It means that though your self-pride can control these units, your overall personality kind is still decided by the level which is the most developed one. For example, if your heartly level is the most developed one; your natural expressions in most circumstances may come from the heart and not from the body or brain; if self-pride doesn’t corrupt these units.
If your self-pride controls these units, your natural expressions may still come from your heart as it is the strongest among all three units; though these natural heartly expressions will be corrupted by your self-pride. Hence if you’re an emotionally dominated native with high self-pride; your natural response in most circumstances is an heartly response controlled by self-pride. As already explained, self-pride doesn’t have an independent system of its own and it operates through these three units. Accordingly, it can’t make you express yourself intellectually in most circumstances; if you don’t have much brain to start with. It means your self-pride can get things done through your brain, heart and body but it can’t change the strength of these units; especially in the short run.
Since self-pride loves the best thing among a number of things; it may control the strongest one among these units in order to get things done. Hence if you’re an brainy kind which means your level of intellect is the strongest among the three planes; your self-pride loves your brain much more than your body and heart. Accordingly; most of your actions and reactions may be brainy self-pride kind, which means brainy actions corrupted by self-pride. On the other hand, if your heartly level is the strongest one; your self-pride loves your heart the most and hence most of your actions will be heartly self-pride kind; which means corrupted heartly actions; as we’ll find out soon.
Similarly, if your physical level is the strongest one; your self-pride loves your body the most and hence most of your actions may be physical self-pride kind, which means corrupted physical actions. Therefore, your physical body may be corrupted or misused the most by your self-pride in this case; as it is the most dominant among all three units and accordingly; it is more likely to give an outward expression to what your self-pride wants.
If this is the case, your body may be misused by your self-pride which means you may have a disagreement with your brother and you may engage in a physical fight with him. You don’t care about fair division and all you care for is to beat him up, if he doesn’t settle the way you desire. This is because your self-pride is controlling your actions and your body is the weapon for your self-pride in this case. As a result, your self-pride uses this weapon against your brother and hence you may beat your brother up.
Moving to the second probability, if you’re an brainy kind with high self-pride; your self-pride may control your brain and hence it may be used as a weapon. As brain deals with calculations and analyses; the final expression may be to profit as much as you can, through the application of brain. Accordingly, you may try to use your brain to twist some facts related to this division in a way that you end up having as much share as you can.
In the third case, if you’re an heartly kind with high self-pride; your self-pride may control your heart and hence it may be used as a weapon. As your heart deals with feelings and feelings; the final expression may be to hurt your brother as much as you can through the application of your heart, if he doesn’t agree to do what you desire him to do. Since your heart is corrupted in this case; it operates on the principal of hate instead of operating on its natural principal; which is the principal of love.
As a result, your heart may not be interested in any settlement at all or it may be interested in a different kind of settlement; depending on your exact personality kind. For example, during this meeting for division; you may bring up a number of heartly grudges from the past; against your brother and you may ask him to apologize for the wrongs done by him to you; before you may consider this division. Kindly note that since you have high self-pride, many of these grudges may not be justified or fair to start with. However, as you already understand by this time, the definition of fair is different for self-pride.
Since the heart works in the most unpredictable ways among all these units; the results may be surprising in this case; when seen through the eyes of brain. For example; your heart controlled by your self-pride may tell your brother that as long as he doesn’t apologize for hurting him in the past, there’ll be no division. Even if the property is shut down under dispute and the matter goes to the court for many years; your corrupted heart may not be bothered and instead; it may feel happy. This is because all it wants is to hurt your brother if he doesn’t bow to your supremacy and apologizes; and in order to hurt him; you may also keep hurting yourself; as much as is required and for as long as it takes.
It is like you hate your neighbour a lot and in order to trouble him; you set your own house on fire in a way that his house should also catch fire. If this is the case, your corrupted heart may fill with joy when your house as well as the house of your neighbour burn together. This is because the only thing you desire is to make your neighbour suffer and you don’t care what price you may have to pay for it. As already mentioned in the third part of this book; the heart doesn’t know the language of price to start with and hence the question of profit and loss doesn’t rise in the first place.
All your heart feels is that your neighbour has hurt it, though in reality; he has hurt your self-pride and it is your self-pride which is controlling your heart and telling it that the neighbour has hurt it. Accordingly, your heart feels this pain and the only way it knows to balance this pain out is to make him feel similar amount of pain. Since money, assets, costs and material value of things are dealt with by brain and heart has got nothing to do with them; any price it pays to hurt this neighbour is immaterial. It means that for your heart; a loss of Rs. 1 Million is equal to a loss of Rs. 1 Billion is equal to a loss of Rs. 100 is equal to a loss of Rs. 1 is equal to no loss at all.
It may sound surprising but this is how heart operates. The reason it may sound strange to you is that the prevalent definitions of profit and loss have been established by brain, which means by the brainy kind of natives and they have not been finalized by the heartly kind of natives. In the language of the heart, only feelings matter and the cost or price doesn’t matter. Hence if you’re an heartly kind of native and a friend helped you some time back by giving you Rs. 50,000 and that brought you out of trouble, this is how you may repay him when he’s in require; provided your heart is not corrupted by your self-pride.
If you have sufficient resources, you may even help him out with Rs. 5 million if this is what is required to get him out of trouble. The best part is that at the most; you may only feel that the equation of help is balanced and nothing more than that. You may be surprised as to how can Rs. 50,000 equal Rs. 5 million? However, if you’re surprised, it is only because you’re using your brain to analyze this equation of help. Accordingly, Rs. 50,000 will never be equal to Rs. 5 million because brain deals with numbers and these two numbers are obviously not the same.
When it comes to heart, it doesn’t deal with numbers and it only deals with feelings. Hence the way your heart sees this equation is that you were in trouble once, this friend helped you as much as it was required to get you out of that problem, you got out of your problem only because of his help and you felt completely relieved. Kindly pay focus to two words; as they may be the words your heart may care for the most. The first word is help and the second is the phrase ‘completely relieved’. Therefore, the fair definition of help for your heart in this case is to help your friend as much as is required to get him out of his problem so that he may feel completely relieved, just like you did.
Hence your heart equates feelings with feelings and not numbers with numbers. A feeling of help must be balanced with a feeling of help and a feeling of complete relief must be returned with a feeling of complete relief. Whether you spend Rs. 50,000, Rs. 5 million or even Rs. 5 billion is immaterial for your heart because it doesn’t deal in numbers and it instead deals in feelings and feelings. Accordingly, your brain may see this act as an act of help which is much more in quantum than the quantum of help offered by your friend. However, your heart may see it equal in quantum because the end result in both the cases is the same feeling of complete relief.
It is interesting to note that even if your friend needs Rs. 5000 only to get out of his problem; your heart may do the same calculations. It means you may give him Rs. 5000, it gets him out of his problem, he feels relieved and you consider this equation balanced. Working on the same theory, your heart doesn’t know that Rs. 5000 is ten times less than Rs. 50,000 and you still owe your friend an act of help equivalent to Rs. 45,000 which is the difference in amount. As already mentioned, the numbers are considered by your brain and not by your heart. Even in this case, your heart feels that help has been returned by help and a feeling of complete relief has been returned by a feeling of complete relief. Accordingly, it considers the equation settled though your friend may not think so, if he’s an brainy kind of native.
That is the reason natives dominated by their hearts may prove most unpredictable at times because we decide the predictability of natives on the basis of brain whereas the heart doesn’t know the language of brain. It is only if you know the language of heart that you may predict the next action of someone dominated by heart. Let’s now look at a beautiful incident from the life of Lord Krishna, in order to understand the working of heart in an even better way.
Lord Krishna is a powerful Emperor at the time of this incident and he possesses great amounts of wealth. One day, a janitor comes and tells him that a bagger-looking native named Sudaama has come to the door and he’s claiming to be lord’s childhood friend. Lord Krishna is busy with his queens at that time but as soon as he hears the name Sudaama, he starts running towards the door; barefoot and calling out his friend’s name.
He reaches the door in frenzy; he embraces his friend and he welcomes him in. Everyone is surprised by the way a powerful king is treating a bagger as lord Krishna is personally doing most things for his friend. Sudaama stays for some days and then he asks for lord’s permission to leave. Sudaama is suffering from extreme poverty and encouraged by his wife, he’s come to lord Krishna, in order to ask for financial help. However, he is unable to ask for such help after witnessing the purest love of lord Krishna for him; as he feels that introducing money to this equation may take away the beauty of this love. Hence he leaves without asking for any help and lord Krishna also doesn’t offer him any financial help.
Hence Sudaama leaves for his village, absolutely filled with lord’s love. However, as soon as Sudaama leaves, lord Krishna starts distributing his wealth and he starts assigning one possession after another to Sudaama. He doesn’t do so in front of Sudaama as that may make him feel ashamed. Queen Rukmini is present at the venue and she’s looking at this act in a surprising manner. As lord Krishna keeps assigning more and more of his wealth to Sudaama, a time comes when Rukmini interferes and she asks the lord to reconsider this distribution as she feels the lord may give him everything if she doesn’t stop him.
Hence she interferes and she asks the lord as to why is he assigning so much of his wealth to Sudaama? Lord Krishna says that his friend helped him in time of require and he’s returning the favour. He then tells her that at a time during childhood, they were stuck in a jungle for a long period of time on account of bad weather; and they had almost nothing to eat. Sudaama had some rice with him but the quantity was so small that it was not sufficient even for one native and both of them were almost dying of hunger. Sudaama took out the rice, he offered a handful to lord Krishna and he kept the other handful for himself as this was all he had; and they both ate the rice. As the weather got better, they both got back to the village.
Lord Krishna stops after this and says that he’s returning the help offered by his friend; many years back. Rukmini gets confused after hearing this incident as her brain was not able to understand how lord Krishna can offer so many valuable things in return for a handful of rice. She asks lord Krishna as to how can he justify giving immense wealth to his friend in return for a handful of rice?
The answer to her question is one of the most beautiful answers ever; and such answer can only be given by a native with pure and absolutely uncorrupted heart. Lord Krishna says that when Sudaama helped him; he only had two handfuls of rice; both of them were in require of it and he gave him one handful. He then says that the entire wealth of Sudaama at that time was two handfuls of rice and he gave him one; which means he gave him half his wealth.
Hence in the deepest sense, his help can only be returned when the lord also gives him half of his wealth at this time. He says that is the reason he is assigning one thing after another to his name. He’s calculating whether the half mark has been reached or not and as he finds he still has more than Sudaama; he keeps adding more to Sudaama’s account so that both of them have equal amount of wealth. This is what your heart can do when it is not corrupted by self-pride. For heart, feelings equate with feelings and numbers don’t equate with numbers.
Let’s look at the mindset of Rukmini as well as that of lord Krishna during this incident. She’s assessing Sudaama’s act of help through her brain and accordingly; she is not able to understand how such immense amount of wealth can be equal to or even less than a handful of rice. On the other hand, lord Krishna is assessing Sudaama’s help through his heart and hence he finds that he also needs to give half of his wealth to his friend, in order for such help to be called fair. You see, the definition of fair is different for heart and brain.
The reason why lord Krishna uses his heart instead of brain is that friendship is the domain ruled by heart and not by brain. Accordingly; his moral-sense prohibits his brain to interfere, even if it wants to do so. In addition to that; the lord understands that when Sudaama helped him out; he did so with his heart and not with his brain. It means Sudaama helped lord Krishna because of love for him and not in order gain something. Since Sudaama’s help came from heart; it can only be returned from heart; in the deepest sense. Hence lord Krishna returns this help through his heart and not through his brain.
Back to the example, if you set your house on fire in order to burn your neighbour’s house also, you’re doing it because you know he loves his house a lot and losing his house will hurt him with the same or even with more quantum than he hurt you with. As a result, all you care for is that the neighbour should feel the same pain as you felt and the material price you pay for causing him this pain doesn’t matter at all. As you’re a native dominated by heart, the financial losses occurred by burning your own house don’t matter for you.
Going back to the property division, you may ask your brother to apologize for the wrongs done by him to you and your next action may depend on his reaction. If he apologizes on account of any reasons and your heart is satisfied, which means your self-pride is satisfied as it is your self-pride which is controlling your heart at this time; with the way he feels sorry; you may agree to this division and you may not care about the numbers. It means that if your brother apologizes in a humble way and your self-pride is satisfied; you may offer him a 50-50 deal or you may even give him the entire property, depending on your financial status and on your exact personality kind at that time.
It means if you’re super rich and your brother has satisfied your self-pride through your heart, you may even give him the entire property. However, if you don’t have the financial luxury of losing your share in this property, you may still give him something extra, like a deal of 50-50. The reason you may do so is that you’re an emotionally dominated native and accordingly, heartly satisfaction is the most principal thing for you.
Kindly note that an heartly self-pride kind native may value nothing more than heartly supremacy and he may not assign much value to money and wealth; compared to authority. Though he may have a lot of money and wealth; he may not love them much and he may instead use them as weapons to satisfy his self-pride on heartly level. Hence he can help a number of natives if they bow to him and if they agree to whatever he says. As long as they can bow to him, agree to him and apologize whenever he wishes them to do so; he may keep giving them favours. If one such native enters politics; his primary objective may be to gain authority and not to make money through politics, though he may make money in order to purchase more authority. Hence he may spend a lot of money in order to gain authority.
On the other hand, an brainy self-pride kind native may value nothing more than money and wealth; and hence his behavior may be a lot different. Money or wealth means power for him; power means security and security is an principal concern for brain as well as for self-pride. Therefore, you can’t fool him through flattery and other such things as in the first case; and you require a different approach. The natives he may like the most are the ones who can suggest him some plans for gaining more wealth or who can come up with offers which look profitable. It means this native may only understand the language of money and he may not care much for anything else. Hence he may care to attend to you; only if he sees some profit through you.
If one such native enters politics; his primary objective may be to make more and more money through authority and the authority itself becomes secondary. This is the kind which is found the most in politics now-a-days and that is the reason more and more corruption is ruling politics. Heartly self-pride kind politicians primarily engage in acts of display of power and authority when they achieve such authority; and they may not desire to make huge amounts of money through politics. As long as they have sufficient to purchase authority in future and they’re able to impress natives with their authority, they’re satisfied. Hence they may show off more but they may engage less in financial corruption.
On the other hand, brainy self-pride kind politicians focus on earning more and more money; and the word sufficient doesn’t exist in their dictionary; when it comes to make money through authority. Accordingly; they’re the ones who may engage in acts of financial corruption; more than any other kind. They’re generally not interested in showing off their authority and the authority they have is only a tool to make more and more money and wealth for them. Since politics is a field ruled by brain and not by feelings; the number of politicians of this kind is much more than the number of politicians of any other kind; throughout the world. It means that financial corruption may almost never be eliminated from politics and history is the witness to this fact. It looks sad as well as hopeless; but this is how it is.
Going back to the example of property division, since you’re an heartly self-pride kind, authority is more valuable than money for you. As your unconscious part of brain/mind has a perfect record of this top priority of yours, it may make you give him more even if you don’t think much about it, in order to help you out.
As a result, you may deliver a decision to give him more than he intellectually deserves; and this decision may come without any conscious thoughts because it may be given by your unconscious part of brain/mind. The reason for this extra value given to your brother is that this extra financial value is delivered with a hidden or so to say a unconscious signals that as long as your brother takes care of your heartly needs, he’ll keep benefitting in terms of material things, in future also.
Let’s analyze this act in details. Sooner or later, your brother will realize that you don’t care about the percentages or money to start with and all you care for is heartly satisfaction. This is because he realizes that as soon as he satisfied you emotionally, you gave him more than he deserved; as per his brain. This gives him a strong hint for future that all he needs to do in order to have a good equation with you or even in order to get benefits from you is to take care of your feelings.
Accordingly, he may publically start showing more respect for you, he may start paying more focus to your heartly needs and he may start doing many other such things which give you the kinds of feelings that your self-pride wants through your heart. In return, you may start offering him more and more things holding material value; as he may be an brainy kind and you know that these things matter to him the most. Hence a silent understanding may be reached through which, your brother gives you heartly comfort and you give him financial comfort or so to say brainy comfort in return.
An onlooker may think your brother is exploiting you as he is the one who’s benefitting in terms of material things; but this is not how you may feel. The equation is fairly balanced according to you because he gives you what you like and you give him what he likes. The end result of both these kinds of acts is a feeling of satisfaction and hence they’re balanced. He gives you satisfaction the way you desire and you give him satisfaction the way he wants; and this is what is fair according to your heart. Hence even if a number of natives keep telling you that your brother is exploiting you financially; you may not pay focus at all; as you know the equation is fairly balanced.
Coming to the second probability of division when you’re an heartly kind with high self-pride; if your brother refuses to apologize for any reasons which may even be justified according to him; you may refuse to settle. This is because you know he attaches same value to material things that you attach to feelings and hence you may desire to make him feel the same pain that he caused you, if he refuses to apologize. The division may go to the court and it may be kept pending for many years, causing your brother more and more pain as he may desire to get his share at the earliest and so the delay disturbs him. You may even intentionally delay the proceedings by manipulating certain aspects of this case, as you know that such delay will cause even more pain to your brother.
You see, how the definition of the word ‘fair’ may be different for your body, brain, heart and self-pride. Your body defines ‘fair’ as returning the same amount of physical pleasure or pain that someone gives you, provided it is not controlled by your self-pride, in which case it gets corrupted. Your brain defines ‘fair’ as a returning a rational amount of profit or loss based on calculations, to the native who gives you such profit or loss; unless it is corrupted by your self-pride. Your heart defines ‘fair’ as returning the same kind of feeling that someone gives you, provided it is not corrupted by your self-pride.
When it comes to self-pride, it defines ‘fair’ as whatever satisfies it and it finds the use of any method fair, in order to achieve its objective. Since your self-pride is dependent on your body, brain and heart for practically applying its actions, it may use one or more than one of them in order to get what it wants. Hence if it corrupts your body, you may beat your brother up in the already mentioned example. If it controls your brain, you may try to give your brother less than he deserves, as brain is all about the numbers. If your self-pride controls your heart, you may either desire your brother to emotionally pay for his wrong doings by apologizing or you may make him feel the same pain that you’re feeling.
Kindly note that even if you choose to give him more when he apologizes, this is an act of self-pride and it is not an act of uncorrupted heart. This is because all you desire in this case is to see your brother in pain and when it comes to pain, there’s no pain as strong as the pain caused by a forced apology; provided you have significant amount of self-pride. Hence the intent is to cause him the same amount of pain on instant basis rather than doing so through court case which takes much longer.
Your heart is only interested in causing him pain and it doesn’t care how such pain is caused. Whether it is caused through apology or through court case is all the same to your heart. In fact, the former is better than the latter. This is on account of the reason that if such pain is caused through apology, your supremacy is accepted which is an added bonus whereas if such pain is caused through court case, your supremacy is not accepted though your brother may feel the same amount of pain in this case also. That is the reason emotionally dominated natives with high egos may present apology as an option for many disputes; as it makes them feel in command. You see, how the interplay of all these units can complicate the personality of a native, depending on which of them dominates and which of them controls him at a time.
It is the time to look at the moral-sense. Moral-sense is also an application like self-pride and hence it also depends on your physical body, brain and heart in order to get certain things done. However, moral-sense is a different kind of application and in fact; it is almost the opposite of self-pride. If self-pride is a virus which controls the functions of all the three units already mentioned, moral-sense offers an antivirus as a part of its application. It means as your moral-sense grows, it starts fighting with your self-pride and it starts stopping your self-pride from corrupting your body, brain and heart.
Accordingly, more your moral-sense grows, freer you may feel from your self-pride and the expressions of all three units may become freer from corruptions, which means they may start exhibiting in their natural states. However, this is not the only thing your moral-sense does and this application comes with other features also. Moral-sense also works like a booster and it can enhance the performance of your body, heart and brain. As your moral-sense grows beyond a point; it can unleash such powers hidden inside your body; brain and/or heart; which can help them connect to such units from other worlds; which have greater or much greater powers and abilities compared to a human.
The basic job of your moral-sense is to keep these three units free from any kinds of corruptions as well as from any kinds of pressures or interferences. In addition to that, it is the job of your moral-sense to make sure that these three units work as a team and they co-operate with one another, as and when required.
Though self-pride can corrupt or control these units and cause problems; these units on their own can also interfere with one another at times and this is where moral-sense comes handy. For example, if you’re playing a video game and your brain is taking great pleasure in this video game, supposing it is a video game that requires a lot of brainy abilities; this is what may happen in the absence of moral-sense. You may get so involved in this video game that you may keep ignoring the indicators from your body that it needs food or it wants to excrete water as the bladder may be full.
You may have noticed that while playing those interesting video games, the food, the require to go to toilet and many other such things may be suppressed; and sometimes, suppressed a lot. When this happens, it means your brain is interfering with the affairs of your body because your body needs to engage in certain activities and your brain is stopping it from doing so. This can happen as long as your moral-sense has not grown beyond a certain level and this can even enhance if you have high self-pride.
However, as your moral-sense reaches a healthy level, it stops your brain from interfering with the needs of your body and it guides your brain to stop playing this video game, have your meal or go to toilet; then come back and play again. Your moral-sense has got nothing against your brain or against any other unit for that matter and all it wants is for all these units to work in harmony. Hence it makes sure that your brain doesn’t trouble your body in order to get what it wants.
Kindly note that maintaining harmony between these units means stopping an unit from forcing another unit to do or not to do something that becomes necessary for it; and the word necessary is the key here. For example, if your body is genuinely in require of food, this function becomes necessary as it needs energy in order to carry out its operations in a smooth way. As your brain stops your body from doing so in order to get what it wants, say for a period of 30 to 60 minutes or even longer; your brain forces your body to make unnecessary compromises.
Looking at the circumstance of your brain; the act it is engaging in is relatively less principal than the act your body wants to engage in. Hence your body should be given priority. This is because playing video games ranks low in priority when compared to the require of your body for food as the require of your body in this case is necessity whereas the require of your brain is luxury. As it is easy to understand; necessity should not be compromised at the cost of luxury. Hence your moral-sense stops your brain in this case, in order to maintain harmony.
Another fact worth mentioning is that most of such video games come with a pause feature or they offer you to save your progress at check points which may appear every 2 to 4 minutes. Hence you have the luxury to put your video game on pause and resume it after having your meal; without much trouble. On the other hand, the require for food and the require to urinate don’t come with a pause feature. Though you can certainly abstain from doing these things for an hour or two; such delay is not natural and you’re forcing it. This means that your body is not co-operating and you’re forcing it to adjust; which is where harmony gets disturbed.
The word harmony in this context means that whatever your moral-sense finds worthy of doing at any stage; all three units should agree to it. Taking the present case, your moral-sense knows that if such force is used on your body, this will disturb harmony as your body may start suffering. Though such suffering may be on small scale and you may not even notice it in the short run, the consequences are bound to appear in the long run. This is something that your brain may not know or care for; but your moral-sense knows and cares for. This is the reason it may stop your brain to force unnecessary things on your body, in order to maintain harmony.
Have you ever wondered why natives in general are physically or even mentally not as healthy as they used to be in old times? The root cause of this problem is disturbance of harmony within us. In the recent times; more and more priority has been given to the brain and in order to do so; the body and heart have been ignored, which has resulted in disturbance of harmony. There are no doubts that when it comes to brainy domain; we’ve seen the kind of progress which may certainly be much more in quantum as well as in pace; compared to the progress made during many other ages in the same amount of time. However, this progress has come at high price.
As the needs of physical body have been ignored and as it has been forced to make unnecessary compromises; it has suffered in the long run and hence; the physical health factor has significantly dropped. That is the reason in order to balance this factor; many kinds of physical exercises and special kinds of diets have been introduced in the recent times. Though they have certainly helped; but only to an extent and even they’ve failed to restore the natural harmony of body, brain and heart that we used to have, as the force factor continues to exist.
Looking at the other end of this problem, we have not only invited a number of physical problems by ignoring the body, we have also invited a number of mental problems by putting too much load on the brain. That is the reason a number of mental health issues have also appeared over these years and this is what happens when harmony is disturbed. The body is suffering because it is being forced to make compromises whereas mental health is suffering because the brain is being used beyond healthy levels.
That is the reason the word balance is the most principal word. The word balance in this context can be considered equal to harmony and both these words may be considered similar to but not equal to the word moral-sense. This is because moral-sense tries to restore harmony or balance. However, it can compromise the balance between these three units at times; when the require to restore balance rises in fields much bigger than you.
Though your moral-sense may still be engaging in the act of restoring balance, such balance may be universal or collective and in order to restore such balance, the balance of these three units within you may be disturbed. This is how your moral-sense works. It knows perfectly at every time; which one of a given number of things is the most principal, which one comes second and so on. It’ll always do them in the order of priority.
Coming back to mental health issues, kindly note that the word harmony or balance is the key here. Using any of these three units below a healthy level can cause problems and using any of these units much above healthy levels can also cause problems. This is because when you use your body below a required level or you force it to make compromises beyond a healthy level; it starts deteriorating. Similarly, when you use your brain beyond a healthy level; you don’t give it sufficient time to expand and relax; and hence you may invite mental health issues.
Kindly note that all these units require time to refresh and grow; and this rule must be followed in order to maintain harmony. For example, it is not when you go to gym and engage in hard exercises that your body grows; it is when you take rest that it grows. By engaging in such exercises; you’re only giving demand to your body that you require more strength or muscle and you’re doing nothing more than that.
However when you take rest; it is then that your system takes care of this request and it works in order to grow more muscle and strength so that you may have it the next time you desire to do those exercises. If you choose to go against this rule; you may disturb the balance and you may end up suffering instead of benefitting. For example, if you try to engage in gym exercises for 8 hours every day and you sleep for 4 hours only or even less; you’re certainly going to land in trouble because you’re putting so much load on your body and you’re not giving it sufficient rest to gain more strength or even to recover; in order to be able to handle this load, the next time.
Hence your gym trainer may suggest you to exercise for an hour or two at the most at beginner or even at intermediate level; and that also for five days or at the most six days a week and not more than that. This is because they know that if proper rest is not given to your body, you may suffer in the long run; though you may see some benefits in the short run.
The same happens to your brain also. When you keep using it a lot; without giving it sufficient rest; it starts suffering. The fact which makes it even more complicated is that it is much more difficult to rest brain compared to the body. It means all you require in order to rest your body is to lie down or assume any other posture of resting your body, though you may be doing something like watching TV. Even when you watch TV, your body starts relaxing and by the time you’ve watched it for 30 minutes, your body may be relatively relaxed and ready to work again.
However, this is not the case with brain; as it needs different kind of rest. The fatigue of your body is physical and hence it needs physical rest whereas the fatigue of your brain is mental and hence it needs mental rest. Therefore, you require to stop engaging your brain in any kind of mental activity at all; in order to give it proper rest; just like you require to stop your body from engaging in any kind of physical activity, in order to rest it.
That is the reason you can relax your body while lying on couch and watching TV but you may not be able to relax your brain this way. In fact, you may end up making the circumstance even worse than it was at the beginning of this act. This is because the TV program you are watching may require the application of a lot of brain. Hence it puts even more pressure on your level of intellect, instead of relaxing it. In this case, your body is resting but your brain is working and accordingly; your body will relax and your brain may get even more tired.
However, this is not a big problem and it can be fixed. All you require to do is to start watching such programs which require minimum amount of brain or which require the application of heart instead. For example, watching all those foolish kind comedy shows or listening to soothing music can relax your level of intellect also. This is because music is dealt with by your heart and hence your brain is put to rest. Comedy shows do require some brain in order to be understood properly; but the application of your brain is the opposite kind in this case and hence these programs help it relax.
If you go to gym, you may remember that after doing all those heavy exercises for a particular muscle group, certain stretching exercises for the same muscle group are recommended. As a general rule; these exercise should put more pressure on that muscle group and accordingly; it should feel even more tired. However, the opposite happens and your muscle is relaxed. This is because all other exercises are intentionally meant to put pressure on this muscle group in order to put demand for growth; but this last exercise is aimed at releasing some of that pressure.
Kindly note that the demand for extra muscle has already been given through those exercises and hence you don’t require to carry this tension in your muscle any longer. Accordingly; some physical movements which aim at releasing the pressure instead of building it are advised. When you do these stretching exercises, you may feel that the tension from that particular muscle group has lowerd. Hence specific kinds of physical exercises are done in order to relieve specific kinds of physical tensions. That is the reason you may find most sportsmen engaging in stretching exercises during games. They do so to remove unwanted tension from their muscles. Though these exercises are physical in nature, they don’t cause tension in muscles and they remove the already existing tension.
The same happens in case of level of intellect or brain also. The kind of effort it does when you’re watching comedy shows is the opposite of what it does in general and hence this effort serves as stretching exercise for your brain. Kindly note that even in order to watch and understand comedy shows as well as in order to laugh; you require the application of brain and you can’t do this without brain. This is because comedy is created either through circumstances or through words and you have to understand the meaning behind those circumstances and words, in order to be able to enjoy it.
As soon as the word ‘understand’ comes to picture, brain also comes with it. In general, comedy shows which feature comedy through circumstances, which means they try to make you laugh through visuals; require less amount of brain. This happens because visuals are generally self-explanatory and they don’t have hidden meanings. On the other hand, words can have hidden meanings and in fact; some comedy shows may be entirely based on the theme of creating laughter through words with hidden meanings. These are the comedy shows which require more brain compared to some other shows which deal with graphics or with relatively simple words or sentences.
However, even in case of comedy shows which require more brain, the application of brain is in a different direction and hence such exercises of your brain help you relax. In addition to that, as and when you laugh while watching these shows; laughter creates that special effect of relaxing your level of intellect in its own way. That is the reason watching comedy shows can help you.
When it comes to music, you may require brain in order to pay focus to the words being said in a song, but the amount of brain used is not much. The music in the song needs almost no amount of brain as there’s nothing to understand in music and in fact, you can’t understand a thing about music, even if you use all your brain. Music can only be felt and it can’t be understood. It means though you can understand what instruments can be used to create music and how those instruments can be used; you can’t first understand music and then enjoy it, like you do in case of comedy shows; as music is felt through heart.
Hence you require almost no brain to understand it because music is not understood and it is felt. Since feeling something falls under your heart’s domain, you use heart and not brain in order to enjoy music.
That is the reason you may find that the pieces which contain music only and no words; may prove much more soothing and relaxing. It happens because your heart is completely engaged in order to feel them and that shifts the focus of energy away from your brain. Therefore, if you’re listening to a piece of music which has no words and you’re lying on bed while doing so; this is what is happening. Since you’re not using much of the available energy for your body; it relaxes. Moving on, as your brain is also not doing much work and at the same time, your heart may be using most of your available energy to feel this piece of music as much as it can; your unconscious part of brain/mind may limit the supply of energy to your body as well as to your brain in order to send maximum amount of energy to your heart so that it may succeed at what it is doing.
As that happens, your body and brain feel even more relaxed because more energy means more activity and less energy means less activity which further means more relaxation. Hence comedy shows and music relax your brain. There are a number of other such activities which may do so; and hence they can be used to achieve this objective. In fact, there are specific activities intended to relax each one of these three units and hence they can be used as and when required.
Himanshu Shangari