Kindly note that the rules and laws of various countries and societies have been made by brainy natives so that some kind of predictable order may be observed in societies as well as in systems bigger than societies.
As brain is all about making calculations and drawing probabilities based on those calculations and as it does so under certain defined rules which don’t change in general; it is much more dependable when it comes to achieve stability. That is the reason brain is used to draft rules and laws because it keeps calling the same thing right which it did a number of years ago. It means brain works on the basis of fixed theories and hence it doesn’t deviate much with time, though it may evolve and certain modifications may be applied to such theories.
However, brain may seldom suggest something which is very different or the exact opposite of what it suggested some time back, in relation to the same thing or circumstance. For example, it is brain which makes you learn and apply this simple rule that two plus two equals four. Once you’ve learnt this rule; it is not likely to change throughout your life and hence; two plus two will always be four for you; as long as your brain is dealing with this calculation.
Taking another example, it is brain which makes you learn and apply this rule that as long as the sun remains effective in the sky, it is day whereas the absence of Sun is night. To simplify, your brain learns a rule that the presence of sunlight is day and the absence of sunlight means night. Once it learns this rule, it may not change it and it may keep obeying this rule. Accordingly, when brain is used to make laws or rules; it sticks to them and it doesn’t change its stand, which is what makes it predictable; and predictability is the first thing required for any kinds of laws or rules to sustain in the long run.
The matters of heart are much different than those of brain. When it comes to the domain of heart, two plus two can equal four at one time; two plus two can equal five at another time, this resultant may be zero at yet another time and it may be anything else at another time. For example, one native plus one more native is two persons for your brain but it can still be one native for your heart as it sees them in so much love that they’re not two but one. Looking at another probability, it may see them as no native as they may hate each other so much that they may end up killing each other.
Though your brain may consider this result only when it actually happens which means they kill each other in reality; your heart may see it happening the moment it feels that the quantum of hate between these two natives is strong enough to kill them both. If you look at it from a broad prospective; your heart can give you better and faster decisions than your brain can, at times. This is because brain works on the basis of probabilities and it moves in steps; one after another. Hence if a process involves ten steps; brain considers all of them one by one; before reaching to the conclusion which is obtained after the tenth step or at the tenth step. So it moves from step one to step two, then to step three and it reaches to step ten in this way.
When it comes to heart; it may directly jump from the first step to the tenth step; not caring for the steps in between. Your brain may find it absurd as that is not how it should be, because the chances of error are high if you do so. However, a surprising thing is that your heart may be right on more such occasions than it may be wrong; provided it is not corrupted by self-pride. These chances further increase a lot if it is boosted by moral-sense. If such is the case, your heart may almost always jump from the first step to the last step; even if it is step number 100 or step number 1000; and it’ll almost always be right.
Hence your heart may do things for you in a moment; which your brain may take years or even lives to achieve; in such cases. That is the reason you may almost never be able to understand concepts like God and soul through brain as you require to go through millions of steps and doing so is almost impossible for brain. However, your heart may directly jump from the first step which is you; to the last step which is God; and it may eliminate all the steps in between. For this reason; a number of things can only be achieved by your heart and not by brain. In practical language, these concepts can only be felt or experienced and they can’t be understood.
Since feelings are ruled by heart; you require heart to feel and experience these concepts. For example, you can’t understand the exact taste of a mango without eating it; no matter how hard you may try, which means no matter how much you may read or hear about its taste. The best way to know how a mango tastes is to taste it; which means to feel it and experience it. Hence you can’t know the exact taste of a mango without experiencing it and the same goes for a number of other things.
Accordingly; you can’t understand your soul, God and the biggest concepts related to existence; no matter how much you read about them or hear about them, which means through your brain. The only way to know them in sense is to feel and experience them, just like you do in case of mango. This way comes through your heart and not through brain.
Moving on, the heart doesn’t follow fixed rules like brain and it works in a different way. One rule that can define your heart in the best possible way is the rule of feeling. It means whatever your heart feels like doing at any time is the rule for that time. It means heart is all about the present moment and nothing else.
Hence a native dominated by heart can see day as night or night as day if his heart tells him so. Similarly, a native dominated by heart can kill someone or he may sacrifice his life for someone, if he feels that doing so is the right thing according to the circumstance, though it may be absolutely wrong according to the brain. An interesting fact is that if you injure someone under the influence of your brain, you may never feel bad for it as you do all the calculations before engaging in such act and you may only do so when your brain gives you justified reasons to engage in such act; provided it is not controlled by your self-pride.
Since your brain has justified this action first and engaged in it later on; and as brain remains fixed in its opinions; you may not feel bad later on. For example, when a policeman shoots a criminal in an encounter; he may not feel guilty later on as he knows in advance that shooting this criminal is his duty and hence he’s not doing anything wrong. The moment he leaves for the venue where such encounter is planned; he’s decisive that he’ll shoot the criminal or criminals if required. Hence it’s an action well planned by his brain and it may not bring regrets later on.
On the other hand, if you injure someone under the influence of your heart; you do so under impulse and you don’t care for right or wrong in this act. Your heart feels like doing so and you do it. The confusion may start when after some time or even shortly after doing so; your heart is controlled by another feeling that the other native is suffering a lot and your heart starts giving you vibes of discomfort. Based on your overall personality kind, you may ask for forgiveness, you may offer help or you may even injure yourself in order to balance out this act. This is the problem with heart, it doesn’t stick to fixed rules and it can keep changing them based on how it feels at any particular time. When you use your brain to analyze this circumstance; injuring yourself in order to balance out the equation is foolishness.
Taking an example, if you’re an emotionally dominated native, you may even kill someone in the heat of the moment. When you’re captured and presented before a judge who is intellectually dominated; you may confess your crime and you may feel truly sorry for engaging in such crime as you were unable to realize the quantum of such crime while committing it. The judge is brainy, he looks at the facts; he finds you guilty and he delivers the punishment decided for this crime.
Whether he gives you a life sentence or capital punishment may not bother him at all later on; as he is doing so after due consideration. Hence you may regret your act of committing a murder as you’re an heartly kind; the judge may not regret his act of punishing you as he’s an brainy kind. Kindly note that the judges completely dominated by brain may deliver justice; completely in accordance with the letter of the law whereas the judges having significantly strong heartly planes may bend their decisions one way or another.
For example, if someone kills a loved one of yours and being an heartly kind; you kill him also; this is what may happen. The brainy kind of judge may award you punishment which duly justifies this kind of crime. Consider, the minimum punishment for murder is 14 years; the maximum punishment is the capital punishment and your crime seems to deserve 20 years on brainy merit; then this is what an brainy kind of judge may reward you with. On the other hand, an heartly kind of judge may reward you 14 years in this case as he may be biased in your favour because you killed someone who killed a loved one of yours.
It means that deep down; the heartly judge is bent in your favour as he feels you did the right thing by killing the native who killed your loved one or he feels that this act was only partly wrong. Hence he may award you with minimum possible punishment. On the other hand, the brainy kind of judge may not consider this fact in your favour and he may even consider it against you because of the fact that if everyone starts taking revenge on his own; there may be no law and order in the long run. Hence he may consider this fact against you that instead of approaching the law; you decided to punish that native by yourself. Therefore he may not have much mercy on you. Hence an brainy kind of judge may prove bad for you in this case.
On the other hand, if you’ve raped a girl though you’ve not physically harmed her otherwise, this is what may happen. If the punishment for this crime is from 14 years to capital punishment, the brainy judge may give you 14 years because the act of rape committed by you is the least violent kind or the least intense kind of rape. Hence he may give you the minimum punishment because the law says if the crime of rape is of least intensity, the punishment should be the least, which is 14 years in this case.
If the same case is decided by an heartly kind of judge, you may get 20 years for the same crime as he may bend against you. This is because he may hate you for raping a girl and hence he may desire to punish you as much as he can. Since the quantum of punishment may not be justified by any means if it crosses 20 years in this case; he may give you 20 years of imprisonment. If he has the choice, he may give you the capital punishment also though he may not do so in this case.
This is on account of the reason that he understands that the intensity of your crime doesn’t call for a capital punishment according to the letter of law. Accordingly, such punishment may be cancelled by a higher court and he may also have to explain his motive behind awarding such inappropriate punishment. Therefore, he may desire to give you capital punishment but he may end up giving you a sentence for 20 years or as much as he feels he safely can. You see, how the kind of personality you possess can affect each and every decision you make.
Taking a more common example when you’re an heartly kind, consider you and your lover have a fight and under impulse, you hit her on face with your fist and she sustains significant injury like she may break a tooth. Soon after that, you may start feeling bad and you start hitting your fist against the wall so that it may be punished. Your heart may feel that doing so balances your previous action but your brain may find it an even bigger mistake.
According to your brain, you make one mistake when you hit your lover because the rule it has learnt is that physical violence without valid reason is prohibited and so you should not have used it against your lover. However, if by any chance, you’ve engaged in physical violence and you’ve hurt her, the best thing you can do is to compensate her by taking care of her or by doing something else which may satisfy her. On the contrary, by hurting yourself, you’re only making the circumstance worse because one native required to be taken care of as a result of your first action; and two natives require medical focus as a result of your second action as you may seriously injure your hand. Hence the problem has not been solved but it has aggravated, according to your brain.
When it comes to your heart, it feels like hitting your lover and before your brain may interfere and stop it from doing so, you hit her. As your heart doesn’t do calculations in advance, it may not be aware about the result of this action at all, which means it may not be aware of how much damage can be caused by this act; and all it knows is that it feels like hitting her. Hence when you do so under the impact of your heart, you don’t hit her with the intention of breaking her tooth and you simply hit her as you feel like doing so. Whether your punch causes mild injury or serious injury is none of your business at this moment because the quantum of injury is a calculation and the heart doesn’t deal with calculations.
Hence you hit her under the command of your heart and as you complete this act, this feeling leaves your heart for the time being. This is because your heart felt like hitting her, you’ve hit her and hence it has achieved what it wanted and so it can move out of this zone now. Kindly note that if your heart doesn’t feel like having enough of this feeling when you hit her once, it may keep pushing you to do so again and hence you may keep hitting her until it feels satisfied and this is the time you may stop, though you may have caused significant damage to her face by that time.
Once your heart feels satisfied, it is free of this feeling and hence it relaxes. As it relaxes, the feeling of love for your lover may come back and that feeling may overtake it. When that happens, your heart may start feeling bad by looking at your bleeding lover and it may now feel like punishing the guilty one, who made her suffer so much.
Since the culprit is no one but you; it is you who should face this punishment. As your hand has hit your lover, the same hand should be punished as this is what your heart may feel at that moment. Once again, under the influence of your heart which is controlled by a different kind of feeling now, you may start hitting the wall with your fist and you may injure your hand. The reason why your heart forces you to do so is that the feeling of pain suffered by your lover must be paid with the same quantum of pain suffered by the culprit.
It’s already been mentioned that the heart doesn’t deal in numbers and it deals in feelings. Hence the definition of fair for your heart in this case is to generate the same kind and same quantum of feeling that has been felt by the other native. Since it is a feeling of physical pain that your lover has, you’re also directed to have the same feeling in order to settle this equation. Comparing it to a balancing act of your brain, you hit someone’s car and you pay for the repairs. It means you try to balance out his loss by suffering loss yourself as you’re the one responsible for such loss. The other native accepts your money; and the equation is settled according to your brain.
Your heart is doing the same in this case, though in a different way. Since it feels the same pain like your lover did, when you hit the wall with your fist, it feels that it has paid for the damage and hence it relaxes. Kindly note that all feelings like joy and pain are dealt with by heart and hence the pain suffered by you will be felt by it; though the physical injury may be sustained by your hand. It is similar to the fact that all the numbers are primarily dealt with by your brain and this is the reason you offer compensation in numbers equal to the numbers corresponding to the loss suffered by the other party, when you hit his car with your car.
Hence your heart is also doing the same calculations; but with different variables as it is not dealing in numbers and it is instead dealing in feelings. You may keep hitting your fist against the wall, until your heart feels that the quantum of pain suffered by you is equal to or more than the quantum of pain suffered by your lover.
Coming back to the example where your moral-sense stops you from eating a lot of food, it may do so in a friendly manner and it may also ensure that your heart is also compensated in one way or another, instead of ignoring it. This is another difference between what your self-pride and moral-sense may do in this circumstance. This matter is finished for your self-pride as soon as you choose not to eat more, though it may not be finished for your heart. It means your heart may keep crying for more of this food item but your self-pride may not care at all and it may remain unaffected.
On the contrary, your moral-sense may mark the request of your heart as principal and it may assure your heart that due focus will be paid to it, at a relevant time. At this time, it is only an assurance and nothing else, but your heart knows that your moral-sense never makes false promises and hence it is happy to have this assurance. Your self-pride on the other hand is very good at making promises to your body, heart or even to your brain, in order to get done through them, what it wants, though it may almost never keep those promises. Self-pride is exceptionally good at creating illusions in order to get what it wants, as self-pride itself is nothing but a big illusion.
In fact, the biggest illusion in this world is self-pride and when it is said that the world is nothing but illusion, in the deepest sense it means that as long as you see it through your self-pride, it’s an illusion. In reality, there is no illusion in the world and the reason you find it illusionary is that the eyes you’re using to see this world are not the eyes of your moral-sense and they’re the eyes of your self-pride. The eyes of your heart and brain can also cast illusions though they’re smaller illusions. Imagine looking at a wall which has pure white colour on it. Consider you use four options to look at it and you wear black glass, green glasses, red glasses and then no glasses.
Accordingly, you may see this wall in different colours, depending on the colour of your glasses. Black glasses represent your self-pride and hence you’ll tend to add black to each and everything you see. It means you may find everything and everyone as your enemy and you’re only likely to find darkness in the end because your eyes are capable of seeing everything in black only. Though this wall is white, it may certainly look black or blackish to you, the opposite of what it is. That is the reason it is the worst kind of illusion as you’re seeing something which is the opposite of reality.
The green glasses represent your heart as green is the colour of life and your heart tries to find life in each and everything around it. Though this wall which means the world is white, you’ll see it as green. This may give you some advantage at the early stages because you may see things as beautiful as they are not in reality; which means you may assign much more value to natives and things, than they actually deserve. As you can understand, it may cause problems later on when you find out that the actual value of these natives and things is far less than what you assessed.
That is the reason heartly natives may feel happy at the beginning of each relationship or venture but they may end up suffering in the end, in many cases. Remember, the wall is white and the green colour is being imposed by you only, which means the illusion is being created by you and not by the wall. Hence the world has no illusion and these illusions are created by you only. That is the reason the title of this book says, ‘Heaven and Hell Within’ as your heaven and hell depend only on the fact, which glasses you are using and not on the outside world, which is merely a vision and nothing else.
Red is the colour of ambitions as well as that of aggression and that is the reason it perfectly suits brain. Brain is the one which wants to see material development and in order to do so, it keeps breaking things into smaller pieces. For example, it is brain which is responsible for reaching the atoms and electrons, by breaking an element into smaller and smaller units. Since it wants to achieve more, it is ambitious and since it breaks things down in order to do so; it is aggressive because breaking anything is an act of aggression.
The heart on the other hand believes in joining natives or things instead of breaking them as it enjoys the concept of a number of natives or things becoming one. That is the reason human relationships work better when handled by the heart compared to when handled by the brain as the former strengthens them by uniting natives whereas the latter spoils them as it tries to break them down into pieces. It means that instead of enjoying the company of natives, it starts analyzing their personalities more and more so that it may be aware about each and every shade of their personalities.
This can make such natives uncomfortable as no one wants other natives to dig deep into him or her and this also keeps you away from enjoying these relationships because you’re busy investigating all the time. Hence you’re seeing this wall as red whereas it is white in reality and this is what creates illusion once again. The world in reality is not illusionary and you’re trying to impose your illusions on it, just like you’re imposing red colour on this wall. In the end, this wall or so to say this world may refuse to be painted in your colour as they desire to have their own colours; and that is when you may call this world illusionary.
There are two ways you can call something illusionary. The first way is that you see something as it is and it then changes quickly as well as significantly, defying all the rules. Hence it becomes illusionary. In this case, this thing is to blame as it is casting this illusion and you’re doing nothing from your end to create this illusion. This is how you may think the world behaves as you don’t do anything to change it but it changes in ways which are not good for you.
The second way of something being illusionary is that the thing is behaving in the same manner from the start till the end, but you impose your expectations or wishes on it and hence you see it differently at different stages. Hence you call this thing illusionary as it keeps changing without obeying a fixed rule. For example, if you look at this white wall through all these glasses one by one and then without any glasses in the end, you may find it defying the rules and hence you may call it illusionary. This is because it keeps changing colours on its own even when no one is putting such colours on it. Since a wall is not supposed to change its colour on its own, it defies the rule and hence it becomes illusionary according to you.
However in reality, the wall has never changed its colour and it is the same white wall from the beginning till the end. The only thing that is happening here is your ignorance to this fact or to this rule that in order to see the true colour of this wall, you should not wear coloured glasses as the colour of those glasses will be imposed on the colour of the wall. However, as soon as the glasses go off, the wall becomes white again, which means it becomes illusionary for you.
Coming to the conclusion, in the first case, things are not what they appear to you and they change on their own. Since there’s no effort from your side, these things are to blame. This is the first kind of illusion where you’re innocent and the whole world is to blame. The second kind of illusion is that things never change in reality and your perception of them or the way you look at them or assess them at different stages is the only thing that changes. The end result is once again the same as things keep looking different to you at different stages and hence they creates illusions.
However in this case, things are innocent and only you’re responsible for such illusions. Though most natives think that they are trapped in the first kind of illusion; almost all of us are trapped in the second kind of illusion in reality; the one created by us and us alone. Going deeper, the first kind of illusion is there only in order to draw a relative comparison and it doesn’t exist in reality, at all. Hence there are no chances that anyone of us may fall into this kind of illusion. That leaves the second kind of illusion only, and this is the kind we all fall for. Let’s take an example related to this concept.
Consider you’re an heartly kind of female which means you’re wearing green glasses. You like a guy and you fall in love with him. The guy is great and everything looks perfect in the beginning. It all then starts changing and in a year or so, the guy becomes the opposite of what he was at the beginning. The relationship dissolves and you genuinely think that this guy is illusionary as he changed to the opposite kind in a year or so. This may be true according to you; but in reality, this may only be your version of truth and nothing else.
While falling in love with this guy, you saw everything in green which means you only looked for the positive things and you never paid focus to the negative things which were always present from the beginning. Being an heartly native, you either chose to ignore them or you even painted those negative things in green, which means you considered them positive things. Considering one such thing, consider you’re having a conversation with this guy at an early stage of this relationship. During the course of conversation; he tells you that he’s had ten broken relationships in the last eight years. He may then tell you that he thinks none of those girls was the one he was looking for and hence he saw no future in those relationships.
The way you see it with your green glasses is that the guy is right in doing so as he shouldn’t settle for something that doesn’t work for him. You give him points for honesty and going even farther, you assume on your own that you’re the one he’s looking for. You two engage in a relationship and you even start making plans for future. However, a time comes when you find him arguing more and more with you and you start feeling like he’s trying to run away from this relationship.
You do your best to save it but it comes to an end; and the only one to blame is this guy as you remained the same throughout this relationship and it is he alone, who changed in a negative way. Let’s explore some probabilities which may change the equation.
When this guy tells you that he’s walked out of ten relationships in eight years, doesn’t that ring a warning bell to you? Let’s remove those green glasses and let’s try to see things as they are. This guy may not be a bad guy but one thing is sure; he doesn’t like long term commitments and he tends to walk out of relationships after some time, though even he may not know it consciously and it may all happen unconsciously. It means it is his nature. Hence he may not intentionally try to walk out of relationships and such things may happen on the basis of circumstances, even according to him.
You may think what if this guy is actually a genuine guy and he was never responsible for any of those breakups? It can happen but the chances of that happening are one in hundred; and only a native with green glasses will opt to try his luck in favour of one against ninety nine; and then be sure that his one chance will certainly win every time. Coming to this guy, he has faced ten broken relationships with the average life of a relationship being less than one year. If he did his job fairly in all those cases; it only means one thing that all ten of those girls were bad ones or let’s say, not so good ones.
Do you really think if you meet ten different natives at different stages as well as in different circumstances, all ten of them may turn out bad? Has the world become so bad that there’s not even one native in every ten persons, who’s good? Before making any judgments, kindly pay focus to the fact that you checked certain basic things about these ten natives before engaging in relationships and you only engaged in relationships when most of those things worked in your favour. It means they passed the basic tests of being good natives and only after that, you decided to engage in relationships with them. Hence you took due time to assess them according to your level of wisdom and these natives were not randomly forced on you.
When you look at it like this, the equation changes. In fact, the equation always remains unchanged and only your viewpoint changes. These facts indicate that if a native spends time and effort in assessing ten different natives so that he may have relationships with them, the assessment is positive in all the cases, it remains positive for some months and then it suddenly starts turning negative in all the cases, the chances are high that these natives have not changed and the way he assesses them has changed.
This guy may not be a bad guy, but he may have the habit of walking out of relationships, though even he may not be consciously aware that he’s afraid of long term commitments. Accordingly, he assessed these ten women differently at different stages during these relationships and this was what changed everything. Taking one such case, at the beginning of a particular relationship, he is interested in having a relationship as this is the reason he is looking for someone, to start with.
As he’s interested in a relationship at this time or say he’s even eager to have a partner, his unconscious part of brain/mind may operate in a way that he may primarily be able to focus on the good habits of the women he meets or dates. This happens because he keeps wishing for a partner; and this wish sends a request to his unconscious part of brain/mind again and again, which says a partner is required at the earliest. The way his unconscious part of brain/mind understands it or even the way this request has been given by his conscious part of brain/mind at this time is that a partner is required; and there are no specific and principal tags attached to this wish.
This means his primary wish is to have a partner at the earliest and it is not that he either needs a suitable partner or he doesn’t require a partner at all. There’s a big difference between these two wishes and the unconscious part of brain/mind is smart enough to spot this difference at the earliest. Through the first wish, he’s primarily asking for a partner at the earliest and the kind of partner becomes secondary. However through the second wish, he’s primarily asking for a suitable partner and the time taken to do this job is secondary.
Accordingly, his unconscious part of brain/mind gives priority to the time factor in case of the first wish whereas it gives priority to the personality of the partner in the second case. Whatever may your wish be, your unconscious part of brain/mind may make you behave in ways that such wish may be fulfilled; and you may not be aware of the entire process. Since his wish is the first one, which means he wants to have a partner at the earliest, his unconscious part of brain/mind assigns more importance to the time factor and less importance to the personality of the partner.
As a result, it makes some changes to his behaviour pattern or so to say, it puts a specific kind of glasses on his eyes, the glasses which can help him fulfil his wish. As he starts meeting girls, he tends to spot the good things they have at the earliest whereas he tends to ignore the negative things in them or so to say, he may not even spot many of them at this stage. This is happening because if he pays equal amount of focus to the negative habits also; more and more girls may be rejected on the basis of different negative habits that he may not like; and the process of having a partner may be delayed. Since time is the primary factor for this wish, his unconscious part of brain/mind distracts him when it comes to spot their negative habits and it fixes his focus more on their good habits.
As you can understand, it is the shortest possible way to get a partner because he’s only looking at the good habits they have and almost everyone has good habits in them, though everyone may have negative habits also. This is not all and there’s more. In order to make sure that the girl he likes also likes him so that the result may be achieved at the earliest, his unconscious part of brain/mind may make changes to his behaviour, once again without his conscious knowledge.
As a result, he starts liking what this girls likes and he starts enjoying what she enjoys so that both of them have things in common, which help building a relationship at the earliest. Kindly note that in general, he may not like doing some of these things and this is a temporary adjustment made by his unconscious part of brain/mind in order to fulfil his wish at the earliest. Since this is happening without his conscious knowledge, even he may not know why he is liking or engaging in things which he generally doesn’t like or engage in.
For example, he may not have much liking for dancing in general. However, when this girl asks him for a dance, he may gladly do so and he may not even notice this change in his behaviour as this action has been carried out by his unconscious part of brain/mind. The entire focus of his unconscious part of brain/mind at this stage is to get him a girlfriend at the earliest and it may do anything in its power to achieve this objective. Since the unconscious part of brain/mind is very powerful, it may succeed in getting him a girlfriend at the earliest, by hook or by crook. As soon as that happens, his wish is fulfilled and things start getting back to normal or natural.
Over a period of time, he may develop a new wish which is to maintain this relationship and this wish is forwarded to the unconscious part of brain/mind. As a result, some adjustments are once again made to his behaviour patterns on temporary basis, and these adjustments make sure that he keeps doing things which are required to maintain a healthy relationship with this girl. This is what he wished for and this is what his unconscious part of brain/mind is blessing him with. Hence his focus may still be fixed on her positive habits and he may also try to keep his negative habits under check; though he may do so unconsciously.
At the next stage, the girl may start getting very close to him and she may even start giving hints about her future plans which include concepts like having a family together. As he doesn’t desire this at all deep down, there are only two options left for him at this point. The first option is that he should tell this girl straight away that he doesn’t desire to plan for future at this time and he can’t even say when he may be ready for such planning. Consider he chooses this option, the girl doesn’t like it as this is in opposition to what she wants; and the relationship ends.
The second option is that according to his basic nature, he may not feel comfortable facing this circumstance in a direct way as it may bring him the kind of blames he may not like. For example, if he says it straight away, the girl may blame him for using her and she may be the one who may walkout after cursing him. If this is what he’s not comfortable with, he may desire another way out. Hence a new wish is created and forwarded to his unconscious part of brain/mind. This wish says he wants to get out of this relationship but he doesn’t desire to be the one who bears all the blame for the breakup.
As this wish is registered, his unconscious part of brain/mind starts working on it and once again, certain specific behaviour changes are made to his basic nature. This is the time when his unconscious part of brain/mind gives him a different pair of glasses which enable him to spot the negative habits of this girl at the earliest and these glasses don’t focus much on the good habits. When that happens, he may suddenly start discovering so many negative habits of hers, which he was so far unaware of. As that happens, he starts liking this girl less and less, and this is where this relationship enters its final phase.
Kindly note that this guy may not pretend to have discovered all such negative things about this girl only at this stage; and he may be right in saying so; at least consciously. In order to fulfil his previous wishes related to this girl, his unconscious part of brain/mind made him oblivious to the negative habits of this girl. Hence he may not have much awareness about many of her negative habits so far. As his wish has changed now and the new wish needs him to find more and more negative habits of this girl, in order for this wish to be fulfilled; things change.
His unconscious part of brain/mind starts making him aware of all those negative habits of this girl, which were there right from the beginning but he was never able to see them as his vision was blocked by his unconscious part of brain/mind, in order to fulfil his wishes during those times. As he finds out more and more negative habits of this girl and as he starts complaining about them, tension starts building. The arguments become intense with each passing day and a day comes when they decide to breakup. His wish is again fulfilled and he’s not the only one to be blamed for this breakup as the girl also has her contribution through her negative habits.
This is how you can have different points of view about the same native or thing at different times, based on what kind of glasses you are wearing, which means how you desire to see them at those times, deep down. The girl may be shocked at his changed behaviour because she had all those negative habits from the beginning and she might not even have tried to hide them. What she may not understand is that why is this guy mentioning all those negative habits at this stage and why was he fine with them so far? She may feel like this guy has intentionally used her though he may have used her; unintentionally or unconsciously at the most.
As this guy walks out of this relationship, he may think that this girl was not the right kind of girl for him and the relationship has broken, primarily on account of her negative habits and not because of him. This assurance makes him worthy of falling in love again or so to say, worthy of having a relationship once again. Boosted by this assurance, he may soon start wishing for one more relationship and the process may start again. This keeps happening and this way, he may walk out of ten relationships in eight years; and it was never his fault according to his conscious part of brain/mind.
Kindly note that if this guy chooses to go with the first option which is to tell his girlfriends straight away after eight to ten months that he doesn’t desire a long term relationship and hence they should split; he may not be able to have ten or even five relationships. If he tells his first girlfriend that there’s nothing wrong with her but he still wants to walk out of the relationship as this is how he is; the girl may accuse him of using her and she may say a number of bad things before the breakup. She may also add this specific clause that if he doesn’t like long term relationships, he should have made it clear before getting into the relationship. She may add that by hiding this fact, he has cheated her and she may also spread bad words about him.
Hence he may face a lot of negative energy which he duly deserves and this negative energy may give birth to a conscious kind of guilt. Kindly note that conscious guilt is the one which rises from a negative act which you do consciously and you regret it later on. On the other hand, unconscious guilt is the one which rises from a negative act which you do unconsciously or indirectly and you may not have any conscious regret for such act. Another fact to be understood is that whenever there’s a guilt of any kind; it has to be balanced out in some way through an action of the opposite kind; sooner or later.
Conscious guilt needs conscious actions to be balance out and unconscious guilt needs unconscious actions to be balance out. Since conscious guilt is completely in your knowledge right from the moment the act which caused it was done; it becomes very difficult to live with conscious guilt. Hence you may feel consciously pressurized to do something in order to balance it out and at the same time; you may find it difficult to repeat the same kind of act in future; at least consciously.
When it comes to unconscious guilt, it is caused on account of acts which contain negativity in a hidden way and hence you don’t become consciously aware of such negativity. It means you’re consciously not bothered about such acts. Hence you can afford to take much more time to balance them out and at the same time; it may also be possible to repeat the acts which caused such guilt. That is the reason most natives choose to engage in unconscious acts of negativity as conscious acts of negativity can make it difficult for them to live happily or even difficult to live at times. Let’s try to understand this concept with the help of a real life circumstance.
Consider you borrow an amount of money from a friend and you promise to return it at the earliest. Consider you have a personality kind which features a negative habit that encourages you not to return money to anyone; whenever you borrow it. This means you may borrow money; you may make promise to return it but you may never return it; thereby breaking your promise. This act of not returning money or breaking your promise can be done in two ways; the conscious way as well as the unconscious way. Let’s look at both these ways.
If you choose to go through the conscious way; you borrow money from your friend and as soon as he asks for it for the very first time; you tell him straight away that you’re not going to return it ever as this is what you feel like doing. Since you’re engaging in it in a conscious way; everything has to come out loud and clear. As that happens, your friend may tell you a number of negative things as he feels like being betrayed. This may not stop here and he may start telling all the common friends that you borrowed money and then you straight away refused to return it.
As a result, a number of other friends may start convincing or pressurizing you to return his money. When that happens, you’re left with two choices; the first one is to return his money as you may find it difficult to handle the pressure created by your friends. All this is happening consciously and hence you’re aware that if you choose to tell all these friends that you’re not going to return money no matter what comes; you may end up losing all these friends. Hence it is a conscious negative act and you’re facing a conscious punishment if you don’t balance it out at the earliest. So the first option is to balance it out through an act of repayment and when that happens, things may get back to normal though it may take some time.
It means you may return this money, you may apologize and you may promise not to do so again. Even if you don’t make one such promise, you may simply not be able to do it again; even if you desire to. This is because through this act; you’ve faced a lot of negative energy in the form of insult as well as social disgrace and in addition to that, you have had to return the money also. Hence this circumstance results in all around losses where you don’t gain anything and you lose what you already have. It means you don’t get to keep the money and you face so much trouble at the same time. Your brain as well as your self-pride may find it very easy to convince you that such acts should not be repeated in future as they may bring losses only. Hence you may stop engaging in such acts.
Another option that you may choose in the same case is not to return this money; no matter what. If you do that, you may end up losing most of your friends and well-wishers though you may still keep the money. Even in this case, you may find it very difficult to repeat this act because you’ve understood well through the first act of the same kind; that the losses brought by one such act are much bigger than the profits. Hence you may choose not to engage in such kind of acts in future. You see, how conscious guilt can help you stay away from negative habits.
Let’s now look at the same act when negativity is created through the unconscious part of brain/mind. In this case, you may borrow money from your friend, you may promise to return it at the earliest but you may almost never return it. When your friend asks you to return this money; you may come up with an excuse that you’re financially very tight at this time and you require more time to arrange this money.
Kindly note that your intention is the same in this case also; which means you don’t desire to return this money; but the operation is being carried out by your unconscious part of brain/mind; and that changes everything. Your unconscious part of brain/mind is smart enough to know that if you refuse to return this money straight away, the consequences may be very bad. The reason your unconscious part of brain/mind may know this fact is that you might have consciously engaged in such acts in this life or in one of your recent past lives. When you did so, you might have faced one of the already mentioned two consequences.
Since you ended up suffering a lot; no matter which one of those options you chose; it created an principal memory on your unconscious part of brain/mind. Based on your personality kind; this memory or knowledge helps you do one of the two things. If you’re an overall positive native at this time; this awareness encourages you to stay away from such negative acts as you may have to face problems later on. All this is happening on the level of your unconscious part of brain/mind and hence you may have no conscious knowledge about the reasons on account of which your unconscious part of brain/mind is telling you to stay away from such acts.
On the other hand, if you’re an overall negative native at this time, you may still desire to engage in this negative act despite the warnings issued by your unconscious part of brain/mind. However at the same time, you may also desire to avoid the problems which may be caused by this act. Hence you forward a specific request to your unconscious part of brain/mind in this case; that you wish to engage in this act but you don’t wish to face problems later on; or such problems should be the minimum in quantum. When that happens, your unconscious part of brain/mind starts acting on this request and it takes control of the entire operation.
This is what is happening in the second case of unconscious fraud, being discussed. It means you’ve already faced problems through one such act; you don’t desire to face those problems again and at the same time; you do wish to engage in such acts again and again. Hence when your friend asks for his money; you may present an excuse and you may ask for more time.
It is interesting to note that since the operation has been taken over by your unconscious part of brain/mind; even you may not be consciously aware at this stage that you don’t wish to return his money. You may instead feel that you’re willing to return his money but you don’t have it now. Hence you may find yourself genuinely short of money on conscious level and that may help you look genuine when making this excuse; but only on conscious level. It means in your conscious awareness, you may only be telling him the truth when you say you don’t have sufficient money at this time and hence he may buy your excuse.
However deep down, your unconscious part of brain/mind is working on this job and it may not let you have sufficient money at any point in time. This doesn’t mean you may not have this amount of money at all; it only means your unconscious part of brain/mind may keep introducing such distractions from time to time; that you may consciously feel like not having sufficient money to spare. For example, though you may witness a raise in salary which may enable you to return the money in three to four installments; your unconscious part of brain/mind may not let you do so by creating distractions and here is one of them.
As soon as your salary is raised; your wife may start demanding for a car for her as she may find it very difficult to manage her affairs without a car. She may give a number of fair reasons in support of her require for this car. Hence you may conclude that her require is genuine and so it should be taken care of, at the earliest. Accordingly, you may get a new car financed and the increment in salary may be consumed in monthly installments for this car. While doing all this; you may consciously think that you’re doing the right thing and you have no intentions of doing anything bad to your friend.
Your unconscious part of brain/mind may tell your conscious part of brain/mind that the require of your wife at this time is much bigger than the require of your friend. The former may even supply you with the information that your friend already has so much money to spare with and hence he can afford to wait for some months whereas the problem that your wife is facing is critical and hence she may not be able to manage her affairs without a car. Everything is justified according to you and hence there is no conscious guilt of not returning your friend’s money even when you could have.
However, this is only an illusion created by your unconscious part of brain/mind and you’re being fooled by it. In reality, your wife is facing the same problems for the last five years and she’s been able to manage everything; though with some difficulty. Hence the thought that she may not be able to manage without a car any longer; is your way of fooling yourself or so to say; it is the way through which your unconscious part of brain/mind is assuring you that you’re not doing anything wrong by choosing not to return your friend’s money.
This is just one excuse and your unconscious part of brain/mind may keep creating more and more excuses as and when they’re required. As a result, you may neither return his money nor you may tell your friend straight away that you’re not going to return it at all. You keep presenting genuine looking excuses for delay as that helps you in many ways. Looking at one such benefit; your friend may understand with the passage of time that you don’t wish to return this money and based on his personality kind; he may choose to react differently. Let’s discuss two options for the sake of this example.
If he’s an overall positive native; he may stop asking for this money as he may realize that even if he keeps asking you; it is not going to make any difference. Hence he may stop asking you about this money. If he chooses to do so; the pressure is lifted and you’re free from this burden on conscious level; though it may create guilt of high quantum on unconscious level. However, as this guilt is created on unconscious level; it can’t bother you directly or consciously; and it may only keep giving you a feeling of guilt every once in a while; especially when you meet this friend.
In order to avoid this feeling of guilt; you may unconsciously choose to move away from this friend so that you may not have to face him again and you may be saved from this guilt in future. Your unconscious part of brain/mind may help you with this job and it may do so in many ways. For example, you may start finding negative things about your friend in order to convince yourself that he’s not worthy of being your friend and hence you’re doing the right thing by choosing to move away from him.
All this is happening on unconscious level and hence you may feel it happening automatically. It means you may not think that you’re creating those negative habits or exaggerating them; you may instead think that you’ve discovered them recently. As you attach more and more negative attributes to your friend, your decision to move away is justified and at the same time; the guilt for not returning his money also lowers. This is because he is a bad native now and choosing to do something bad to a bad native is not that bad; according to you.
Some specific kinds of negative acts which may help you out are the ones where your friend engages in some kind of financial disputes with other parities. For example, it may come to your notice that a client of your friend has filed a complaint against him and this complaint says that he has delivered him goods which are less in value than he paid for. It is interesting to note that even if this claim is absolutely false, you may certainly consider it as a true claim as doing so brings benefits to you. Now you have the reason to think that your friend cheats other natives for money; hence he’s not a good native and you should move away from him.
You may also think that you should not return his money as by doing so; you may teach him a lesson as to how it feels when you cheat someone for money. It means you’re trying to deliver justice by cheating him for money in order to balance out his act of cheating someone else for money. As you do that; you keep money and at the same time; you’re free from any kind of conscious guilt also. You see, how your unconscious part of brain/mind can turn everything to your advantage; though it only does so when you wish. It means your unconscious part of brain/mind can help you achieve hell as well as heaven but it doesn’t make that choice. This choice or desire comes from your conscious part of brain/mind and your unconscious part of brain/mind only helps fulfil this desire, whatever it may be at any time.
For example, if your unconscious part of brain/mind is an airplane and your conscious part of brain/mind is the pilot; this is what the former may do for you. If you choose the worst location for this airplane to land; this airplane will land you at that place or so to say, it may crash at that place as landing may not be available there; for such place may be hell. Similarly, if you choose a very good location, it may land you at that beautiful place and this place may be considered as heaven. Though it is the airplane which has landed you in hell or heaven in both these cases; you can neither blame it for going to hell nor can you appreciate it for taking you to heaven.
This is because the airplane is a medium and it only does what the pilot wishes it to do. Hence the good or bad choices are being made by the pilot and the airplane is only helping him achieve his objectives; whether good or bad. In the same way, your conscious part of brain/mind makes all the choices and your unconscious part of brain/mind helps in fulfilling them. Hence whether it creates good or bad for you; is none of its business and the credit as well as the discredit; all goes to your conscious part of brain/mind.
Therefore, if you don’t desire your unconscious part of brain/mind to create hell for you; stop creating such conscious wishes which end up in bringing hell to you. As long as you keep creating such wishes; your unconscious part of brain/mind will keep helping you fulfil them and you may have to face negative consequences. On the other hand, if you keep creating positive wishes through your conscious part of brain/mind, your unconscious part of brain/mind will help you achieve them also and hence it may bring heaven to you through them. Whether you desire heaven or hell is your conscious choice and your unconscious part of brain/mind is there to help you fulfil your wishes; whichever kind they may be.
So choose your wishes or desires wisely as they’re the ones which decide your future. That is the reason the desire element lies at the root of the theory of Karma as well as at the root of your entire personality as your unconscious part of brain/mind starts working in order to fulfil your desires; as soon as they’re created. Choosing to create negative desires means ending up in hell, choosing to create positive desires means ending up in heaven and choosing to have no desires of your own at all; means ending up being liberated.
The best thing is that you have the power as well as the right to control your desires and through the kind of desires you create; you have the right to control hell, heaven or liberation which may come your way.
Himanshu Shangari