Hence if you have this habit, you should start working to get rid of it. Let’s look at some conscious activities which can help you get rid of this habit. The basic principle is to do the opposite of what greed encourages you to do. Since it encourages you to collect, you should start giving away. Hence you should start with small acts of kindness where you give away parts of what you possess.
Start by giving away small amounts of your possessions like money and then build up from there. Stick to the guideline which says that at any level, you should attempt tasks which are somewhat but not a lot more difficult than what you can handle. If you try to give away a lot in the beginning, your subconscious may pose strong resistance and you may fail.
As you engage in repeated conscious acts of kindness and sharing, such acts may send messages to your subconscious that you wish to share/release your possessions. With repeated acts and time, such messages may start replacing the script of greed on your subconscious and they may start writing the script of kindness. Since kindness and greed lie in opposition to each other, their sum total within you is always 100. It means if you’re 80% greedy, you’re 20% kind. As the percentage of kindness increases, the percentage of greed decreases.
Hence you don’t need to focus on not being greedy and you need to concentrate on being kind, as kindness alone will kill greed. It is like if a room is filled with darkness, you don’t need to think about how to get such darkness out of the room. You simply need to find ways to bring light to the room. Light and darkness always amount to a total of 100, when added. It means if a room is 100% dark, there is no light. If it is 80% dark, there may be 20% light. Looking at the other extreme, when it is 100% filled with light, there may be no place for darkness. Hence don’t try to fight darkness and try to bring light as the latter will take care of darkness on its own.
As you engage in more and more conscious acts of kindness and sharing, the script of kindness may become stronger. When that happens, the script of greed may become weaker. Whenever you become comfortable with a level, increase the resistance gradually. This way, you can start with small acts of kindness and you can build up to significant acts of kindness, with time and conscious efforts. Finally a stage may reach when you may turn kind; and unhealthy amounts of greed may leave you.
This is when you may share a lot with your loved ones as well as with other people. When that happens, the quality of your life may improve a lot. Since you’re willing to share money and resources with your wife and children, your relationships with them may improve. It is not about money alone and it is much more than that. When you choose to give priority to money over your loved ones, you send them a message that they don’t mean much to you. This is because money is dead and it is not alive.
Hence when you choose to give priority to a dead thing over living people, you convey to them that they have no value for you. By default, everyone wants to be of value to the people he’s with. When your wife and children feel that they have no special place in your life, their subconscious minds may reciprocate this behavior of yours. It means you may stop having any special place in their lives also.
On the other hand, when you share a lot with them, you convey to them that they are much more important to you than dead things like money and resources. Their subconscious minds receive this message that you value them a lot. Accordingly, they reciprocate by assigning a lot of value to you. Hence they may start loving you more and respecting you a lot more. Respect always needs to be earned and you can never get it through any other way.
Being too greedy may restrict you also, when you try to spend money and resources in order to enjoy good things in life. That may deteriorate the quality of your life. As you start being kind to other people, you become kind to yourself also. Hence you may start spending money on yourself also. This may improve the quality of your life since you may now be able to enjoy a lot of things that you couldn’t enjoy earlier; because of being too greedy.
Apart from sharing money, you can share a number of other possessions you may have. The idea here is to share and give away. Since money is the most valuable possession among non-living things, being able to give it away means you may be able to give away almost everything. This is why sharing or giving away money may prove more helpful. However, you can share other possessions also, as doing so may help.
With time and repeated efforts, you may become less and less greedy; and you may become kinder and kinder. Finally, you may reach a stage where you don’t have to put conscious effort in order to be kind, as you may become naturally (subconsciously) kind. It means the script of greed has been replaced by the script of kindness.
When that happens, you may have to put conscious effort if you wish to be greedy, because the script of kindness may pose resistance. This message has been conveyed many times that whatever you write on your subconscious, it may act according to that. There is no right or wrong for the subconscious and it only believes in executing/expressing what it has.
Hence choose wisely what you write on your subconscious. Through your own conscious efforts, you can make your subconscious your friend or enemy. However in both the cases, the choice is always yours and not that of your subconscious mind. Hence don’t blame it if bad things happen to you, because you’re the one who created them and you’re the only one who can stop and replace them with good things, through your conscious efforts.
Himanshu Shangari